The three little words " I LOVE YOU"

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
April 22, 2008 4:55am CST
Those are lovely words and even so when it said to the person we loved most. There are many ways we can tell about our feeling to our loved ones. How do you want it to be expressed to you? Do you find that written, sms, recorded message, over the phone or face to face be more meaningful and romantic? What is the reason of your choice? Personally, I like it to hear it from the person himself, face to face so that I can look into his eyes and know that he really meant what he said.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Hi ellie26! i would prefer to be said it to me personally. I would like to see his face when he is telling those words to me. I guess, I would love to see and hear it personally. However, it is also alright if it is said in any way as long as it comes from the heart. Just my thoughts dear friend! Take care and have a nice day!
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@julyteen (13258)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Apr 08
it depends on any situation. if during courting first i is express through letters and later on say it face to face. It is easy to say i love it can easy come out to our mouth but it is hard to show it specially to those people make us upset. even it is express in records, text messages or what as long as i know that the one giving it is sincere i will appreciate it.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I prefer having them said to me, rather than written, but more than that, I prefer that he shows me. I am not one for listening to words, I want the big box of chocolates, the dinner at the restaurant, and a concert afterwards. Words do not mean anything if there is no action following.
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
23 Apr 08
My answer to this discussion is exactly what you said in your response, "I like it to hear it from the person himself, face to face so that I can look into his eyes and know that he really meant what he said." That's beautiful. I can just imagine my fiance looking into my eyes and telling me that he loves me. It's like everything else completely disappears, and we're alone (even if we aren't really). Another way I like my fiance to proclaim his love for me is through my actions. It makes a girl feel like a millions bucks when a guy pays attention to her even when his buddies want him to go play ball or something. That says it all. He turns down the guys to hang out with his girl, and it makes her feel like the most special person in the world. I love when my fiance does special things for me. He'll write me short, sweet love notes. He'll tie or untie my shoes for me. He opens the doors for me (including the car doors). He carries my things. He treats me well and tells me I'm special. He whispers "I love you" in my ear. (That gives me goosebumps!) He goes out of his way to care for me. These are the ways that I know my fiance loves me. This is a very inspirational discussion! Thanks for posting, Ellie!
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@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I would rather hear it face to face. Me and my husband make sure we tell each other everyday, there are days when we might forget, but we know we still love each other a whole bunch.
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@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
23 Apr 08
to me the word "I love you" is very sacred, i only want to say such important word to those that i feel i genuinely love. if you are talking about a relationship kind of love, then here is my thing. it took me a long time to say such word, i feel my ex bf long long time ago complain about that coz i have not say it till he really wants to hear it and part of me is saying "hold on a sec" coz i feel something is missing. NOW, i am happily married. i have found the one rightful for such word and i love when he say it face to face, or his silent ways of saying i love you's. i said silent ways (dont get me wrong we do say i love you many times in a day) coz he will just sometimes look at me in my eyes and give me a kiss. hug me and makes me feel i am safe and i belong there. provide for us and our future. works hard and let me be me give me a dog that he knows i love to have give me surprise little and even big gifts. hold my hand when we are walking hold me when i am sad and just listens to me. he makes me feel i am always his priority and so many ways that i feel i am most love and i am really grateful coz i have never thought to find someone that will just COMPLETE me and makes me feel as if we are ONE. we always tell each other. I am HIM he is ME we are ONE. hope i justify my answers of what i feel "i love you" is personally. takecare!
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
22 Apr 08
Yes! three lovely little words.Express them at no expense. Receive back compassion in plenty.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
Hi sukumar794. I haven't seen you around for some time. You are right. Nothing is lost in expressing those three words.
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Apr 08
I could not be very active here since I had a massive heart attack last October. I am recovering from the ailment.Thanks.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 08
I could not be very active here since I had a massive heart attack last October. I am recovering from the ailment.Thanks. OMG, I am so sorry. I hope you are doing well now. Take good care of yourself. Take your medicine on time, do some brisk walking and careful with what you eat. My husband suffered heart attack 8 years ago. He had angioplasty. He is on medication for life.
@jamie08 (430)
• United States
22 Apr 08
see the "three little words" I love you are thrown around so freely now it is hard to tell if someone really does "LOVE" you or not. i mean kids now say it to everyone. Its not as precious as it was back in the older days. Me i dont say I love you unless i truly mean it. When i am with someone and they say that i tell them straight up i will not say it unless i truley mean it. I dont see a point in throwing it out there so openly. Its like the words have no meaning in them anymore untill you wait and really mean them.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
Saying "I love you" does not only applies to lovers only. Parents, children or anybody can say those words. So, it has becomes a norm to everyone and almost becomes meaningless. Save those lovely words to the one you really love.
@jamie08 (430)
• United States
22 Apr 08
ya i was mainly talking about lovers, i love you with family to me is different. Its stronger because it is family. But when it is lovers it is meaningfull to me.
