Homeschool vs public school

United States
April 19, 2008 8:54pm CST
I am a mother of 3, my oldest being just about 5. My dilemma comes from her intelligence. She is amazingly smart. She can read, knows all her numbers, letters, colors, sounds, animals, can write her name, knows a lot of science facts, etc. She wants to go to school to make new friends (we are also new to the state) but Iknow my husband and I both (in different schools growing up) were bored out of our minds, and I think she is smarter than either of us. She learns a lot of things at home. She sits well with me while I teach her things, there is no problem with that at all. There is also a lot of things i plan on getting her involved with, just as soon as i do the research needed before picking a scout troop, dance class, sport, etc (some, maybe not all of those things, whatever she wants to do. So socialization wont be a huge deal once that is all said and done. The school system here is good tho, from what ive heard. They have a "Your Choice" policy with public schools, you can send your kids to any of the area schools, as long as there is room, district residents get first choice of course. Most ppl try to send their kids to our towns schools. I am just at a loss, it seems there are good points and bad points to both. I am looking for peoples opinions on what they might do in my situation. Any help?
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• United States
21 Apr 08
I am a homeschooler, so my response is biased. But I think you should really weigh out your options, and make the decision that you feel is the best for your daughter. If she is learning and developing well, without public education interfering with her, then I say keep it up. If she's lonely and wants to make some new friends, you could check out your local library. Homeshoolers often meet up there on a regular basis, as well as post their meetings on the bulletin board. Another great place is the YMCA, ours has a homeschoolers gym and swim once a week. You could also check online, to the mommy and me play groups. They often meet up once a month at a park, or some other recreation site. Sometimes they meet more often then that, it all depends on the activity and size of the group. There's tons of stuff out there to get involved in to meet her social needs. Bottom line, do what's best for her. Anytime I have to make a very important decision I weigh out the pros and cons on paper. Take a blank sheet and draw a big T. On the top left write pros, top right write cons. Then under the line, list all the things you can come up with. This way you have a visual. Also, on the cons side, after you write something, think of possible solutions. Such as you write socializing: YMCA, 4H, Church group, Library, etc... That way you can see if it really is a con or if it is just a reservation you have. If it is just a reservation, network with other homeschoolers to find out how they cope with, or handle the issue. I hope this answered your question. Please feel free to ask anymore you have.
• United States
21 Apr 08
Thank you so much for your response! And very cute user name btw hehe. I think that is really good advise you gave. I will do that. Like i said, there are a lot of things for kids in this area,i just have to finish researching costs, ages, and match it all up with her interests. I am not sure how your family felt when you decided to homeschool, but a lot of my reservations come from others opinions. My husband and i both think it would be best for her to be homeschooled, but my mother, his mother, etc all think we should just do what everyone else does so that she can be "normal", know what i mean? As bad as this sounds, i guess im just looking for justification to continue doing what we think is best. I expected the opposite response from people on here, and i might still get it, but your post gave me the courage to look into it past "just and idea." Thank you so much!
• United States
22 Apr 08
Fortunately most of my family was very supportive. But for those that weren't it was only a matter of time before they became supportive. My only advice in that area, as allow them the right to disagree with you, and give them time. Connect with as many home school families you can to get the support and justification you need. I can refer you to some really great online homeschool groups. Or you can search Yahoo groups, add your area in there to find some local to you. They may meet up occasionally for meetings, outings, and field trips. peace and blessings!