Do you get hit on regularly? Share your embarrassing stories!

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
April 27, 2008 12:33pm CST
Do people hit on you for what appears to be no reason? Do you enjoy it or does it bother you? I never quite know how to handle it. This has been happening for years but I don't think I'm more equipped to handle it because of experience. If my husband is around, it happens less, or at least it is less blatant. When he is not there, even when my kids are with me, there is almost no limit to the obnoxiousness. I also look about 10 years younger than I am (I am 33). One of the funniest ones to date was when I was pregnant. I was getting out of my car with my other kids at the grocery store. This guy in a truck pulls up and starts talking to me and I quickly said something about 'married, pregnant, two kids'. Well, he didn't listen and kept talking so I got out of the car with the kids in tow with my belly sticking out... and it still didn't phase him! He was probably early 20s... but I told him sorry, no thanks, I was old enough to be his mother. I'm not technically old enough to be his mother but sheesh... The worst (yet still funny) one was probably when a friend of mine and I went to a local carnival. This little boy (in my opinion) came up to me and said - here's a note from my friend, he likes you. I opened it up and there was a name and phone number! These boys were probably 11 or 12, I was 21! Ack. Embarrassing! Let's hear yours!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
28 Apr 08
no, i am not. actually i think i am not taht beautiful lot. so it does not ahppen taht often . also till now it did not hapoend to me. the only reason being i am not so atractive.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
=( You seem like a beautiful person from your posts here. Physical beauty cannot be the only thing that draws people to each other. I am sure attraction is made up of more than that, because sometimes I am a sweaty mess when I get hit on, certainly not what *I* would go for LOL!
• United States
28 Apr 08
getting hit on is no big thing its the everybody trying to sleep with me that kills me i like to meet new people but they all end up diggin on me people ruin the relationship they are in by tryin to get with me so most of my friends are leary of having thier boyfriends/girlfriends around me and honestly i dont do anything to futher it myself im a big flirt true but all in fun people must take that to mean more than it is
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
It's a shame that some people believe if you're fun and friendly or even a little flirty that it means you 'invited attention' or 'want something'. What happened to accepting friendliness at face value and also not crossing the line with a stranger? I've even encountered jerks who will say that rings mean nothing and that they should get a chance anyway because what if you like them better than your husband? A-holes...
@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I think the most memorable was when I was also pregnant. Some friends and I were eating at a restaurant when I was about 8 months pregnant. There were some local police men sitting at a table across from us. So of course I was sitting down and my belly was covered by the table so you really couldn't see that I was pregnant unless you were sitting next to me. But anyways, you could tell they were making comments about me to each other and one of them kept smiling at me. So one of them got up from his chair and walked over to our table and introduced himself to me. I stood up (knowing he had no idea I was pregnant) and shook his hand. You know those cartoons when you see someone's jaw drop to the floor... Yeah that happened. It was hilarous. He of course, turned beat red and went back to his table. I also could see his buddies were in shock. Made me feel good knowing I was pregnant and still had it! hahahaha.. hubby even laughed at it when I told him later.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
27 Apr 08
LOL! I was about 8 months pregnant when the situation happened with me, I suppose that a lot of women just have that 'pregnancy glow'. I certainly enjoyed being pregnant, but I definitely did not think I would get THAT type of attention. =) I don't think it surprises my husband at all. It surprises me because I spent a good chunk of my teen and early 20s feeling like a complete and total dork.
• Canada
28 Apr 08
That's one of the things that I love about not being a teenager anymore - nobody knows that everybody considered me a dork in high school!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I moved away from where I grew up, so anybody that I have the opportunity to know now doesn't believe me! I do have old photos but for some reason my friends don't see a dork but I do. LOL!
@tessah (6617)
• United States
28 Apr 08
;chuckles; the first one isnt really a hit-on, but is to date the best boost to my ego. my husband and i were walking down the stree, hand in hand, and these two very attractive young men (early twenties) were walking opposite direction. as they got past, one of them yelled to my husband "dewd yer girl is f*cking HAWT!!!" my husband giggled a bit, squeezed my hand and yelled back to him "i know!!" i was 31 at the time. the most dramatic and had to be THE most embarrassing for the guy.. i was walking to the store to pick up milk.. and there was a man on his porch as i went by. he smiled at me, i smiled back as is customary to acknowledge his existance. he said hello.. nice day, i said hello back, yes indeed it is.. and continued on.. as i got past his porch he says to me "youre pretty... can i eat you??" i stopped walking and turned around. he gives me this big smile.. the scene as followed:;tilts head to the side and looks at him;"does that ever really work for you?""has any woman ever responded with...";starts walking back towards him.. pretending to tear my clothes off.. my voice growing louder and louder;"gods yes, YES!! i HAVE to have you NOW NOW NOW!!!!"by this point im standing in front of his porch tearing at my clothes and hair in an absolute fit of mime-acted wanton desire and screamed at him "whats wrong with you?!?!"he very quickly lost his smile and hurried back into his house and closed the door!! from then on, whenever i was making my way downtown and he saw me coming.. hed scurry back inside ..;laughs hysterically;..
