Using offensive language

@Kowgirl (3492)
United States
April 27, 2008 2:37pm CST
Why is it all (Or almost all) teenagers use such bad and offensive language even in social sites where it isn't acceptable? Does talking like that(cursing) make them feel older? I have noticed that it has become such a problem in some forums and social sites that they are being banned from the sites. I can understand that they hear it a lot more now than when I was younger but doesn't the parents ever hear them and tell them it isn't nice to use such language. If you have any idea why they do this please enlighten me!
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23 responses
• United States
4 May 08
It's not just the teens. I know plenty of adults who don't know any other word to describe things besides the F word. Sure the parents probably hear them but most of the parents I know talk just like them and don't see anything wrong with it.
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• United States
5 May 08
Maybe you should take your @%#$%ing potty thoughts some place else?
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@Hatley (162120)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Sep 08
whatsher face, let me get this clear did you just swear at the person who responded to you? that could be c alled flaming and its not allowed on mylot.do you want to get your points and all the r est of us points deleted?
@Hatley (162120)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Sep 08
clemor whatever did not swear at you , why are you being offensive with your potty mouth?
@megumiart (3782)
• United States
27 Apr 08
being a teen, I think I may be able to answer this question. xD I think teens use bad words because we are just so emotionally overwhelmed, and we think no one else knows how we feel. So we use bad words to try to get people to understand how we feel.
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• United States
28 Apr 08
The thing about it is you can get people to understand how you feel without the use of strong language. I understand what you are saying I just don't believe the use of strong language brings across the way you are feeling.
• United States
18 Sep 08
I HATE when I hear teens cursing it just sound so bad! and it looks wrong! Not old enough to handle what there saying and they usually use in the wrong context!
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@reene0225 (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I'll try to help ya out a bit. I'm 20 years old. I do curse quite a bit. I don't do it as much in public as I do at home, however I don't really notice I'm doing it. It doesn't make me feel older or anything. It's just a kind of habit I guess. I don't curse here on mylot. I know better than that. I might slip up once in a while around my grandma but I know when I do because it's mentioned. My dad cursed a lot around me from the time I was 14 to now. Not that it makes any difference. I also grew up in a very ghetto town and I went to the worst highschool in the town. Cursing was no big thing there. Some of the teachers even cursed. Not very often and not around very many people, but it still happened. I think that it is just kind of more accepted now. Not completely but enough to where they don't think about it.
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@kryzteta (52)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
One reason may be of what they see in television now a days or learn from peers. I am 33 years old and I only learned to curse when I was in college! lol!
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@mbs730 (2155)
• Canada
28 Apr 08
Yeah thats a tough one. I am not sure if kids are trying to act older by using offensive language but perhaps using offensive language may in a way relieve frustrations they feel. I know for me that has been the case and I know this sounds weird but it does make me feel better LOL... but if anyone has a need to cuss, they shouldn't do it on forums or in any inappropriate settings. Many kids are also impulsive, and if they have a need to cuss, they will no matter where they are. Thats my feeling on it.
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@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I will admit to using inapproraite language, even in front of my children. I am trying my hardest not to though. I am getting better at it. I dont however post it in forums or in discussions such as this. I dont really swear that often, expept for when I am very angry. I have cut back alot but wish I could cut back more. It does amaze me at how often people use the "F" word and Ahole and crap like that. I have seen young children using bad language and the parents not saying anything about it. Yeah right when I grew up, oh boy that was the end of it. I knew better growing up. My children know better too for now as they are still young. I would really like to know why children use that kind of language as well.
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@nowment (1758)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I think it is in part due to the fact that to them it is not so much about using bad language because to them it is just a bunch of words, just adjetives, For others it is likely a rebellion issue, a change in the language and venacular that is being used, while it is not quite slang, it is similar. Then you asked don't the parents ever hear them? well in many instances the parents may hear them but are likely using the same words themselves. Each generation seems to be doing their own thing. And so many just don't see it as wrong. I personally don't see a need to add these words to my vocabulary, and I have cussed but used them at times well as they were originally used extreme moments. And even then it is rare. I think the more something is heard it is going to be used more. Now it is in movies, used by most people around etc, so that well it is not thought of as offensive. Then there are those who the more it is banned, or the more it is put down, then the more likely they are to use it.
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@kezabelle (2985)
27 Apr 08
Maybe its the way they are brought up that makes them use it more, I mean if foul languge is common while your growing up youre bound to pick it up. Maybe thats why the parents dont care, so I cant stop my child ever hearing a swear word but I can do my best to make sure she doesnt hear them at home and certainly make sure neither of them repeats them more than once!
