Update on the big talk with s/o...
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
April 29, 2008 4:07pm CST
We had our big talk with him about his behavior, anger issues and our concern for his safety and ours. I was totally prepared for him to get mad and we all had examples and counter arguments to how we expected him to react.
Instead, he basically looked at us like we were delusional and insisted that he is fine. It honestly felt like he felt like we were all joking. When we said we would move the race cars to a friend's house if he didn't agree to at least some counseling...he just laughed and said he was thinking about taking the season off anyway.
I have no idea what is going on in his head. I'm not sure he knows what is going on in his head. So now we'll go to plan B...we have no idea what Plan B is though besides getting us (me, the little ones, and stepson) out of here as soon as we can...most likely over the summer. We still want him to get better since he'll be a part of our lives for a long time either way but we are now clueless as to how to go about that and really don't want to just wait until he self destructs.
At least we tried....
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7 responses
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Well it sounds like he is in denial and until he can accept that he has an issue, it isn't even going to any good even if he does go to counseling, because if he doesn't think he has any issues to work on, then I think it would be fruitless. He first has to come to terms that he has issues.
I think though in the meantime, your plan B is the only thing that you can do to keep your family safe.
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@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Wow foxy, that scares me, not a typical reaction from the things you have written about his behavior. Were there people present that he would not want to know how he actually acts? If there were that may explain how he reacted, if not then I am clueless. I would keep a close eye for the next bit. This is just weirdo. Let us know how it goes.
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I guess you just have to keep trying and continue to protect your children from his anger and bad behavior. If he doesn't see that he has a problem right now, he may after thinking about it for a bit.
You and the kids could go to a hotel for the weekend and not let him know where you are. Use cash instead of credit. This might make him realize that you are serious about not living with him while he is acting like such a brat.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I really need to ask this question...I did respond to your other discussion about this. In my response there I kind of hinted that with his wild mood swings he just could be bi-polar..severe mood swings are the classic symptom of bi-polar...but then something else hit me as well..is your s/o taking any medications now? The reason I ask is that some medications can trigger off bizarre emotional problems as well
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Sounds like your s/o is in denial and now you need a plan B..Have you considered going to a counselor not for yourself, but to ask them how to deal with your s/o?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 08
That really shows that he is bipolar just the same way mybranch manager was. one day she was floating on air and nobody could upset her over anything. it was almost as though she did not hear us when we told her something was not right but the nextday the you know what would hit the fan and she would act like a mad woman and yell you should have told me. I am sorry that the talk did not work out, I have no idea of what to tell you but he sounds like he does need help. Emily did not get itand was finally fired but he could be helped with medications.
