How could I come back to be a happy girl?

China
April 21, 2008 12:16am CST
Last month my boyfriend told me that he would get married soon,which surprise me a lot .Because I thought he would marry me .By the way,he worked far from my school, even lived in another city. Now I am very confused about how could everything happen,and I don't know what to do? I am alaways thinking of him. think of the happy time we spent together.
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@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
hi ava1982! im so sorry to hear your story. you must be hurting a lot right now. ive been in a similar situation a few months back. my advice for you is to be strong. bask in your loneliness now, i think you need time to grieve over him. but after a while, pick up the broken pieces of your heart and start your life again. be thankful that God has given you a chance to have him. maybe there are reasons why he didnt stay in your life for that long. someone out there who would really love and take care of you will come soon into your life. stop focusing on what happened rather think of your future. this is the time to discover more of yourself- your talents and potentials. this is the time to spend with your family and friends. time heals all wounds. im hoping that you would be happy soon. thank you.
• China
22 Apr 08
Thank u 4 your answer, it really help me .i would heal myself little by little.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
19 Jul 08
It doesn't sound like your boyfriend was as faithful as you thought he was. Apparently you seemed to be the one who really was in love. I am sorry that you were done this way. But it happens to the best of us. Just remember the good times, and move on. There are so many more people out there to capture your heart. You just have to careful not to get attached to the wrong one on the rebound. Our hearts can fool us at times when we have been so badly hurt.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
6 May 08
Life has a tendency to throw unexpected events into our paths. I'm not sure if you are still in contact with this guy. All you can really do, if you still want to be with himm is to tell him that you miss him and ask him to consider being with you. If he doesn't want to do that, you have no other choice but to move on. I know it is painful at first, but keep living your life and doing the things that you normally do. Try to remember that the misery is only temporary and eventually you will feel better. It might not feel like that now, but you will feel better. You might even meet a better guy when you least expect it.
• United States
22 Apr 08
It is said that one door closes, a window gets opened. I have to believe this. I was married for quite a few years and had three children. When my marriage broke up, I was sure I wouldn't meet anybody that I loved as much as I did him. I then met a man whom I married and was very happy. We ended up just friends after 10 years. I then met my current husband, the best yet. I know it seems like you will never find love like this again, but maybe it's better you don't find love like this one again, it didn't work. Look towards the future and keep your options (and your windows) open. Most of all, don't give up. No!!! man (or woman) is worth throwing your life away. Something or somebody always comes along, and it's usually better than what you missed.
• China
21 Apr 08
I am so sorry to hear that.But i think you should be optimistic. 1.If he really love you,he would not leave you.But he did it and never think about you.He is not worth your love. 2.If you could not forget him,you should regard him as your nice recollection.Assume that you married him,you live together,you would find that he has a lt of shortcomings,and he isn't the perfect one as you thought. He loved you and made you happy that time,now let him and your happy time become your recollection.You will be happy when you remember it some time. Never forget that you are a happy girl.
• China
21 Apr 08
Sorry to hear that. I was also surprised. How could he marry another one when he was your boyfriend at that time without telling you before. But, anyway, he had his own choice and we can say nothing about him. As for you, just be happy and enthusiastic as you were before. Such is life that everything can happen and we have no choice but to accept. Keep smiling and keep moving forward. We need to be strong enough in confronting everything out of your control and your imagination. He is wrong, definitely, and is not worth your true love. Step out of the sad memory and you will be a happy girl again. Wish you happy^_^
@Hatley (164347)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Apr 08
ava I am sorry that your boyfriend led you on and then did that to you.but take comfort in this,if he was that fickle you are better off finding out now rather than afterwards. now youhave a chance to find the love of a good man who will be there for you always and I bet you any thing that he is out there somewhere. You will find him and you will be a happy girl again.