i love a guy

South Africa
May 4, 2008 10:34pm CST
i fell in love with a guy at a church service, but he was with someone and we became only friends. I am 50% sure that he also had feelings for me, but i am too shy to make the first move, and i was brought up that boys must make the first step. So i waited waited and waited, he went and came back and went, now we almost lost connection. I overheard that someone in the church were discussing about us, that his girlfriend was mad at me initially (but i kept my feelings very private and quiet at that time, really), and she prevented him from coming to youth fellowships and he must help me with my studies. I think that was ok because she was his GF then. But then, they broke up and when i called him, she was still trying to blocking us talking, i dont understand this. Why he let her do this? maybe i misunderstood him that he didnt have feelings for me... he drove me mad and i havent got any BF...
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
5 May 08
Hi bluemoon4ever! I think the reason why they were talking about you in church is because that the guy you are in love with and the his gf broke up because they think that you are the reason why they broke up. Probably the girl is jealous and maybe she has reasons to be jealous of you. Maybe her boyfriend has a soft spot for you but that does not mean he is in love with you. However, you mentioned that she still somehow control her bf since she is able to block him from talking to you. Maybe the reason why he lets that is because he himself is confused. He may still have feelings for her ex gf but at the same time has a soft spot for you. I think if you and him will be given the time and chance to be with each other, probably love will follow. However, I wouldn't advise you to do the first move but what you can do is be friendly with him and if he invites you for dinner or whatever, then by all means GO! But don't let your hopes get that high, remember he has just broken up with his gf and you might just be on the rebound. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day!
• South Africa
5 May 08
hi there faith210, thanks for your reply and thanks again...i am not holding my hopes very high, actually, i am on the cooler side than before. i still can remember some of the sweet moments with him, however. But there are nothing exotic, just quiet sweet moments. I am writing this not to try to get him as my bf , just to express some of my feelings. You know sometimes you have to let your overfilled thoughts out otherwise you dont know what you will do or think. As far as i know, he is still single now but is very working very hard. He is in the medical field, so i suppose that is the reason why he is not replying my sms' (or they got deleted before he saw them? I dont know) but thanks again, i also appreciate your honest advice. Thanks again and God bless you
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
6 May 08
Hi bluemoon4ever! I am glad to know that you are "cooler" now. I do agree with you that we have to let out of the things that are kept bottled inside so that we can be relieved of it somehow. Take care and Good luck. Enjoy your life and I believe that there is really someone who is worth and deserving of your love. Have a nice day and God bless!
@nAyOhMi14 (298)
• Philippines
5 May 08
Maybe that guy still love his ex-gf or the gurl still love her, don't just look on your feelings or situation. You should also consider the situation of the guy.You must understand that is not easy to anyone to move on. Just wait for the right time.
• Philippines
5 May 08
what i mean... or the girl still love him...hehe
• South Africa
5 May 08
yes thanks for your response. I am not angry with him/her and i know that i dont have any step to do that. It may sound strange to you but it is me that is jealousy of the girl. that she can be with him for so long, that why didnt i meet him earlier...but it wont make me hate them. I am quite soft-hearted :0). Anyway,i am on the quiet side and i'll wait to see how he chooses and i will respect him for doing that, he will have a reason to do that, i believe. Thanks again and God bless