Are you in good terms with your EX?

@chechuva (1276)
Philippines
May 1, 2008 6:44am CST
i would proudly say that im closer with my ex right now than when im in relationship with them. i think we're really good as friends. at times people said that its really odd to be friends with my ex's but i don't know, i just enjoy being friends with them. but honestly, i don't let their girlfriends see me laughing with their bfs.. you know they might misunderstood me.. how about you, are you in good terms with your EXs?
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@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
16 May 08
I am not on good terms with my ex's but I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it is up to the 2 people and how their relationship was and how it ended. I think that people should be friends with whoever they can instead of not being friends but sometimes the circumstances just don't allow that to happen. I think your friendships sound very healthy and there is no stress or heartache over breaking up with them.
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• Canada
14 May 08
I don't have an ex but my husband has been married a few times, and he has exes climbing the walls. LOL He ges along with one better than the others, but they all get along relatively well for the sake of the childen they producted together. I wish my parents could do that.
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@myliezl0903 (2732)
• Philippines
16 May 08
yeah.,i have a good relationship with my exes.,and up until now we're still friends.,i guess for me past is past.,if your not really meant for each other then i guess being friends with them is one of the thing that you will be considered.,
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
that's good to hear that you are friends too with your exes..
• Canada
1 May 08
I talk to my ex about things i don't even talk to my girlfriend about... at first we didn't speak but we dated for 2 years so it just seemed stupid to just never talk. and now we both just talk to each other about stuff our current significant others piss us off about or cause us troubles with. ...we know everything about one another...some might see it as weird, but its always nice to have somebody there I'd say
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
2 May 08
that's what we're doing too. we talked about his problem with his gf and with my bf. its really funny but it is helpful though.
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
1 May 08
I think it is really great you can be close with your ex. In my situation it is not possible because he became a complete a*s since we broke up. He has been breaking my car trying to kill me and also even tried to hurt our daughter. He is a total fruitcake if you ask me.
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
2 May 08
Oh my! he's a crazy man! i think you better charge him for doing that to you and to your daughter! i understand your situation, and i agree with you that its is impossible to be friends with your ex who is like that! hope in time you'll find the man who will love and take care of you.. have a nice day.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
1 May 08
So far, i'm only in good terms with one of my Ex.. haha ^_^ ANd it's true that, it's kinda weird and awkward to treat Ex as fren.. Because the feeling is completely different and i have to change our behaviour towards her.. If she's single after we break up, there's a chance we still can be close.. But if she or i'm attached after the break-up, it's hard to maintain a good relationship between me and her..
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
2 May 08
of course there will be some changes that you have to observe specially when one or both of you got another relationship. it will depend actually on both sides how they will react to each other. at times there are really situations that we can't dictate and one of those is this situation. it will really depend on both parties.
@moneyandgc (3438)
• United States
1 May 08
I was married to my ex for 7 years. We have 3 children together. It was difficult for awhile but we get along good most of the time now. He calls me when he has problems. I hang out with his new wife all the time when I am in town. We talk for hours on the phone when I am away. People think we are weird but thats okay. My husband doesn't have a problem with it either. He gets along good with his ex most of the time too.
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
2 May 08
wow that's really cool of you! its so great to know that you can mingle with your ex husband's wife. its true that there are people who will not understand us and may think its weird to be friends with our ex. but it will be a peaceful world if they'll try..
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
1 May 08
i have an ex that were in good terms until now, like we are texting sometimes.. but i have an ex, actually the father of my baby that we dont have communication after leaving us..it's almost 4yrs, but i used to it..theres no loneliness, but i do really hope that if one day our path will cross, i want him to become my friend..i dont want to have enemy specially he's my ex and father of my daughter..but i already moved on and i'm ready for the day for our path will cross..
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
2 May 08
it is really nice to live a life without enemy. that's great that you're still considering friendship with your ex especially to the father of your baby. Your baby is blessed to have you as her mother, you have a kind heart. hope when your paths cross again, you'll truly find the peace with your ex..
@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
1 May 08
No way. My ex is a mean person I would not be friends with. I tried as we have two kids together but it was not possible he called me bad names whenever he saw me. So now when he gets the kids he just honks outside the house we never interact if we dont have to.
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
1 May 08
oh my that's re ally harsh for him to do. yeah maybe its better not to interact with him so that your kids will not hear your ex shouting at you..
@roxanne271 (2035)
• Trinidad And Tobago
1 May 08
Hi chechuva, No...I am not on good terms with my Ex (I only have one btw) We broke up in a really bad way, with a big argument and him trying for months to get me back (with no luck) I really couldn't forgive him after that argument. I did not initiate it, he did and it got way out of hand when he started throwing insults and saying things that were personal to me, out loud for nearly everyone to hear! I have learnt from one of my good friends that he is still on my case (as in he still wants me back) I thought this guy was over me by now! I am glad you can be friends with your ex, that's really cool...as for me. I can never be friends with mine, even if you paid me a million dollars...
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
1 May 08
me too we didn't end well. honestly we took 3 years before we get to be friends again. your experience was really hard and i understand that you can't get friends with him. but in time hope you too can still consider having him as friend. but its really up to you. have a nice day..
• Philippines
1 May 08
nope. He's a major jerk and he tried to get back with me a couple of time even after he got married. What a jerk!
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
1 May 08
he's really a jerk if he still pursue you now that he's married. he's not worth your friendship. you might get in trouble if you get near to him!
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
23 May 08
there are really those who become friends after breaking up and there are those who become strangers after breaking up. i don't see almost all of my exes because we lead different lives now and we live far apart from each others. and we have lost communication so i can't really say if we are in good terms or not. but with my last ex, i can say that we are friends and that we are in good terms. we don't talk much but when we do, we are friendly with each other and we can even tease each other. so i guess we're in good terms.
@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
6 May 08
all of my ex have a good relationship with me until this time except one. she upset with me because i am the one who break our relationship because of jealous, she always angry with me that is why i felt bad to her, so i decide d to break her. i understand her if until now she still angry with me.
@rhane7315 (5674)
• Philippines
3 May 08
nope. he's an a$$hole and i don't want him to be my friend. he's the one who broke up with me and since then i cut all my communications with him
@neildc (16944)
• Philippines
3 May 08
if i have time, i still talk with my ex-wife. we still have to communicate because of our child. we talk only about the kid and no other things. i also have an ex-girlfriend which if we meet, if there's a chance...
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
3 May 08
I do not have an ex. I did have a boyfriend in my teens and if he showed up again after he decided to beg me to marry him after he never showed up when I was pregnant, he is going to get hell from me. If he had proposed to me when he found out I was pregnant, I would have had more children. But I had to wait until I was 28 to meet my husband and we had to adopt. So I am not friends with that creep at all. He ran off on me.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
2 May 08
I don't think why not I could be in good terms with my ex. The only problem is that, we don't see each other since we broke off. But given a chance, maybe we could be friends. We are both married now and there is no need for us to hold grudges. We already moved on.
@Ohara_1983 (4122)
• Kuwait
2 May 08
i can say yes, im proud to be her friend & his my friend too, we separate because we want to go in another way, but in this time we still have communication via phone, saying hi each other, asking hows the kids hows my kid & family , i will accept we had a great time but maybe we are not for each other, but we are both happy in our family.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
2 May 08
Not really. I am not close to my EX. He stopped calling me long time ago when I told him to "get lost" since he was just trying to call to check if I am still with my man until now so no, we are not friends nor in good terms.
@rmuxagirl (7570)
• United States
2 May 08
I am not so much on good terms with my exs. They all basically hurt me in one way or another that it would be bad if I was.