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Holy cow! See, I am never in the right frame of mind to get them back for the come-on or the comment. I see maybe I could get rid of some of them if I had the presence of mind in the moment! I've thought about carrying a list of snappy comebacks but it would lose all authenticity if I had to rummage in my purse for the list and then read thru till I found a good one for the situation! I am starting to laugh now... as never but never have I ever been tempted to yell out to some girl that 'yer dude is f*cking hawt', much less deal with any of the consequences should said girl come unglued about it! I wonder why this is acceptable behavior for men.
28 Apr 08
It does happen to me, but less often as I now live in a small village. My partner notices men looking, and I get embarrassed as attention is usually from younger men because I also look younger than I am!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I still get carded! I imagine that I may have a grandbaby with me eventually and STILL get carded. No, it is not a flattering thought.
• United States
28 Apr 08
Getting hit on is NOT a fun experience... I'm 24, married and have 2 little girls. I'm so not interested in anyone else other than my husband, so when a dude walks up to me and starts talking I'm just plain not interested. It doesn't matter if I'm alone or if I'm with my family, someone always seems to gawk or try to stir up conversation, usually I look down to make sure I don't have toilet paper stuck to the bottom of one of my heels LOL. If I saw something like that I'd be staring too. I'd have to say though, my most embarassing "hit on" experience would be while I was working. I'm a private nurse who cares for a 16 year old boy and I work with a personal care attendent who is 19. We took our client to the arcade for the day, we walk into the place and we are pretty much the only people in there except for the employee thats in there. From the back this person looked like a guy, short spikey bleached blonde hair and a kind of stalky build. The employee turns around and low and behold this once though male employee has boobs. I couldn't even begin to tell you what she may have thought from the look on my face. Please don't get me wrong I have nothing against people attracted to the same gender I was just shocked. So anyway, we're playing arcade games and the employee comes over to me and starts talking to me about my tattoos. She touches my arm and asks if she can see the rest of the project on my left arm.. I say sure because she has ink too and obviously she can appreciate that sort of thing. Its just about time to leave and I'm crouching down to pick up my clients medication bag and she spots the one on my lower back. As she pulls up the back of my shirt I hear, damn thats nice. I stood up pretty damn fast, shimmied my pants up a bit higher and ran out of the arcade. It was just so weird for me to go through that sort of experience and I hope I never do again:)
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Eeeek! Yes, being that I don't swing that way either, attention from a girl is very very odd. One of my friends got very drunk one time and over breakfast in the middle of the night (I was trying to sober her up before I took her home) she starts talking about how she thinks I'm beautiful and she's in love with me. I just told her she drank too much and she wasn't going to remember any of this and I promised I was NOT recording it to blackmail her with it at work the following week. =P
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I think the funniest was when I was living alone, and my oldest daughter lived in the same city. We used to go out every once in a while, this time I was playing pool against the guy, looked to be about 23 or so, and it was my turn, well he went over to my daughter and told her he wanted to take her friend home! lol, she is a blonde, I am brunett......without missing a beat, she looked over (across the pool table from where she was sitting) and said 'Hey mom, this guy wants to take you home' LOL, he asked her why she called me that.....and she answered ' because she is my mom' It was funny how the conversation changed to other things at that point! LOL It never really bothered me, unless they just really got obnoxious about it, then I'd put a stop to it....I never had a problem of saying what was on my mind.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
My (step) daughter is now 18, a couple years ago when she was 16, she and I were shopping in Barnes & Noble. This youngish looking guy walked up to me in line and started talking about how he was sorry he didn't get back in touch with me blah blah blah. I kind of looked at him funny and he went on to ask why i didn't remember him, we went to school together the year before. At this point my daughter is snickering, so I asked him what school, because I haven't been in school in over 14 years! I think at that point he realized maybe he had the wrong person, but he told me a high school in the district over. I politely told him that I was 31 and I didn't go to high school around here when I DID go but he could talk to my daughter - who was in high school. LOL!
