A stranger knocks on your door & asks to use the toilet, would you let them?

@gemini_rose (16194)
April 21, 2008 5:34pm CST
The stranger looks friendly and seems friendly and also looks in absolute desperate need of the toilet,they are doing the wee wee dance and they are really apologetic at having to disturb you and ask to use it but there is no where else for them to go, the nearest public toilets are about a fifteen minute walk away!!! The world we live in today is a whole lot different than to what it was years ago, and we all have to be so careful what we do and who we talk to these days. So what would you do? Throw caution to the wind and let them in to use the toilet? Or would you make up an excuse or reason not to let them in? Me, I would let them wet their pants!! Sorry but there is no way I am letting a stranger into my house to perhaps rob me or murder me as soon as they step over the threshold, and that wee wee dance, well anyone could do that couldn't they, so what reason would I give, well I would probably say that "I only have one toilet and that my son is off school with chronic diarrhoeaa and he is as we speak glued to the toilet and I would not want to risk you catching this nasty bug, why not try next door, they have 2 toilets!!!" So come on, tell me what you would do and what reason you would give for your decision, how much trust do we really have in each other in this mad world!!!!!
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174 responses
• Canada
22 Apr 08
From the male perspective, If my wife was in the house and it was a female at the door, I would allow most likely let her use the toilet. If it was a guy I most likely would not let him in. Not in this day and age with home invasions etc. Wouldn't want to take a chance.
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@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
3 May 08
do you really mean it? i dont see why you should even let a female come in,if you can pick a female and say no to a male then i may say you have a hiden Agenda towards letin her in, in that same fait you see females too are never to be trusted when in comes to invasions dont you know?
• United States
3 Jul 08
I would let them in show them the bathroom and i would take out knife while hes in there and put it behind my back and if he does anything Stab him =P im mostly alone Got to live =D
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
21 Apr 08
It would depend on if it were a man or woman. I would probably let a woman in to use my bathroom. A male I would probably not let in. It's sad to say but these days you really can't trust anyone. Who knows if they would rob me of my belongings or do worse. I also have to think about my daughter too and be safe for her sake too.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Apr 08
I know what you are saying, but these days some people use the women to gain the trust and could have an accomplice near by so it might be better to just turn her away.
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22 Apr 08
Women can be used as decoys...just say no in as polite a way as possible..I would not let a man or woman in to use my toilet..wee wee dance or no wee wee dance..they aint coming in!..
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@queenofarms (1665)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Well I'm with you on this. I do not trust anyone. I probably wouldn't even open the door in the first place. And you're right anyone can do the pee pee dance.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Apr 08
Oh yes the dance, very easy to do I must say!! I was thinking about you the other day, have you been missing for a bit, I was thinking that I had not seen you for a while.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Its so nice to be missed. I have been house hunting and checking into mortgage companies. Its about to drive me crazy Maybe one of these days it will over and I'll be in a new place.
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@lifbrue (108)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Unfortunately, probably not. These days, most sane people understand how ridiculous of a favor that is. Therefore, you can assume the person who is standing in front of you asking to use your bathroom is NOT sane. Therefore, utilize common logic and don't let him in your house. You may even want to explain to him why you are not letting him in and refer him to public restrooms somewhere close by.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Apr 08
Most sane people would, but then again there are a few more insane people than there used to be, thanks for stopping by!!
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• Canada
23 Apr 08
if its somebody i do not know i'd just say no sorry and shut the door right in there face and call the police or if i didnt have a phone id go kick his lil tushi with some tik won dou
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I would not let them in and, as they would be a stranger to me, possibly ready to chop my body into little pieces, I wouldn't need a reason not to invite them into my house under the guise of using the bathroom. I would say, sorry! No! And, they wouldn't have a right to ask me why not. And, it just so happens that a couple months ago a girl was going door to door, not because she had to pee, but because she was offering free carpet cleaning. She asked me what was the worst area of my house, what area got more traffic. I told her my kitchen. She asked if I had hardwoods and I told her yes. She then asked me if she could come in and take a look at them. No...I am not kidding. She actually asked me if she could come into my house. A perfect stranger. Never even laid eyes on her before. When I told her no, she began to beg. "Oh, come on! Please?!!? Why not!??!" I just shook my head and kept saying, "No, sorry, no!" She left in a huff and went to my neighbors whom I called to warn her not to even open the door.
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Thank you for the best response!
