Do you think that everyone stops being friends with someone at some point?

@SomeCowgirl (32273)
United States
April 29, 2008 3:09am CST
Do you think that losing friendship between you and a friend is inevitable? A lot of people think they will lose friends from the transition from middle to high school, or from high school graduation, or from college graduation. Some people think that they will lose their friends once they marry their lover. When do you think people lose the friends the most? High school? College? Marriage? Middle School? Why do you think you stop being friends with this person? This discussion came to my mind as I feel that in some instances I am drifting away from my friends as we live in seperate counties and are not able to see each other because of our coflicts in schedules.
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@meiteoh (421)
• Switzerland
8 May 08
I think this is just part of life. It used to have a huge impact on me when my friends and I drifted apart - especially the ones I made from my high school days - until I spoke to other people about it and discovered that this is normal. As people grow older, they change - priorities, position and principles in life are no longer different. We have come to a point where we just stop sharing similarities. In school, my friends and I share the same goals - study, and graduate. But after that, we all went our separate ways - our personalities change and etc. I developed more "homey" hobbies like knitting and cooking compared to my other high school friends who all adore hanging out at night clubs and shopping. I got married while the rest of them stayed single. When we last met, there was nothing we had in common - they enjoyed talking about men, dating and flirting while I just sat there like a stupid cow because I had no idea who they were talking about and by that time I was already out of the game. Along the way, I made new friends and friendships which still last because we have a lot more in common and well, I suppose because we share the same personality... If you feel that you're drifting apart because of the distance, why not email or keep in touch via MSN or other tools? I regularly buzz my best friend(s) over MSN and occasionally, I drop them a postcard. It helps...even though it won't be like meeting them face-to-face. :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
8 May 08
I am aware that people change. My Friends and I are currently drifting apart and I believe it has in partial to do with me living in another county and partially to do with me "changing" so much. Like you I have fallen more homey, even though I already was before... I did adapt for them, and hung out with them alot.. now that i've become more of a homey person with doing things for my fiance, they have drifted. My only concern is, they do the same as me, yet they feel it is wrong that I do it. They also may feel insulted because I do not wish to go to their county.
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• United States
8 May 08
Baby, they apparently dont like the way you changed,or they think you have only changed because I wanted you too,which isnt true.They may feel insulted,but so are we because we dont know if they will actually come to our county or not.
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@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
1 May 08
In some ways I think losing friendship with friends is inevitable because as times change,people changed,just like when you go from middle to high school,or high school to college,so of course your gonna lose friends. When it comes to getting married I think that in ways you lose your friends,because you dont have as much time for them,but at the same time friendships can be strengthened.Honestly I think there isnt a time in which people lose their friends the most,I think it just depends on whether or not you are willing to fight,and if they are really your friends, cause if they are they will call you or visit you or maybe even email you.I know the situation with your friends looks bad right now,but dont give up hope,because even though they wont come to our county, and they dont call you,they might still turn out to be good friends afterall.
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