@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Yes, I do get hit on alot. But I do not really like it. I am 56 years old.I am told I look about 40 I get hit on by really young guys. ones that are younger than my kids and real old men,too.I will tell the young guys I am older than your mother or I am old enough to be your mother, they say they don't care, they like older women,soficatted women.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Bleh. I don't really like it either. You'd think saying that you're married would stop the advances, but in a lot of cases young men like this don't take the hint and continue anyway!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I work in the public so yes...i get that alot and it is usually by old married men. They are the worst. Ladies....follow your hubbies to the store please. To the other extreme, I get it from the "kids" meaning as you said ...i'm old enough to be their mom. I had one guy that I'd known since he was maybe 17....needed to "talk"...I thought absolutely nothing of it. He is now 30 but still. I told him to stop by for coffee. Oh my god...This guy came on so strong....I handled it well, I think. We are still on good terms but it was a bit awkward for a while afterwards. what is weirdest of all is that no on in my own age group that is single ever hits on me. Just the little kids and dirty old married men or just dirty old drunk men....yuck! and people wonder why I choose to remain single. given the options, what better way is there? 1
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I've noticed this to be the case too! I don't know why, but at least it's nice knowing that it's common and not something that happens only to a few.
@MsCYPRAH (394)
28 Apr 08
I am considered to be 'stunning', 'beautiful' or 'sexy' by a variety of men, especially younger men. The fact that I am 60 years old does not appear to phase them one bit, perhaps because I look about 15 years younger. Don't get me wrong, I think very highly of myself too and don't need them to tell me how I look. But ever since I left my long marriage, I have had a train of men behind me wanting to date. It could be because of my increased self-assurance, the way I act, some hidden attributes I'm not aware of, or whatever. I wish I knew the secret as I would bottle it and sell it immediately! My friends don't know how I do it because they are always complaining, jealously, about not attracting any men, and can't find any good fellas while I seem to have a surplus! I tend to get hit on mainly by men between 30 and 45, some who fervently believe they can make my day and know what would make me happy! Except that they don't know what would make my day so that is a bold assumption! Only two days ago one 41 year old promised that he could be where I live within an hour with baby oil at the ready as he finds my picture so sexy, he can't stop thinking about me!! What he was going to do with that, as I have no babies in my household, would have been interesting to see. But the encounter that stayed in my head was this one, two years ago, when I got into a near-heated discussion with a 36 year old who refused to take no for an answer when I wouldn't consent to a date with him. He was very mature but I had a 35 year old son and told him that I did not feel comfortable dating anyone near the age of my kids. He started to tell me off that I was 'ageist' and was trying to limit his right to whom he desired. It seemed my right to also desire whom I wanted obviously didn't come into it! He argued for at least 20 minutes adding that, for someone who dealt in diversity matters as well, I shouldn't be ageist, deliberately missing the point of why I had put a restriction on that age group. I have to say that he was very articulate, handsome, very confident and argued his corner well in some respects. I think if he were about five years older I might have relented just to see who he really was, because he was fun to talk to as well. But the one thing about me is that having had a long and enjoyable life already, I know what I am seeking in a partner and so do not waste time with people I do not fancy hitting on to me. I tend to despatch them very quickly for a quiet life. However, I have to say that I do secretly enjoy the attention as it is rather flattering to be wanted and admired at this time of my life as if I were still in my twenties. So I am certainly not complaining too much! I would begin to worry when they stopped looking. :o)
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Confidence and the way one carries themselves definitely come to mind when people think about what they like in another. I've heard that confidence makes a girl sexy, and I do believe it. It's flattering to a point but like you say, it's okay to flatter, it's not okay to continue to argue after a lady has made her point and said her piece, which was 'no thank you'. I wouldn't consider myself 'ageist'... my husband is 10 years older than me, but what I find comfortable and essential in a relationship is both companionship and security, as well as more obvious things like common interests, physical attraction, etc, and the first two things are rarely things that younger men are able to bring to a relationship. Younger people have experienced less of life and have different perspectives, and they may not understand the same depth, and the importance. My husband has even told me that I might have considered him immature and silly and a goof when he was younger, and we wouldn't have hit it off at all. Time does work wonders for some =)
@febinsoft (213)
• India
27 Apr 08
YA i remember i got a hit today. Because of some the idiots in our college. They come near me scold me and then hit me. Then what can i do? One day i will take the revenge.
• Canada
28 Apr 08
I'm sorry, are you joking or do you really think that that's what is being discussed here?
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Very interesting =) Every now and then I see a response like this, at least it creates some comic relief!
