sahm"s!!

@stacyv81 (5906)
United States
May 3, 2008 11:08am CST
Do you feel appreciated as a Stay at home mom? Does your husband or significant other say he isnt appreciated for what he does, yet says what you do isnt hard? Or do you feel appreciated by your spouse?
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@asgtswife04 (2483)
• United States
3 May 08
I don't think that my husband really understood what all i did as a stay at home mother until last november when i had my hysterctomy and he had to take care of the kids all the time. He became a lot more appreciative of what I did around the house all day, every day and has really since then started complimenting me on how well of a job I do and what a good mother I am. It's really nice to hear sometimes, because a lot of time staying at home is belittled and not appreciated the way it should be. we work just as hard at home, if not more, then if we were out working some where else. God bless
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
3 May 08
I agree, I guess sometimes it takes them being forced into the position for a while to make them realize. Thanks for responding! =)
@katsmeow1213 (27517)
• United States
3 May 08
Well first off, my husband's job is about as difficult as mine. He works in collections in a bad side of town and has to deal with a lot of bad people. He once told me while at work, he deals with the same things I do with my kids. He says the people just don't listen to reason and it's like arguing with children. But when it comes to what I do, he says he appreciates me and understands how frustrated I can get sometimes, but I truly don't believe he knows the full extent of it. I try to explain it to him when I am stressed out, and he just says "Gee, that stinks". When he is home it takes him like five minutes to get to boiling point over the stress, and I always say "Welcome to my world, but I deal with it all day everyday" and he just goes "Yeah, yeah, I know". It can be frustrating that he doesn't understand as well as I like him to, but maybe he just has a bad way of showing it.
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
3 May 08
That could be it. I am glad he tells you he appreciates you that's good. and I can see that you appreciate him! =)
@THKOhio (330)
• United States
3 May 08
I feel very appreciated by my husband for what I do as a stay at home mom. He is always telling me how much he appreciates what I do to take care of the house and the family. By the same token, I make sure that HE feels appreciated for the hours of work he puts in each week, both here and away from the home. We each have our role to play, and we each thank the other for their efforts toward our family.
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
3 May 08
That is good, I am glad that he sees your appreciation and you see his! That is great!
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
21 May 08
Thankfully I have a wonderful husband who has supported me very much as a stay at home mom! He had to listen to me always being upset when I was working because I felt like I did not have enough time w/ my children, so now he is so happy I get to be the main caretaker and be with them all day long! Plus, I've found ways to make money from home so he's happy with that!
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
5 May 08
I do most of the time and my husband and son do tell me. It wasn't always like that though. It took a few years for my husband to realise how much I was doing for our family.
@magikrose (5426)
• United States
4 May 08
Sadily I dont get appreciated for a single thing I do. I have a medicle condition that limits what I can do and so I do what I can and yet I still get the guilt trip that he has to do a bit more because I cant. I dont get the appreciation for the things I do. I wish I did but guess that is just not how it is.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
4 May 08
Hi stacyv81! I guess, I do sometimes feel unappreciated for everything I have done for I am just a plain housewife now. I cook, clean the house, do the garden, marketing, laundry, iron clothes and go to the bank and pay all the bills, etc.. I helped and assist hubby in his work as a design artist and do errands for him. But there is still that empty feeling that one has when she isn't really earning her own keep, I guess. Hubby says, he appreciates everything that I am and what I do for him but at the back of my mind, there is this nagging thought that I wish there is another opportunity for me to start my own business again. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day!
@Sillychick (3283)
• United States
3 May 08
I do feel appreciated by my husband, but I don't think he really knows how hard it is. I think the only way to know is to do it. But he is understanding when I tell him I had a hard day and need a break. He also does not have an attitude like he thinks his job is harder or more important. He realizes that I do a lot for our family.