• South Africa
21 Apr 08
1. Laugh happily. 2. Start nodding. 3. Say "No" in as positive a voice as you can. 4. Leave strager to ponder their toilet woes on the street. It seems cruel but you can't just let any stranger into your house. Who knows what they might steal. Or even if they don't steal it then, they could simply be there to scope out the house so that it can be robbed later. So just don't let them in.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Apr 08
I would not feel cruel, I perhaps would just give them one of my daughters nappies.
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@mrpippo (756)
• United States
21 Apr 08
no way ,i'm not letting anyone i dont know in my house
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Apr 08
I for one do not blame you.
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• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
Nope, with just myself at home with my two little ones, I won't let the stranger in. I would think that obviously the stranger had a reason to be in your area so he/she could have made the toilet stop there instead of having to walk over to your house to use yours?!! I've had quite a number of friends who have been victims of such circumstance, most of the time the strangers were male and two incidents where the strangers were females. One female was in cohorts with a bunch of thieves and the other female in a separate incident ended up stealing toiletries. I would never forgive myself if I put us in a position that would endanger us, especially my children. Were I to invite this stranger in, I would be contradicting what I teach my Kids about Stranger Danger.
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@kianli (546)
• China
22 Apr 08
Well, i don't think i would let him in. Maybe he looks friendly or something but in these days it'll be dangerous if you made a decision like that. I've read many stories this kind let a stranger and you are in danger. I remember that in my community there was such kind a thing, a stranger knocked the door politely and ask for water and the housewife let him in, guess what happened next? Terrible thing! When we're in desperate time if someone can be of help that'll be great but nowadays it's getting dangerous if trust a stranger. Have a nice day!
@myklj999 (19978)
22 Apr 08
Well, if it was some little old grey haired lady, I probably would let them in. Anyone else, I'll toss 'em a roll of toilet paper and point 'em to the bushes out back.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Well to tell you the truth I would do the same thing you did. In fact I wouldn't even open the door if it was someone I didn't recognize. The world that we live in today as you said is very dangerous. A few months ago on the news they showed how this hispanic woman opened the door to a stanger who needed to use the bathroom. The woman was with her daughter or son (I don't remember which) but the stranger robbed the woman and then killed her. It was awful to hear something like that. I might have gotten some details wrong but I do know that the stranger killed the woman. It's sad that this is what is happening nowadays.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Apr 08
Normally I am very particular about who is using my toilet and how is it used by others. I have made some rules to get maximum hygienic conditions and my family follow these rules. I would definitely not let any stranger use my toilet. But it just happened that one sunny afternoon someone knocked at my door, I opened the door and saw an elderly decent woman standing outside. She requested me if she could use my toilet, since she had lost her way and did not find the person whom she wanted to visit for few hours. How could I refused someone like my mother for something that is natural and can happen to anybody..., I did let in. But this was a rare case, otherwise.....I feel, you know.....ikkkkkkkkkkkssssssssaaaa.... and I agree with you that we cannot trust strangers in this mad world............
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
22 Apr 08
hmmmmm how sweet of u what if decent old man or decent mature do that i mean knock at ur door for using wash rioom?
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Apr 08
I will tell you the truth.....I don't like men much and specially old men....men are not as hygenic as women.I would try to avoid such situation, but if no choice, then later on I will have to perform a big cleaning mission.......
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
22 Apr 08
Hmmmmmmmmmmm dont know what to reply Take care
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@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
22 Apr 08
The stranger you said looks friendly and also in absoulute desperate in need of toilet,to me i will let him or her come in cos what ever happens after that i know i did it in good faith,there is no way you can please the world but you have to keep tryin,As African we dont think evil of people untile the evile is done,So i will never deny any one in need of my help the help needed,thats part of Africanism,check it out. and if you want to give excuse give a good one not .......
@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
Hey, I thought my excuse would have been pretty good!! I guess I will have to think of a better one just in case it ever happens!!
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@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
22 Apr 08
you can think of all resons but what if it happens it's a female or a pregnant woman what would you say?????? can you think of all the excuses in the wotld to say am sorry or what will you do ohh what if on that process she gives bath in you loo?
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
22 Apr 08
Well it happened to me couple of times b4 that couple of ladies, with kids, knock at the door and want to use the wash room. i let them use them the wash room. one its hard to say No other we have seperate wash room in Garage and has nothing to do with Main house, u r rights, its hard to trust any one now a days take care
@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
It is not so bad if you have a seperate on away from the house. I perhaps would let someone use that if it meant them not coming in the house.
