My Girlfriend is eating like a monster ?? should I break up ??

@goergineo (1498)
Jordan
April 22, 2008 1:32pm CST
well, It was the first time I invited her for a dinner. the way she was eating made her look like a monster. well, I love her so. but the problem is when I think about the way she is eating, I say to myself that is not the person I wanna have dinner with. what do you think? should I break up?
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@kezabelle (2985)
22 Apr 08
How shallow!! If the way a girl eats is enough to put you off her then I think maybe she isnt the one for you. Eating meals is not a huge part of a relationship so I dont see how she eats as being important, if it can put you off her then really I dont think you should be with her
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
It was a little harsh but you know what you are super right. thanks dear.
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@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Was it that she ate too much, or was she just a sloppy eater? Is she a small girl? If she is, you might be able to make a joke out of it and say something like "wow you can put away all of that for your size?" If she is big, I wouldn't say anything because you might hurt her feelings. If she was a sloppy eater, you might be able to think of something to say to make her realize how she is eating. I hope you find a solution.
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
It is okay. she was just hungry. I overreacted. I love her and I think she is the one. thanks for replay.
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@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
4 May 08
I'm so glad everythign worked out for you!
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@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
For a fact, there are really times that I eat bigtime in the restaurant especially when I am really hungry. My boyfriend laughs at me so hard because it seems that I haven't eaten for about a year but he never really got ashamed of me... instead, he did the same thing... so I don't see the point of why you would break up with her... Maybe she is just hungry or messy at that time. Or if it really bothers you then you can talk to her but don't break up the relationship because of that simple reason. I am sure that there are lots of reason for you to be in love with her. I hope this helps. Cheers!
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
I think I am going to love her more after I heard that. you are making a good point here. yes she was hungry. I overreacted. you are right. thanks a lot
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• Philippines
6 May 08
You are welcome. I know you love her, sometimes, I overreacted too but I get to realize that quickly with my partner. Take care!
@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
22 Apr 08
How does she look like a monster? Does she not close her mouth while eating, and you can see the food going around in there? Unless she has a problem breathing through her nose and needs to keep her mouth open, this is a bad habit that she can probably break with practice. Or, do you mean that she really gets "into" her food like she's enjoying it instead of taking dainty, little bites. If you like everything about your girlfriend than that, I think you would be wise to keep her. But that's up to you. However, this actually seems like a kind of immature reason for breaking up with somebody. I haven't checked your age yet to see how old you are, but I'm guessing that you're young and that, as you become more mature, the way a date eats--unless she's being obnoxious or something--will figure less and less into what makes her desirable to you. I remember meeting a guy when I was 22 and he was 25. We were never sweethearts--just good buddies--but he told me what had been the downfall of his first marriage. This marriage took place when he was 18 or 19 years old. The first time that he saw his wife with her hair done up in rollers, it turned him off. I think he thought at the time that her hair stayed in place like a Barbie doll's 24/7. At the time when he shared this with me, he realized just how immature he truly was at that time.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
yes you are super right. I was overreacting. I realized that. It is all okay now. Thanks for replay.
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@emma412 (1156)
• United States
22 Apr 08
If you do really love her then breaking up with her over the way she eats is pretty terrible. If you are just looking for an excuse out of the relationship that would make more sense. Why don't you try to talk to her about it? Let her know that it bothers you and see if she can work on it. That would be the mature way to handle a problem in your relationship.
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
I see. may be I overreacted. yes, you are super right. I should talk to her although I do not know if it is gonna her or not.
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@Zhanec (1652)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 08
lol..your post reminds me of my friend dilemma.His gf had grown a lot pimples and he was asking me for opinions if he should break up with her.Sorry though this is irrelevant but i will give opinion based from my friend situation.If you think the way she eats bothered you a lot,then i guess you should do as you wish..break up with her.Since you can't imagine yourself living with her,so its better to end this relationship.Anyway,i'm curious of her eating habit.Is it that horrible to the extend that you need to use the word "monster" ? Anyway,good luck .Decision is always in your hands..there's no right or wrong in love.Oh btw, when you typed " well,i love her so.." erm..do you really meant it ? i hope i don't offense you by asking this questions.
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• India
23 Apr 08
WOWEEEEEEE, he really wanted to break up with her coz she had pimples? LOL, but acne is curable. Now, you remind me of another weirdo who wanted to break off the engagement just coz his fiancee had cut her hair. LOL, I guess we need to do some more research on Martians to find out how the contents of their cranium work.
@Zhanec (1652)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 08
that's right.that's what i told him..pimples are not permanent.Even one's psychical beauty doesn't last eternity,only their inner beauty won't fade.But since it bother him too much i guess..he just not so into her.Yep,like u stated here..love is definitely more tolerant than that.If trivial matter like this a burden to you,i guess its not real love anymore. :)
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
Thats how she eats why break up with someone just because she is eating like that.. If you really love your girlfriend and feelings are true to her why not accept the way she is..
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
THanks ayou82. you are right.
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
23 Apr 08
What a girl can't whorf down some food once in awhile? Don't be so shallow if you love her you will love her for her faults too. Maybe there is something you do that she doesn't like but she just accepts it because she loves you.
