what do you think of this?

Philippines
April 22, 2008 9:51pm CST
My bf is someone who saves for our future. I'm bothered because of this. He don't want to buy things for himself. Its because he wants to save for our future. His work is not stable. While me, I'm enjoying my life. I do spend and spend. I do save too, but not unlike him that all my earnings will go to savings. I understand that he doesn't earn as much as I do considering that I have a permanent job. Most of the time, I do pay for our dates. Sometimes, he also pays for our dates but not that much. I'm really getting disturbed because of our situation. Last week, his phone was lost and he had to replace it. He's asking me to add cash. I dont know. We're in our 6t year. If you were in my situation, will it also bother you? By the way, our savings will be used for our up coming marriage. Thanks for all your responses!
5 responses
@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
i think he loves you a lot even though you have a problem regarding on living with him is not a problem at all coz he can wait for you to leave happily together someday thats why he do that. he cares for your future a lot and even for you. me to i will do it for my girl friend coz i want to have a good and steady relationship with no financial problem or what so ever. tell him you love him so much...
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Wow! It did not came through my mind that that's the way he show his love to me. I thought that he was just simply saving. Thanks guys for enlightening me.
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@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
for all my fellah friends here at mylot i will do everything to help... and the thing was... me to i will do it like your boy friend did coz i love my girl friend too.
@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
anytime i like to help out my fellah mylotters here.... and you know i like to do it to my girl friend too coz i love my girl friend so much.
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I think that it is great that he saves so much ,especially with an unstable job. However, you should explain to him that there are certain things - like that lost phone or clothes - that he has to pay for himself.
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
I tried to tell him this but still i cannot force him to do so.
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
23 Apr 08
You can't force him to spend money, but you can not give him any more of your money. I would stop giving him money so he has to buy his own stuff.
@visijay32 (447)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
I say you are very lucky girl. Your boyfriend is responsible and mature. He has the ability of foresight which a handful of people possess.
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I find it admirable that he has the sense to realize that he has to save for the future. I don't agree with you having to add cash to help him replace his phone though. You 2 should have discussions on how you are going to handle money after you get married so that you don't end up having fights over it afterwards..
• United States
23 Apr 08
If I were to make it with someone that long. I would feel the money would be ok to give to him. You said he is saving up his money. I think that is wonderful of him to do. He lost his phone it was not like he wanted a new phone. I would help him in any way I could. I hope he has a new phone by now.