Do you ever feel guilty?
April 20, 2008 7:41am CST
Do you ever feel guilty that perhaps you are moaning about things, that are not such a big deal? I do sometimes. Especially when you hear stories of people, who may have health issues/lost their limbs/maybe lost their jobs etc, but they are still smilling and making most of what they have. Or moaning about I don't have this or that. If only I would have this and that I would be happy? Why are we like that? I know we always (well most of us) try to better ourselves but still... In Jan I lost my dad to cancer. He had so many health issues throughout his life, but not once he would complain about his life. He couldn't work because of his health, but he still remained positive. People always stopped and chat with him, because he had such a positive attitude. My parents divorced when I was 3, so I didn't know him as much as I would want to. Once he was in a hospital and he caught MRSA. They had to ampute his leg from knee down. That didnt stop him from carry on as normal. I left it to late to tell him that I care about him. I live in another country, so I only saw him few times a year. But we would always write to each other. He died a day before I flew home. Since than I feel I should not postpone things and live for today, because you don't know what tomorrow will be like. Also since than even when Im sad or not happy I remind myself, that I want to be positive and make most of each day. But still I catch myself moaning about this and that. ;-)
20 Apr 08
Others may be going through difficult harder times compared to our own moans but when my friend lost her husband to cancer I mentioned how I felt guilty for moaning and she said to me it doesnt matter they might not be as a huge as what she was going through but still they were hard and difficult for me so I had every right to moan. We all need and deserve a little moan about things now and again as bottling it up inside doesnt help anyone.
20 Apr 08
i do appreciate the positive and brave people you mentioned. they are like a model i like watching smily faces, and try to wear a smile all day long. believe it or not, it makes you happy even though when you are pretending. and it is contagious making people around you happy too. it's a benigh cycle complaing life is okay, mayby it helps releave stress. no need to feel guilty,imo. just try to be positive or pretend it !