should you be nice to people you can't stand?

Philippines
April 23, 2008 8:54pm CST
it may seem like a struggle to put on our best face when confronted by someone who bring us grief. would you treat even the most aggravating people with kindness and respect? how would you react if someone you know or don't know personally displays his worst side?
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@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 08
Well I will not to be in contact with the person that I can't stand. But if circumstance does not allow, I will not show any sign of disrespect regardless of their age but I will be brief in my conversations with them and then walk away.
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
i'll just don't mind him/her, why waste my precious time to those kind of people. well. if i'm not really the main concern in his/her doings, better not to give some attention, but if he/she did somehing bad on me, well it's the time to confront them and asked what's the problem and she acts like that...
• United States
24 Apr 08
I think there is always a need to be kind - even to someone you can't stand. My actions are under my control and I will never let someone dictate them - in other words - never, ever, ever sink to their level. Everyone has the ability to be the bigger person and I promise, it will benefit you in the end. I believe there is NEVER an excuse to be rude, live by that, and have found it benefits me more than "blowing my top" ever could.
• United States
24 Apr 08
I have tried the "kill them with kindness" thing like the bible says. It really works! Most of the time I can't do it until some time has passed and I don't feel so angry toward them anymore. But it works and confuses them.
@zweeb82 (5716)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 08
It's just "Hi" & "Bye" to plastic people for me. Just acknowledgement especially to those older than us. But thee's no point being rude or even having a long conversation with them since that would be putting up a show. I'd just walk away
• United States
24 Apr 08
If I were in a public setting like a dinner or dance. I could sit right next to my worst enemy. I could enjoy myself and not let that person bring my spirits down. How simple this is to do. I am very decent about having childish behavior shown to others. I simply say hello and goodbye. Nothing more will ever be said. I will then remove myself from the area this person is sitting or mingling. Now out in the real world I just avoid all contacts without any dirty looks.
@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
hi yang :-) i guess it always pays to be nice no matter what. if you really can't stand him/her the its best to just avoid interacting with that person..but still don't be rude.
@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
24 Apr 08
I believe we should be polite but there's no way I'm gonna pretend to like someone i don't. Just be relevant and behave but no need to go out of your way for people that disrespect you
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
It depends on who it is. I would have a really hard time being nice to someone if he or she actually DID something horrible to me or a family member or friend. But if its a case of someone who I have poor chemistry with, I have no problem with smiling and saying hi!