Scared

United States
April 21, 2008 2:45pm CST
Is it normal to feel scared when it is close to time to have a baby? I have already had one daughter but she came very unexpectedly and early so I never had time to get too anxious or worried. Was anyone else Uneasy, nervous or even scared when they knew labor was not far off?
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
21 Apr 08
i was nervous when i knew it was getting closer to the time my children where going to be born. i know now that being that nervous and scared is not a good way to be because it effects the baby. i know now that i have to live in the moment and allow every moment be a blessing with out dwelling on the future and the past. You and your baby are going to be just fine
• United States
21 Apr 08
I am not like making myself crazy over it or anything its probably more anxious than anything. I guess it makes sense to be a little uneasy though. Its not like its a quick painless process. All I remembered after the last one is the feeling I got when they handed her to me for the first time.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
21 Apr 08
then that is what you should focus on. that feeling. that feeling of joy and love when seeing your child for the first time. don't worry, focus on that and you being nervous or scared goes away
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Oh yes, I'd have to say it is normal. Not only was I scared, but I was nervous and worried too when I was pregnant with my first son. The closer the due date was the worse I got. But then the day came and he was born and I wondered why I had felt so freaked out to begin with.
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• United States
22 Apr 08
I am past my due date so I am like a walking time bomb. LOL I never really had a chance with my first to get scared or nervous like this because she came early and very quickly. I had an awful delivery the first time and I think that is what is making me so uneasy.
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@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
yes, it's really normal..when i was pregnant, i'm scared with lots of stories about labor stage, that is really really so painful, yes, i already know that feeling..but what i'm thinking is that i want to see me child inside my womb..scared at the same time so excited the time will come that i can see my child..good luck to you and wishing you a nice labor day..God Bless
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• United States
22 Apr 08
I guess it is normal to be scared. You know the horrendous pain is on its way you just dont know when. Then there are always little things that can go wrong. I am just so ready to have this baby its ridiculous.
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@kezabelle (2985)
21 Apr 08
Both times i knew in advance the day I would be going in to have my girls and yes I was really nervous the first because it was all unknown the second because I knew how much it would hurt and cos my first daughter spent her first few days in NICU despite being full term so we were really worried and nervous but i think thats normal anyway even if everything is ok. Good luck and I hope your baby is with you soon with as little pain as is possible in child birth! xxxx
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Thank you for your reassurance. I had a bad delivery with my oldest and I guess I am thinking it will be the same this time. I hope things go smooth and easy. Thanks for the reassurance.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Of course hun. I know when I got close, I thought of all kinds of things. Having another child in your life for one is a lot to bear. But everyone gets a little scared because they want a healthy baby.Explain your concerns to your Dr, they will reassure that things are going to be fine. you will be in my thoughts and paryers.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
I am already past my due date so hopefully I will go into labor before I even have to see the doctor again. I guess a lot of it comes from having a really bad delivery with my first daughter so I am just a little uneasy. I hope thats what it is and not my "spidey" senses telling me something is not right.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Apr 08
Somehow I just took the attitude that millions of women had survived having babies and that I lived in the USA with modern medicine and that I would be OK. I guess I could just have easily gotten worried about all the women who had complications, etc., but I didn't. But from talking to other people, it's very normal. Have you read any of the 'what to expect' books? I think they are very helpful in putting worries to rest.
• United States
21 Apr 08
Well, I havent read any of them because like I said I already have had one child. I dont know though for some reason labor is just really scary to me this time. I guess because I had a pretty rough delivery the first time. I am sure being past my due date and knowing its literally any time now doesn't help either.
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@maricx (2)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
yes i think it's normal, especially if it's the first time that you'll give birth. like you, i already gave birth to a boy and he also came unexpectedly coz he was premature that time. I think you feel scared because you're worried of the pain of giving birth and also about the condition of your baby, if he's gonna be healthy or what.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Yes. I was very scared when I had my first and only child. I was very scared because I really did not know what to expect and I was so scared of the pain that I would be in and I was also scared that he or she may not come out healthy also. I think it is very normal to be scared of it.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
3 May 08
oh Congratulations on the impending birth of your new little one. Yes, I think it is normal to be a bit frightened. The unknown is always a tad unsettling, even if you have been through it before, each birthing is different and each child is different. you are thinking about the labor and the complications that might arise, will you have to have surgery - the health of the infant etc. not to mention concerns for the child's future and every little other thing that comes to mind. you are very preoccupied right now with the thoughts of the birth and the change in your life as well as the lifes' of those around you. perfectly normal I think it helps us to better prepare for the babe's coming.
28 Apr 08
oh yes it is hunni, i think it is perfectly normal i mean no 2 births are ever the same, I remember being terrified with my second child as i had such a traumatic birth with my first that i thought it would be just the same again. Fotunatly it was a lot easier and quicker. Try not to let it get to you too much hunni, im sure all will be fine but you are bound to have reservations. good luck and i wish you all the best.
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Oh yeah, it is totally normal to be scared. Even if you have given birth before you never know how the next one is going to be. Just like every child is different, every pregnancy and delivery is different too. Plus, you never feel like you are prepared enough. There is always something you feel like you're not ready for! Good luck with the next delivery and I hope all is smooth sailing for you.
@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Apr 08
I think thats very normal as I was scared the first time I was pregnant as I did not really know just what to expect although I had read a number of books. My first pregnancy went very smoothly and I had very little pain not nearly as much as I had envisioned at all. I was a little better prepared for my second pregnancy and was dismayed when the induction took much too long.My child was brain damaged because the doctor reefusedd to do a caesarian section that was needed and she was without oxygen for ten minutes. this would never have happened had he done a c section. I sued the doctor and won in that my hospital bill and doctor bill were both cancelled However thatdid not undo the damage he had caused.But I had a sweet adorable little girl who would remain at a mental age of four all her short eight years of life. she gave us joy too abundant to count in that brief time.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
I guess first time mummies would be nervous, worried and afraid of what to expect during delivery. But I think when having second child, mummies will be more nervous or worried because they had gone through the birth experience and know what to expect. Yes, it is quite normal to feel scared. But every births are different from the previous ones. As for me, I didn't get scared. Probably it was because I didn't talk much about the labor pain or what is like to deliver a child to anyone. I only read books and gain knowledge from it.