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@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
My husband is not Mr. Casanova...And expecting the words from him, be it written, heard or said, is like waiting for a rain in the desert. So, if ever he does one of those things, I'm thrilled. But I like it best when he just suddenly say those three sweet little words, out of the blue. And you're right. It's an unexplainable feeling when I look in his eyes when he says those words. This thing doesn't happen regularly but when it does, I treasure the moment very much. When there are times that I'm mad at him, I try to think back on those times and my anger fades away.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
OMG, can't be that bad? lol. Anyway, being spontaneous is really exciting. Just imagine, you are sitting in the dark corner alone and outside there is a bright full moon. Then suddenly someone touches your shoulder and when you look around, there he is with a sweet smile in his face. He bent a little, kiss you gently and say "I love you, darling." It just simply the most enchanting moment.
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• Philippines
24 Apr 08
So right. Spontaneous is the magic word. You know, there was a time when he suddenly spoke the words. But!He said it so softly and almost a whisper that I didn't hear him correctly. When I looked back at him, he was looking at me as if expecting some response from me. So, I said, "Uh, what did you say exactly?!" And feeling a little embarassed, he repeated it again. I apologized by hugging him and of course, telling that I love him, too. I teased him that next time, he should say it a little louder so I can hear him right.
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@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
i also want to hear it personally face to face, it feels different if your love one tells it from you personally
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@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
P.S. i wanna also know if they say that sincerely or not
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
of course it is better if it is said personally with feelings but at times it becomes very common and becomes to familiar so for me it is better if it was written down in a piece of any paper or a letter stating how she feels towards me. in that way i can sincerely judge what the other person is trying to say and besides recieving a handwritten note nowadays is very rare and it becomes a novelty.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
I understand what you mean. Saying "I love you" everyday tends to become very common and at times, becomes meaningless. Sometimes composing a love poem can help.
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Actions speak louder than words. Indeed, by saying those lovely words of affection, we also need to show our actions to the people whom we have said those words with. Actions should be coupled with words for it to be real and be felt truly.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
Some lovers don't even have to say those words. By action, they already know they love each other. You are right, actions speak louder than words.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
22 Apr 08
actually these three words mean a lot. i think there are still many ways to say it. although i am not into any relationship, so i have not said thsoe to anyone. but i thing those are just lovely when said face to face or repeated over SMS.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
Those words mean a lot to so many people, not only those who are in love. It can be said by parents to their children or children to parents. It can also be said to friends.
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Yeah..i wanna hear the word "i love you" personally..as what you wanted.....yeah..love must expressed by the person to whom it may concern personally..
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
You got that right, Minamikesh.
@feliniti (875)
22 Apr 08
I don't think SMS or a recorded message can ever replace face to face contact. It is always nice to hear those 3 words, but personal contact is best because as you say you can look into the eyes and know that it is meant for real.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
You are right, feliniti. But there are people who are not comfortable saying it face to face. They can only express their feelings when they are not in front of their loved ones. In this case, probably they will like to use written or sms.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
23 Apr 08
It's not so important to me, ellie, in what manner I receive the message that I am loved. The wonderful thing about hearing those words is the knowledge that you are appreciated and held in high regard. I have had it spoken to me, relayed in a card, or even with a special look. It's all the same. You are loved!
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@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
23 Apr 08
for me i want to be romantic & face to face, because you will see by thier empression how they will tell to your face & with a meaningful & romantic time. saying the word " I LOVE YOU" " I LOVE YOU" " I LOVE YOU " with all my hearth.
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
23 Apr 08
spoken words.. while nice to hear etc etc, are cheap. actions speak louder. i like it when my husband will randomly leave me notes. if hes gotta leave early for work, and im not awake yet.. i will find a quickie note scrawled someplace with a simple "i love you", even an email. the fact he tok the time to stop what he was doing, and write them, always seems to mean more to me.
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@MsCYPRAH (398)
23 Apr 08
I love to hear the words 'I Love You', either face to face or over a telephone. It is the most beautiful statement of intent in a relationship, especially when said in front of a person where you can see the sincerity on that person's face and see the love in their eyes. Yet many people find those words hard to express because they fear how the recipient will react. It seems that most of the discrepancy between couples when expressing their love comes down to the type of person they are and how they see that expression taking shape. Some people like to show their love with gifts. They find it hard to say aloud and would prefer to let an item of love express that feeling for them. Other people believe that doing things for their loved ones should show their feelings enough and so they don't have to say it. Worse still, they probably feel embarrassed being openly told "I Love You" or being given gifts, and might mistakenly believe that the other party doesn't love them enough because they are not doing similar things to match. "I Love You" is very poignant and beautiful, but many people also fear its consequences, just in case they say it to someone who then expects great things of them. So, sadly, they clam up. Or they might believe that uttering the immortal line ties them into a relationship forever and so they stay mum, robbing the friendship of its magic. But saying 'I Love You' does not predict anything about the future. It is mainly about the present and the depth of feeling we have for another significant person at this stage. It simply reflects our feelings for that moment in time. In a week's time you might not feel you love that person, for whatever reason. But just for that magical moment, 'I Love You' seems so right and should be shouted from the rooftops with joy!
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
23 Apr 08
Most mornings my husband sends me an email telling me he loves me and before we had a computer he would sms me the same. I really miss it when he doesn't.
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