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
22 Apr 08
Yeah u r right infect its In Garage so that Driver, Gardner and other peole can use it And it has no connection with main house, though its inside boundary Take care
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• United States
21 Apr 08
I understand what you are saying, but in my case I would let the stranger in. One reason is that I am very rarely in the house alone, so if something was to happen, there would at least be a witness. Second, I have been the stranger to ask about a bathroom, so it would only be fitting to return the courtesy. I worked for Working America, an organization that goes out into communities and gets people to sign petitions and into membership with us to support legislation in Washington for working families. We went all over Ohio getting support for our cause, knocking door-to-door. The work day would go like this. We would drive in a van to our community for the day, and very rarely did we stay in the city. We would find an area with a few restaurants, and have our lunch break first. Then the supervisors would choose our territories and give us maps showing such. We would work the streets in our territory, then go back to the drop off spot to wait for the van to come back. Well, one evening I guess I had too much to drink along with my lunch, because I had an hour and quite a few streets to go when I got the urge to pee very badly. I figured the next house I got to, I would ask. My territory wasn't near any restaurants that I knew of, or any gas stations where I could use theirs. So I got to that next house, and went through my little spiel about the working families and would you join in support blah blah blah. After they signed, I went ahead and asked, "Could you do me one big favor? I really have to use the bathroom, and it will be a while before my field manager will pick me up, can I use yours?" The man at the door was very nice and invited me inside. I was very thankful that he did, because I was about to burst!!! There were very few times that this happened, but usually I would run across people that were nice enough to let me use theirs. So if someone were to knock on my door asking the same thing, I would definitely let them use the bathroom. I have been blessed with this, why should I not bless others?
• Indonesia
22 Apr 08
deppends on the strangers, if she a sexy pretty young girl, we let she coming in, perhaps that we have a date tonight.LOL
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@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
3 May 08
i really like the way you spook out the truth to some people who i guess dont have humansimparty,why can't i just alow a staranger to use my loo,you see if you are not clean hmm you must be expecting bad things to happen, in your case when you are in the feild out there you will expirence alot of this ,how would you feel some people dont look at thing towards their directions they only react,i really agree with you,i wish you the bex.
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• Philippines
22 Apr 08
I've seen and heard too many terrible news about home invasions and such that I definitely would not have some stranger come in to use my toilet or my phone or give them a glass of water. There's just no way. I consider myself a very reasonable man and even a very giving person but my family's safety comes first and having a stranger come in our home is just an invitation for trouble. Hey, maybe I'd give the person a container to pee on..that way I won't beat myself over not being able to help. Hehehe.
@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
A container sounds like a good plan to me!!
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22 Apr 08
I would not let anyone who came knocking on the door to use my toilet. I wouldnt even have the nerve to knock on someones door. I wouldnt want to risk any harm to myself by letting this stranger in. Who knows what this person has done in the past!! I would make up some excuse, toilet is blocked and am waiting for plumber! The world is very different to how it was years ago, would be good if we could do something to improve it for the better??!! After they have left I would disinfect my door way just incase they did it on my door!! I would also mention it to neighbours as well, I wouldnt want them to be victimised by the lout that wanted to use a toilet!
@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
It would be nice to think that we could change the world in some way, but I do not think it will happen.
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• China
22 Apr 08
I would not take this risk either. But I will not lie to them. I think I would say"Sorry, I can not let you in. I do not know you. Do not waste time on me, cause you do not have so much time. Go and try next door."
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@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
I love your honesty!!!
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@plumwish07 (4059)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 08
its also hard for me too to face this kind situation. remembering nowadays many people seems nice and loving but in fact they would like to harm us. so in those condition, i will see if there are some family members inside my house, then i will secure enough to let this person use my toilet but if there is noone in my home then i will say apology to him cause i can't let him come to use my toilet. i will give some reasons if he is still insist. however, if he is still insist me, it seems something wrong, am i right?
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@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
Oh definately, if someone keeps insisting then there is definately something wrong.
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@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
22 Apr 08
well, this is really an interesting topic... i would never dare to knock on people's door and ask to use the toilet no matter how desperate i am to use it... it is just common sense that people will say no... especially in today's crazy world where we can't trust anybody anymore... so if somebody knock on my door and ask to use my toilet, i will probably say no... especially if i am alone at home without my hubby... there is no way i will jeopardize my safety... sounds cruel... but it is better to be safe than sorry nowadays...
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@gemini_rose (16194)
22 Apr 08
You are so right, I think that if someone knocks for that reason then it is highly likely they are trouble.
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