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
Well I had another dinner and you know what she was the most prestigious person in the world. I was overreacting, she was hungry that time and she ate that way in front of me cause she considered me as a partner and a lover. I really was wrong. she is the cutest girl I met and I think she is the one. I think you are super right. thanks for replay dear.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 08
man thats really shallow. you can talk to her about it. i didnt know dinner can be a ground for a break up...
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
thanks yellowhipon. you are right.
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• United States
23 Apr 08
I am wondering if she was eating with her feet. She must have been very hungry that night. Even if she was not it's ok. You can have another dinner with her. See if this is the way she eats all the time. If so you may want to just talk to her about it. I know how things can turn me off. But eating is not one of them. Good luck
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
Well I had another dinner and you know what she was the most prestigious person in the world. I was overreacting, she was hungry that time and she ate that way in front of me cause she considered me as a partner and a lover. I really was wrong. she is the cutest girl I met and I think she is the one. I think you are super right. thanks for replay dear.
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Sounds like she hasn't really learned much in the way of manners. Maybe she will learn as she gets older, or maybe not. She probably doesn't realize that how she eats is unappealing to others. There's a good chance that she was brought up in a home where manners weren't so important. I don't know if you should break up or not. But what I do know is that if we can't stand something about another person, it's usually not going to change...and it will only bug us more. When we're truly in love, we have to love our partners for their good qualities, and tolerate their bad ones. If you can't forsee living with someome forever who has a habit that drives you nuts, then maybe it isn't the relationship of your dreams. If you're thinking you don't want to dine with her now, then you probably wouldn't want to spend mealtime with her for the rest of your lives together. For her to change her bad habit, she would have to WANT to change for the better to keep the love alive. We can't make them change, so we have to accept their faults and love them exactly the way that they are...or not. Either way, she has to know how you feel. Did you try talking to her about it?
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
no, I did not talk about it. I am afraid that will hurt her feelings. but now, I am sure that I was overreacting. it is all okay now. she was hungry that time. that is all and I think she is the one. thanks for replay dear.
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@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
23 Apr 08
wow at you guy , so wahat if she eats like crazy more women should eat in the first place im so tired of looking at skinny frail women anyway you should enjoy her company and take back everything you feel bad about her before the next man comes along and snatches her away from you
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
23 Apr 08
you didnt clarify the term "monster" was she eating with her face in the plate slobbering all over the place ? or did she just simply have a healthy appetite and the dinner bill was more than you counted on cause she didnt just giggle and get the salad bar for 2.95 and nibble like a rabbit? the question isnt really whether you should break up with her.. but as to when SHE will ditch you for being a halfwit.
@Zhanec (1652)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 08
random comment : i personally like girls that have healthy appetite :)
@tessah (6621)
• United States
23 Apr 08
gimme a porterhouse, a baked potato AND the salad bar.. and im quite content
23 Apr 08
How shallow can you get! You say you love her yet you want to break up with her simply because you don't like the way she eats - what's with that? If you love her then you accept her as she is, and that includes at the dining table.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
yes. I overreacted a little. you are right. love is more important than the way of eating.
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@kekexinfeng (1303)
• China
23 Apr 08
I don't think you should break up with her,you love her,and i think there are many questions. Everyone have his advantage and disvantage,if you love her,you couldn't only want to share her beauty,youshould love all of her. Perhaps she eats more because she feel ralaxation befor you,it means she love you so much,when i relax myself befor someone it means i want to make friends with them and i feel he is a person i want to marry. You can talk with her,then you can come to understand.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
yes you are super right. thanks dear for advice. that really was helpful. thanks again.
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@ozzeth (942)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
oh my! should i say Gosh???heheheh....oiszt. If it makes you turn off to her. I guess you don't exactly love her as what you thought! Because of that situation you have now doubt of your love???is it really love what you feel? thinking of break up..Then its your decision goergineo! If you really love her as what she is. You can simply teach her of how to eat properly..with etiquette. Good luck!
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
yes you are right. I should open my heart and also my mouth to her.
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@kacq007 (141)
• Poland
23 Apr 08
If she really eat too much , you could tell her that it's unhealthy to eat in this way. Anyways tell her enough clear that she EAT TOO MUCH and will be in the future fat and ugly :PP
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
yes you are right. the way of eating is not important as long as you love the person. thanks for replay
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
23 Apr 08
i think here you need to look at the priority. do you think that you should break up as she eats so much? or is it love that is more than that? when you get the answer its easier to decide.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
i would choose love. you are making a good point here. thanks dear
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 08
Over how she eats? if so you never loved her at all. that is a very lame excuse. Real love is not detered by shallow stuff like that but by someone who is not faithful or is unkind and I do think you sound rather unkind right now.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
4 May 08
you are right Hatley. I JUST OVERREACTED.
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@digerati (287)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
hello goergineo, is she really a monster? what the fuss bout that? is it your tight budget? or is it her loose body? just talk it with her - honest and sincere.. point by point.. and it will be settled. point by point.. another question, is she eating the same when you are courting her? you must at least know bout it? digerati