How Do You React When Dealing With Stress?
May 1, 2008 2:33am CST
Some people tell me I tend to over react some. My husband tells me I just need to calm down and face things a little more quietly as they come. Right now due to me trying to get over this Cold, and Laryngitis it takes nothing at all to stress me out. But then at the same time I have a lot of pressures in my life right now I really need some answers for, and until some of this happens, I feel like I am so wound up at times. First there is an issue with a Company that ended up making my CREDIT horrible. I had to fight with them even to get anywhere. I finally got a payoff amount from them, and had to go to the Bank and get a loan from them to pay it off. Then it took me to call them before they showed a 0 balance. I payed them over $5000 in just the last 2 yrs. and they are trying to tell me I owed them still a lot of money besides this, so they took a loss by doing this. The reason it is such an issue is I am wanting to buy a New place, and we want to sell our Condo. When I was talking with a loan officer the other day, she was not sympathetic with me at all, and told me I would have to wait at least a yr. to see if my Credit improves. Also, she told my husband and I even if we had Excellent Credit, we did not make enough $$, and so no one would want to get us a loan. I was like in shock, as I have never heard anyone saying something like this before even ever trying to crunch some numbers. We even talked with someone else in November that told us the main issue was the Household Finance thing I paid off, and $$ would not be an issue. So now I feel like this woman was just not wanting to help us, and may have wanted the place we were looking at wanting to buy herself. Unless due to all the Financial issues people are having with homes, Foreclosures, etc. how could this be a real issue so much more so now than then? We even make a little more now than then as well. I just know honestly, I was not impressed with her at all, so we have decided to look elsewhere for a place to buy. We are still interesting in getting a double wide as they are a lot cheaper, and quite roomy. We even went and looked at a 3 bedroom one again tonight thru someone else. The only thing that sort of bothers me, is that they usually are in a lot, and they have a land lot you pay. So I guess that could be a drawback here? If it were you, what should we do? We live in a 1 bedroom Condo, we have been buying. It just is way too small for us, and we really want to buy something else, and Love the idea of a double wide. I would Love to hear some ideas, and suggestions, and things we need to consider with wanting to do this, and if you have been thru this, how do you deal with the stress without wanting to take it out on someone as well?
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1 May 08
It seems there are lots of problem with you at this time.IF you really want good then just dont think anything about money at this moment. Just cool down and think about a garden in your yard or think about sweet trip to a countryside , think about your childhood days, think about your marriage, keep one thing in your mind nothing is more important than peace of mind. just forget everything for now and tell your baby a story and hug your baby. when after doing this you will feel better then go to your husband and think what to do net sitting together
2 May 08
I think stress is the worst thing to tolerate and i think if one wins over it than stress can't do anything. So i think if we get something going wrong in our mind that is teasing us or making us sad then the best way is to divert your mind by doing some creative activities like gardening, playing or go for a long drive or just go and sit at one end of the lake that will surely help you to calm down. I think taking the things positive and trying to sort it out calmly can help a lot in the case and releasing the stress rather than showing anxiety. So what i think just be calm and only think of the best time you ever had and don't worry these are the parts of life, everybody is facing such situations. Just stand like a rock and face it with the courage.
2 May 08
I am sorry for all you are going through. But I am in no position to give suggestions as I deal with stress poorly myself. I either over eat or lash out, and its never pretty or productive. Just keep talking, and hopefully that will help some. I know with me it does a bit.
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1 May 08
I usually respond to the sorts of stress you're talking about by burying my head in the sand, so to speak. I have a car loan for a can that I increasingly wish I didn't own, but I just don't look at how much we still owe. I know we're going to live in an apartment for a good long while before we can buy a house, so I just try not to look at the "for sale" signs popping up in our neighborhood. This isn't the best solution, unfortunately, and it only works if you've decided to be un-ambitious for a bit. In my case, though, I'm being ambitious in terms of my job, so I don't bother with ambition in other aspects of my life. :)