How much do you have care about what the other's say about you

By Bala
@balasri (26554)
India
April 29, 2008 12:14pm CST
if you want to be successful in life?
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12 responses
@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I used to think it really mattered what others thought and said about me. It bothered me to the point of making myself ill sometimes. The older I got the more I realized that most of the time what other people say doesn't matter all that much. A lot of times people will say negative things to entertain themselves or others or to make themselves feel better about themselves. I mean there is some merit to listening to what others say. You have to decide personally what is important and what isn't. Sometimes hearing the opinions of others will help you to improve yourself. Other times it can be very destructive. Use what is helpful and let the rest roll off your back.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Apr 08
They can always say that 'I have given you just an idea and it is your responsibility to be cautious'.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
1 May 08
What others? Who are they and what are they saying? Are they saying nice things? Cause I do care if they are being mean. ha ha Truly, if you want to be successful, you can not have people talk about you in a negative manner. If you want to get the next job or that next promotion, do you think that would be given to a person that no one likes and has absolutely nothing nice to say? I think not. Besides, I like being thought of in a nice manner. I am not one of those women that will openly and proudly admit that I am a female dog. Sorry...I am not and I take offense should someone call me such.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
1 May 08
You do the right things and still people are jealous and talk bad abut you.You dress up neat and and act perfect with a smiling face and still people burn with envy and talk bad about you.Do you have to mind them?This was my question Tia. I am liked by so many and envied by by some in my personal life.I just ignore them and go my way being the good person I am.Thanks Tia.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
30 Apr 08
I spend almost 70% of my time thinking about these kind of issues but don't know how successful I am.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Apr 08
Get into some action and try knowing.
@sophialin (2678)
• China
30 Apr 08
frankly speaking,i care little about what others say about me.i just do what i think right and deserved.in my opinion,i should take responsibility for what i have done and never make success at the cost of others.that's all.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Apr 08
That is a very positive attitude Sophia.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Is nice to be respected by others ,but to tell you the truth I don't really care much about what others think of me. No matter what you do in this world, you are always going to have people who appreciate you and people who don't like you no matter what you do for others.
@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Apr 08
Absolutely 100%.
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
29 Apr 08
no i dont care what people have to say about me or how i live my life , like i came to a point where criticism comes with the program of life basically no matter what you do , no matter what your trying to become in life to make YOUR SELF HAPPY ..there's always negative portral around the corner , and it doesnt just apply to people you dont know it can become your own family , your friends anyone who thinks that you are doing better than them but doesnt want you to know that will attempt to bring you down ..so they can take it as disrespect if i dont listen to them ..who cares ?!! i dont i keep it moving and continue on to my goals ..wheither my family or friends are going to be there thats up to them period..never care about what people have to say ..you want something go get it
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• India
29 Apr 08
If you want to be successful, you should develop a thick skin. This means you shouldn't really give a damn what others think or say about you. Now, this doesn't mean that you should pretend others don't exist or do things that are hurtful to others. It simply means you should trust in your self enough to know that you are doing the right thing in your life. It also doesn't mean that you shouldn't communicate with others or listen to what others say. Sometimes, you get valuable information from others. It simply means you don't have to act as if the other's word is a statement from the Bible.
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I care what my husband and mother say. Their opinions matter to me. After that, not much. Life is too short. I would concentrate on reaching my goals. If I let others opinions affect me I don't think I would get too far. Later I would like to know that my child has a high opinion of me.
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@zeloguy (4915)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I am very proud about what I have been able to accomplish in life and there is a lot further I want to go but if anybody says anything negative it doesn't mean anything to me 'cause I know what I have done and where I am going. There is a phrase that is used here in the States. "There are talkers and there are doers" I am a doer! Thanks Zelo
@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Jul 08
I don't want to talk more about your response.Great.
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@littleowl (7157)
5 May 08
Hi Balasri-I don't really care what people think about how successful I've been in my life-as far as I'm concerned I'm happy with mylot (excuse the pun ) and if others have a problem about it then its nothing to do with me-littleowl
@lagrooms (119)
29 Apr 08
If their not close family,i could care less!
• United States
29 Apr 08
When I was younger, I used to care more than I do now. And, I don't want to hear it secondhand, either. If the person didn't say it to my face, I don't want to know about it unless it's causing a problem. If I were using someone as a reference for a job interview, then I would care much more. But, if it's just gossip, etc., it doesn't matter unless they're making my life more difficult.