Fighting neighbors

@traengle (145)
United States
April 25, 2008 10:53pm CST
I don't know if this is a discussion or more of a b*tch session but I'm going to post it anyways. I live in an old farm house that is now split into 2 homes (front and back) it is set on 200 acres of beautiful land and used to be peaceful till our neighbors in. I personally think they like to display their drama because they do it in front of people and right outside in our yard. They fight constantly and don't care what time it is or how loud they are, one night about 3 months ago my husband and I heard them fighting it went on all night and about 1 am we turned our tv off to go upstairs to bed and they were yelling and such and then we heard a loud crack and we heard the girlfriend start to cry...he had hit her, well next thing you know there's a knock at our door, I went to answer the door and that quick no one was there..well that pissed me off don't knock on my door at 1 in the morning and take off before I answer. Now we mind our own business, i have to live here and we get along with them we are not good friends and do not hang out or anything just talk now and then, they seem like nice people otherwise but I don't want no problems between us on the other hand I don't wanna hear him beating on her. Oh I forgot to mention he is also an alcoholic who is on probation for drinking and driving. But anyways when I saw her the next day I asked her if she knocked on the door, she said yes I continued to tell her we heard what went on, she said yea he was drunk, hit her etc. I told her I didn't know what kind of help she wanted but the only thing i would do is call the cops for her, she said she didn't call them because he is on probation and he would go to jail...well HELLO he would go anyways for hitting her but she said it's ok he said he was sorry...alrighty then...sorry would not be good enough for me. Well they were quiet for a few nights then right back to fighting. Now 3 months later I came home one evening and she came running out of the house crying telling me he was in a drunken rage again and hit her and pushed her while she had the baby in her hands, I told her she has to get outta there, if not for herself for the wellbeing of the baby then she asked if I would help her if she yelled or banged on the wall I asked her what kind of help the only way I can help is to call the cops she said she told him she was gonna call them in order to scare him but she really wasn't, I told her we are not going to help any other way because if her man says or does the wrong thing in front of my husband the sh*t will hit the fan, my man don't put up with no crap, ok she went back in and things were quiet, I learned later that he passed out. well the next day she got him out of the house but not without the both of them standing outside insulting each other first and her throwing his belongings all over the lawn. The next day it was so quiet...yippie...well the next day...guess who's back...how do i deal with these people? I have little ones I don't want them to be hearing all this going on. Do I call the cops next time they are having a battle or just continue to mind my own business? She apparently don't want him in jail....idk
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4 responses
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I would be calling the police. You just might save her life. Sooner or later the abuser kills the abused. There are too many women killed by their abusive spouse and not enough is done about it. If he's on probation then he needs to be put in jail for breaking probation. I would also let the landlord know what is going on. I would also let the police and the landlord know about the work situation with your husband is.
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Your welcome and good luck
@buzzman (171)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Hi Traengle, Yes by all means call the police and if your are ask to file a report. She has an abuseive man. If something are someone does interviene for her. She and most likely the child WILL be hurt. That could cause all knids of problems for the child later. I work for the department of corrections, and I see this kind of thing everyday. What it does to kids. If he goes to jail for a while so what it might help him in the long run. I know it could help her. Plus you can have a little peace.
@traengle (145)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Thanks for the response , I agree maybe it would be a wake up call for him
@buzzman (171)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Hi Traengle, Yes it would be a wake up call for him. It might also give her a chance to wake up as well. To see what kind of world she is liveing in, and what kind of world it could be. Before she get's hurt realy bad. Yes I'll say it again next time it happens call the police.
• United States
26 Apr 08
When I was a kid, we had neighbors that were like the ones you have now. The father did nothing but drink all the time, the mother was at home with the kids all day when they weren't in school. We constantly heard them screaming and even housed them on several occasions because they were afraid for their safety. She also came to our house one night and then left because the kids were still at the trailer and she did not want to leave them there. We called the cops a few times but she always said nothing was wrong and he never got put away. I'd call the cops personally just to be sure that he's not going to go completely crazy and start shooting up everyone and everything. You just don't know. I wouldn't want that going on, especially living so close.
• United States
26 Apr 08
Today you just never know what people have hiding. And it seems rather easy to go get one anymore. I'd just not want anything bad happening that could harm me and I wouldn't want to feel guilty in case he got really violent and did do something to her.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 Apr 08
If your renting this place call the landlord and tell them about them. But if not then I would definetly call the police on them. Enough is enough. Good luck.