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
27 Apr 08
umm doesnt bother me much i guess depending who hitting on me , like this one time , it was this really old woman , now i dont know if i looked too much into her body langue but she was whispering something to me now mind you i was in the Wal Mart Checking line and she just comes up and start giving all the signs like battering eyes and all that ...im kinda disgusted but yet proud too but yet ewwww you know
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• Philippines
30 Apr 08
hahaha! I've started experiencing this after I transferred to a new school. I've been told by my friends that I'm the boyish type but some guys, I think, disagrees. Funny thing is, its foreigner dudes that usually hit on me. There's this African guy in school who once made a remark about my booty and checked me out from head to toe. There's another one, an Iranian guy. He kept showing up in the library when I'm studying and he always sit in front of me. Once the sit in front of me is occupied so he sat 3 tables away. When the girl in front of me left, he moved in front of me! And these stuff happen only with the foreigner dudes in school..
• United States
30 Apr 08
im flattered when a guy hits on me but if im taken i let them know it some time is embarrassing cause you dont know what to say and you dont want to hurt the person but you got to be honest
@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Apr 08
i don't know if i have any embarrassing stories, but i have been hit on when i was pregnant with both of my boys. it is a bit odd to have some guy trying to talk to you like that when your belly is out to there, but hey some men think pregnant women are very attractive
@pangeacat (619)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Yes, I get hit on regularly, and it bothers me quite a bit. I have friends who tell me to take it as a compliment, it's no big deal, they just saw something they liked and let it be known, I'm being a beeatch, relax, and so on. Whether it makes me a beeatch or not, I don't like it and I'm not going to pretend as if I do! More then bothering me, there are times it down right ticks me off, or even creeps me out! One time, I was walking down the street to go to subway. It was summer so, granted, I was wearing a tank top with my jeans. I was also sweating like a stuck pig and pushing a double stroller with my two small children. It was a busy street that I had to walk along for a little while (on the sidewalk, of course). This guy stops and pulls over to the side of the road, to ask me for my phone number and let me know that my frontal region is "hot". Forget embarrassing! I had two small children with me! That's just down right rude! Another time, I had a guy follow me, honking and shouting for my attention while I was walking to a friends house. So creepy! He followed me for three blocks! I finally turned around and had to ask what he wanted and what would make him go away! He had the audacity to ask for my phone number, and offer me a ride to wherever I was going! I told him that cars made me sick and I didn't have a phone! When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a group of three guys whistling and cat calling at me while I was walking to jack in the box, just up the street from where we were living at the time. Can you believe that? I was pregnant for crying out loud! And, when you are that pregnant (I was about 7 months or so) and walking in the humid summer of Texas, you almost hate men on principal to begin with! When I was pregnant with my second, I got hit on in the drive through of Carls's Jr., on my way to the hospital, after my water had broken! I'm just sitting there thinking, "Yeah guy, I'm sitting here leaking amniotic fluid onto the towel under my bum, having mild contractions, dilating, and waiting to give birth. Yep, my mind is on s3x.
• United States
22 Jun 08
Thank you for the best response. Sorry I'm delayed in that, I haven't been on much lately, and I always forget to check the best responses, lol. I know what you mean though. Most of the time, it's such a "WTH?" moment, you really can't think of much to say to them until you're thinking about it later. And, like you, I think that if they "see something they like" and wish to compliment the woman they're looking at, they should find something a little less rude, creepy, idiotic, and/or crude to say. Give a woman a compliment, fine. But, be respectful about it! ESPECIALLY when it's quite obvious that she's married and/or has children (who may even be present at the time it crosses your mind to say something about the way she looks).
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Your experiences remind me of me, so you earn the quality best response! Cheers! People tell me to take it as a compliment too... well, in my opinion they need to learn how to compliment people appropriately =D. Saying NICE BUTT or NICE BOOBS, wanna rub them on me?? certainly isn't an example of a way to get smiled at. I won't pretend I like it either, and most of the time I'm at a loss for a nice snappy snarky comeback because my jaw is dropped to the pavement and my kids are looking at me in fits of giggles.
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@theprogamer (10535)
• United States
27 Apr 08
"Do you get hit on regularly" Ha! Nope, not at all. Never. I get the exact opposite so to speak (dumb, inhuman or disgusting stares/glances).
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@theprogamer (10535)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I just said it, (the stares, glares and odd glances). But yes there is some evasion, there is a little ridicule (or muttering), plus I'm aware I'm not exactly "visible" to the opposite gender.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Apr 08
What do you mean? People avoid you or make fun? =(