Do you prefer to live alone or do you need company?

@anawar (2406)
United States
May 1, 2008 6:32pm CST
I know I do better when I live alone. I'm not anti-social_ I need silence around me. The price of being alone is sometimes you get lonely. If I'm upset about something, I don't want other people watching me be upset. I like to leave my different creative projects all around the house, sometimes on the floor. You can't do that if you live with someone. You always have to comprimise. There's nothing wrong with living with someone, most people do. For the most part, I'm not good in relationships because I don't like the pressure of knowing I have an obligation to communicate when I don't want to. Maybe someday I will find a person I can live with. It's easier if the person you live with has a job, then they are not always in your way. I work at home. This discussion makes me sound like some kind of weirdo. Does anyone else have these feelings, or do you have someone you love so much, you never want to be without them? Do you like to be alone because you have been burned in past relationships? Answer any questions you want to about living alone. Or add in some thoughts that are related to this discussion.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
2 May 08
you are not alone on this one becuse there are alot of people nowadys who would prefer to stay single or not liing in with a partner. it is a personal choice. married life is nt that simple , it is like having your own company to run or like working in an office working with people with different backgrounds. living in with a partner takes on special skills , it is do-able and it takes time to harness the skill specially if you are use to living alone and doing your own thing. i see that you are the kind of person who is very independent, a go getter, easily gets pissed off with something you do not like, you like changes and you hate anything that gets in your way. no , you are not the marrying kind, you better off to be alone. you can get along with people very well but not to the point of becoming too close for comfort not even intimacy.maybe, but not too intimate. a ot of people are getting divorce or separation because most of us are trying to attain our personal dreams and most often than not , financial in nature, we keep on chasing money that is why we keep on workng and not having time with our love ones which leads to mis understanding one another.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
2 May 08
tigerdragon_ no, I definately don't get upset over anything. I'm very easy-going. I don't think of me as go-getter_ I'm not that interested in getting anything. I like the way you compare living with someone to running a company. Very original. For me, I don't worry about, or chase after money. That's never been a goal for me. I may not have much money, but I tell myself that I have enough, and that way I do.
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• Philippines
3 May 08
hi, anawar. sorry to be judgemental. keep me posted.have a great day!
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
3 May 08
No sweat. I don't want poeple to think of me that way, because I'm not like that at all! It was very kind and considerate to clear up the misunderstanding. I appreciate that.
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@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
2 May 08
I guess I couldn't say if I enjoy living alone because I never have. I went from living with my mother right into marraige. My husband and I have always reached out a helping hand and had others living with us as well, not to mention we have had our children living with us. So we have always had a houseful. Now it is down to just my husband, myself, and our youngest son. But still that is a lot of people in our little camper. (full time RVers in case anyone said "huh") We have learned how to adjust to each other and put up with each others little quirks. We accept that each of us is unique and we have a live and let live attitude. We help each other when things are difficult and praise each other for successes. I think I would miss the daily interactions if I lived alone, although a break might be nice. :)
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
2 May 08
sisterjinx_ you hit it right on the head. You have what other people can only dream of. I was very happy when my kids were growing up. It's only now that I'm not attached to anyone or anything that the loneliness feels right. I remember how much I needed a break when I had a houseful of three kids and tons of animals. My family is very stand-offish. My parents like being alone. But they do enjoy our once a month phone calls. You just can't let express yourself freely with them. Maybe that's why isolation feels familiar. I grew up with it. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your comments. Catch you around somewhere in here.
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
2 May 08
Garfield_ Thanks for responding. I never heard that thought about a book being as valuable as a friend. You know what? You're correct. It's good to know others enjoy solitude as well. The internet writing makes a big difference. It feels like we're still in the world, but we're safe behind our computers. You had some excellent and unique thoughts. Thanks for sharing with the rest of us.
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@dragon54u (31298)
• United States
5 May 08
I've had both lifestyles, single and married. I much prefer to live alone! Although I'd love to have my children here, they're 19 and 20 and I miss them so much. Living with another adult who has needs and wants is a pain in the butt, especially when they're selfish. I think my bad marriage was good for me because I'm perfectly happy to live by myself. I would, however, like to meet someone that I could live happily with. It's good that I can live by myself and be happy with it but it'd be nice, too, to meet a man that I could be happy with. I'll be content either way and I'm grateful for that.
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
5 May 08
You match my sentiments exactly! Thanks for joining in.
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@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
13 May 08
anawar, I guess I have to say I am much like you. I really do like living by myself. I too like the quitness, and the peace of having no one to answer to. and the idea that if I do not want to do something in the house I do not have to.However I do get lonely at times. I did have a partner of 10 years but I would not live with him, I would go to his house at night and come home every day. I just can not seem to find the right person that I can want to be with all the time. I have been in some bad relationships in the past and for some reason, I just can not seem to communicate well when I do not want to either.You do not sound weird at all. I can relate to you very well. As much as I want to be in a relationship, it is also very hard for me too.Have a great day..
@anawar (2406)
• United States
22 May 08
sunkissed_ I don't know if you'll be notified of this delayed response. I just got back to NY from GA a few days ago. Then, I had to wait to get the internet hooked up. I like your idea of visiting but not living with. I made that mistake. If you ever figure out how to find the good guys, let me know. Life pulls us so many different ways and it's hard to feel normal without being in a relationship. I want to be in a relationship, but I guess I'm not that good at it. Oh well. The sun still shines and the moon still sets. I guess I'll keep on living.
@rhane7315 (5674)
• Philippines
13 May 08
i prefer having a company because i'm not good in cooking dishes lol i just know how to cook pasta and other desserts and nothing else
@anawar (2406)
• United States
22 May 08
That's why you have company. You let them cook for you. I'm like you. I can bake, but not much more.
@jer31558 (3684)
• United States
13 May 08
I prefer to have company. Though I could survive living alone, I enjoy company around me.