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@Hatley (162120)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Sep 08
kowgirl come on it is not just the kids but the parents too, as I found out when I worked in our Tustin Library. the kid would lip off with a bunch of f words, and d words and the parent would then say you little bast**d you, dword,f word how dare you talk like that? fu** you , now ones as bad as the other,. and its do as I say not as I do. the kids do what the parents do so parents should wash out their own mouths with soap and be good examples for their kids.
@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
15 Sep 08
to attract attention. and it depends the parents too.
@dfollin (12115)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Because they think it is acting cool and growup.I would tell my son's to stop,but would they listen,no way.
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
13 Jun 08
I don't like this either, it really makes me mad. I have no idea why children/teens talk this way although I wish they would realize that it just makes them sound so uneducated. 2 of my children use slang when they talk to me and I have to remind them that I am not their little pal on the playground.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
1 May 08
maybe because they think it is cool. if they like eminem and they hear him cursing in his song then they will pick that up and find it so cool. they would feel like they are rappers too. i have a two year old son and i will not allow him to be like that. me and my wife try our best not to say something bad and even if we have some misunderstading we talk about it as civil as we can
• United States
28 Apr 08
I must agree with you that it is indeed a shame. I mean i am a youg woman and people question me all the time as to y i hardly ever curse or say diragatory things. And truthfully its not me. I cant tell you how many times i have been in stores or a the mall and hear groups of teens talking and there are like four normal words exchanged during the conversation and the rest consists of profanity. I just thinks its how a lot of them look at and view society. So many think that its ok to say things like this. A lot dont know thats it offensive especially when it is done out in a public atmosphere. It could be songs and things that they see on tv. Which nowadays you can turn your kids or protect them from things such as this. I guess its like a learning experience that the ones who have it worse are gonn ahave to learn from. And the sad part about...a lot never learn. They will be full pledge adults still talking and doing the same things they were doing as a teen.
@KrauseHome (33888)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I work with a woman in her early 30's that has attrocious language like this as well. What is worse is sometimes she is one minute saying she is Blessed, or mentions God, and the next minute using language I feel is very unacceptable especially in the work force. I have often wondered why people feel they need to talk like this? Does it make them feel Big or Special, or is that the only way they know how to act? And if or when you have kids, what is it going to teach them, and how can you have any hope for them? To me, this world is turning into an unthankful generation. There is no respect for anyone or anything anymore, and the morals have gone by the wayside as well. For anyone to ever expect there to be much of a chance, you would have to bring God back into their lives and schools. Until that happens you can often just wonder what is going to happen next, and when.
• Canada
28 Apr 08
I have no clue. I didn't join in with the cursing language to much when I was younger and I still don't in my later years. I just can't stand to hear the sound of it and I can't stand to see it come out of someone's mouth even my own. I think teenagers do feel it makes them seem older and more mature but it does the opposite and I think some kids are smart enough to know that. I am not sure why adults do it especially when cursing is a regular part of their everyday speech. I have one friend that is a farily new friend. She knows I hate swearing but she still does it around me. I don't mind around me but I do mind around my grandchildren and in my home. I don't know if she does it our of disrespect for me or if she just really doesn't see the point. Yes ago people use to correct their children/teens for swearing but now people say will they are going to do it anyway so why bother. If they are going to swear out and about then why not be themselves at home. What kind of thinking is this? One lady I met a few years back said will I swear so how can I tell my children not to swear? I said will you got a point there; but I still think I would tell my kids it is not a good habit to get into. I don't know if my post makes much sense but I do know I find cursing one of the most unatractive things people do for themselves.
@aswinbio (174)
• India
28 Apr 08
it happens every where and they don bother about it...
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
28 Apr 08
I am 21 this year. I personally do not use offensive language myself. Maybe it's part of the influence from my high school teacher. I think it's rude and makes me feel uncomfortable. I think teen use offensive language because they think it's cool. My sister use them from time to time. I can not figure out why 100%. But for one thing, the circumstance they live in is just like that. The people they met keep using that language. If they don't, it's somehow like out of date. For another, they just get used to it after using the language for that long. The words just come out the mouth without hesitation.
@hcpoirot (1562)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 08
Too many watching TV or movie without parents guidance. And probably they saw some kids in school use it and thought it was cool. Being teenager is at their most vulnearble stage when they can be easily persuade to do or act something bad. But not all or almost all teenagers use bad language. Maybe only half? :D