I am stupid in driving

@maehan (1445)
United States
May 4, 2008 6:30pm CST
Feeling rather upset and stupid about myself. I am unable to drive and I am learning how to drive from my spouse. I felt retarded and useless when come to drive the car. Whenever I sit into the driver seat with my spouse and children behind me when I am learning. I am rather scared and panicked especially with my spouse who is my instructor. Worst of all, I get his tire flat when I accidentally drive the car to the curb which cut the car tire deep. He is angry, upset and disappointed of course. Yeh, I got a good scolding and lecture from him. I am so upset, disappointed, felt stupid and useless about myself. Why other can drive freely but not me. Sorry friends, to pour the sorrow over mylot. I am really very very sad. I kind of lost confident on driving afraid that I am cause any damage to the car. ..... sigh..............
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
5 May 08
Well things like that even happen to the most experienced drivers. I've hit the curb and ruined my tires more than once, that's one reason I carry road hazzard warranty on my tires. Don't be so hard on yourself. You will do it and feel confident once again, just takes practice.
@maehan (1445)
• United States
5 May 08
Thank you. Honestly, I feel depress and my morale and level of confidence drain to "ZERO" just minutes ago after getting a nasty remark from my spouse. Now, I must tell myself I think I can, I can and I must keep trying and practicing.
• United States
5 May 08
Hi there, I had a similar experience when I was learning to drive. Granted I wasn't being taught by a spouse or significant other, but being taught by my dad was pretty nerve racking. I didn't take driver's ed so I learned by family instructors. Driving with my parents was the worst. Just because of their relation to me; which is probably what you are experiencing with your husband. Maybe try asking a friend or even a different family member if they would be willing to take you. Someone you find yourself very relaxed with and not worried about "failing them." Also, try driving in an empty parking lot for a while. That way you don't have too much to concentrate on around you. And if an empty parking lot isn't available, try going to an area of town that is less traveled. (Or even going to smaller town near by.) Easing yourself into driving works better, I think anyway. Another tip I picked up while I was learning, was to chew gum. It helped relax me. When I did start to get nervous I simply chewed faster, as a way to "fidgit" without removing my hands from the wheel. If none of this works, you could even look into a local driver's education class. Call around and see if anyone is willing to help you. Sometimes it's a lot easier when you don't feel the pressure to make a family member proud. But all in all, you shouldn't feel stupid. Many people aren't able to drive-- a lot more than you would think. Everyone makes mistakes when learning something new. And just about everyone that learns to drive from a family member is VERY nervous. :-) You aren't alone so keep trying. Once you've learned you'll look back and find humor in your mistakes.
@maehan (1445)
• United States
5 May 08
Thank you very much. Yeh, I will try chewing gum and get my children to cooperate with me while I am driving. They tends to be noisy and impatient that I am driving round and round. Thank you for replying and making feel better as this morning I still get lecturing from my spouse. :(