How do you feel when your friend keep complaining about his/her break up.
By chrissieatu
@chrissieatu (1033)
China
April 24, 2008 11:52am CST
My friend has just broke up with her boyfriend. You know, people in this situation tend to keep thinking about their memory before all the times. They just can not let it go at once. Thus they always want to find someone to talk. But actually they talk about nearly the same things to you everytime. My friend is worring about whether she has been annoyed to her friends.
I do not consider it to be a problem for me. I can understand people need to talk when they just broke up. They need time to heal. I am just wandering how other people view this.
If your friend just broke up and talk to you frequently about that, how do you feel? Would you just talk to your friend with pleasure or consider it to be annoying? Please share your opinion with me. Thank you in advance.
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4 responses
@Jemina (5770)
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25 Apr 08
I would definitely get annoyed but I won't show her. I have got friends who had been into that situation and I was made into a shock-absorber. I just listen to them and pretend I'm listening. I have a good talent in listening and my friends like it very much to confide in me.
Just try to put yourself in her shoes and try to divert her attention in an subtle way.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
25 Apr 08
To me, that depends on how many times my friend has talked to me. In most of the time, it's ok for me. My friend is afraid that her action will bother us. Thus she prefers to keep all the things in herself. I do not think it's good for her. So I would like to know how others think. Then I can tell her the truth.
I try to do what you suggested. But you know people in that situation need time.
I suppose you are a good listener and a good friend. It great to have friends like you. At least, your friend can find someone to talk to.
Thank you for sharing your opinion and your advises. Enjoy your day:-)
chrissie
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@Jemina (5770)
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26 Apr 08
Yes, they need time and you also need some time alone, don't you. I may be a good listener but I get tired too. When that happens I feel awkward to tell them they are already annoying me. No, I never do that.
Sometimes I een get to the point of getting jealous of my friends for having a friend so patient like me while I, myself don't have someone who I can rely on.
But I have Jesus. He alone understands me all the way.
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
26 Apr 08
I think things always happen like that. When you are a good listener, few people can actually understand. Glad that you still have god to believe in. I personally am not a believer of religon. Thus sometimes I feel lost and empty. Fortunately, I still have some friends to turn to. Even we are not that close, they listen to me so that I can let it out to make myself feel better.
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
13 May 08
Yes, that's what friends are for. Thus I want my friend to know that I am always there for them.
@youless (112112)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Apr 08
I can understand it. When people break up, they feel so hurtful and they need some time to be back to normal. Perhaps it's a little bit frustrating as they keep talking about the same thing. But for the sake of breakup, we shall be understanding to them. I will try to comfort my friends or go out with them so that they will feel better.
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
27 Apr 08
That's my point of view as well. You are so considerate youself. I think I got another proof to show my friend that it's Ok to do so.
@j_cena_90 (58)
• India
26 Apr 08
it mostly depends on the other party mood even so no 1 can rather say if its annoying or considerable
but surly it should be considerable bcoz breakups even take life ........
so 1 should rather try to be the bridge to the succsess of their love .!!!!!
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
26 Apr 08
Yeah I agree it depends on the other one. Maybe my question is too general. Most of the time, I'll be considerable. But if I feel my friend is just keep complaining without really listen to my words, I'll give it up. I think it's no use to continue doing that.
