receive gift from partner/bf/gf you dont like?

Singapore
April 24, 2008 7:24am CST
Have you ever experienced this? Your partner gave you something that you even never imagined that he would give you that stuff which in unimportant and its not ok for you to use that, since its not ok for your ages. Its just something that you feel uncomfortable to receive that... What would you do? Will you say directly to your partner that you dont like the gift? Keep it? or maybe you will throw it? For me, I keep that. Nothing wrong to keep it, but i will not use that. haha. He sometimes ask me, where's the gift? How could i never wear/use it... I just smile and say to him, next time... i even forget where did i put it. lol... He forgot it after!
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12 responses
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
25 Apr 08
I always tell my husband if i don't liike something because we do not have the money to waste on things that I do not want or will never wear or use. He really doesn't get hurt by it. He says he wants me to have the things I really want or need. I do tell him how much I appreciate the thought though.
• Romania
25 Apr 08
It's politely to receive, but if you didn't like the gift, you should tell him / her.
• China
2 May 08
Yes,I will keep it and honestly tell her that I do not like this kind of unuseful things,but I will say thanks to her,also I like to give her gift too;
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
1 May 08
The only time I can think of when I got something that I didn't like and/or appreciate was a Christmas about 3-4 years ago now. My husband (boyfriend at the time) decided to spend the money that was supposed to be for my Christmas gifts on himself. So he gave me a couple of the t-shirts he bought himself. He gave them to me and said he got that size "so we could share". Yeah, ok. He weighed like 220 pounds and I weigh under a 100! There is no way we can share clothes! I think I slept in one of the shirts once. I pretty much just gave them back to him. He bought them for himself anyway. He knows that he was being selfish jerk and has made up for it every Christmas since.
• India
25 Apr 08
well! i will keep it.as a part of life.because my friend gave me gift isn't cool or good.
@youless (90127)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Apr 08
My husband gave me a very beautiful but sexy dress as my birthday gift. Since I was pregnant, so I couldn't wear it. After my figure was back to normal, I still hadn't put it on as I am not comfortable to wear sexy dress. I still keep it as it's expensive. Besides, it is given by my husband. Hopefully one day I will be brave enough and then wear it. I love China
@k8cath (341)
• Philippines
25 Apr 08
i kept the gift he once gave me.. haha. it's really heartwarming but when i saw its design, i just commented,"why this picture? i'm ugly here!".. and so, he asked forgiveness, but of course, it's not a big deal anyway so i forgave him... now, i am using it, yet people recognize that the pendant in that necklace that it is me, and not that i am ugly in that pic..haha. funny.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
i dont remember if i have received a gift from a partner that i don't really like. :) but there must be something like it. hehe i often receive gifts i dont like from friends... usually my past bfs gave me cute things that they know i will like, so it rarely happens, actually.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
24 Apr 08
Who would not expect to get a gift from girl friend or boy friend. It depends on the kind of gift they present weather to keep it or not to. Mostly i will keep it with me even though i may not use that. After all they do present a gift to show their caring and love towards to us. I wont mind what ever the gift is as long as that is presented with love and affection.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
24 Apr 08
I have not experienced this yet but is ever I will get from him that I don't like, I will just accept and keep it, and if it is something I can wear or use, i will use it because I also don't like to disappoint him and the effort and thought of getting me such gift is very touching and sweet alread!
• Indonesia
24 Apr 08
An ex once gave me a local boyband cassette, I think it was sweet but he should know better. I never like local singers or bands, I don't like mellow songs and I definitely don't like the boyband in that cassette. He liked them and decided to give me a cassette of them. I gave it back to him, said "I wouldn't listen to it anyway, you have it," that's it, he understands and never hold a grudge, we just laugh about it with our friends.
@wnbwnbwnb (427)
• China
24 Apr 08
Well,I will keep it and thank him! Actually,I seldom recieve gifts that I don't like,since my bf always gives me gifts according to my needs.
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
24 Apr 08
It depends, really. Is it because your partner didn't think about the gift but simply rushed out and bought the first thing that came to hand? Or alternatively did your partner buy something that he/she sincerely believed you would love? Are you in a long-term relationship? I don't expect there is such a thing as "inappropriate" gifts in a long-term relationship. However, if you are in a relationship that has not established boundaries or you are both younger than some gifts might be considered very inappropriate. In this case you should say something to your partner. If the gift is simply something that is not to your taste you have some options. 1. You can say, "I really appreciate your thoughtfulness, would you mind if I exchange this for something that I would get more use from" 2. You can simply say, "thank you". 3. You can use it, wear it, display it when your partner is around until such time it is either worn out or gone. In a lifetime of gift giving and receiving we are bound to get a few mistakes and give a few in return. So really it depends.