Men & Shopping - My son deserves a medal bless for having 4 hours of patience

@ellie333 (21029)
May 5, 2008 5:58am CST
I recently started a discussion re my shopping spreee with my daughter, well why we were rummaging and trying on all these clothes my four year old son was perfectly behaved, he didn't moan once and came in the changing rooms with us, didn't say he was bored and I was amazed by this as most men wouldn't have had that much patience. If you are a man do you like shopping for clothes with your girlfriend/wife? If you are a wife/girlfriend is your man patient or does he makes excuses and run to the pub at the first opportunity? Do you row with you significant othe whilst out shopping? Please share. Ellie :D
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
5 May 08
wow! That's great ellie! He will be a perfect husband..LOL, I love shopping and my husband don't..But, this time he has that patience to accompany me going back and forth in the dressing room. Since, I am a little picky, so it takes time for me to get what I want especially also I have to consider the prices. He always encourage me to shop online, I'm sure that is my hubby's excuse..LOL
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
LOL Yes I am sure that is the reason he encourages you to shop online, but it is awkward with clothes because you do really need to try them on to know whether they will look good. We saw on top and it looked beautiful but looked hideous on. Thanks for sharing and yes I am sure my son will make a very loving understanding husband bless. Ellie :D
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• United States
6 May 08
I agree ellie, my husband for sure is tired of following me roaming around until I can pick! LOL, I do know also why is it that there are nice clothes but when you will try it, it turns to be ugly. maybe I made or my body made it ugly looking! hahahahah!
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@ellie333 (21029)
6 May 08
Its the clothes and the harsh mirrors they put in the changing rooms not you, Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45640)
5 May 08
He is obviously being well trained. As we get older we either opt out altogether or grin and bare it. Actually I don't mind so long as we don't end up back in the first shop we visited two hours ago. Once I realised that the lingerie wasn't somewhere that you just hung about in. Well it says Linger, but I couldn't cope with the face slapping and the name calling. What is a peeping Tom anyway? I soon got used to the fact that I did have an input. Someone has to carry that bags. Remember his patience the next time he says "Mummy. I simply must have some new toys"!! It can take an age helping us chaps to select the correct toy car or whatever!!
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
LOL You obviously didn't LINGER too long in Lingerie then when recently buying your bra! Yes the ladies definately need someone to carry their bags as those purchases definately weigh us down and we can't look through all the rails if laden. I will remember the next time he wants a toy and will be patient but the one thing he wants at the moment though bless is a new ball as my friends dog bit through his at the weekend so I will be off down town tomorrow to get him one, I think he deserves that eh! Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
5 May 08
I really should go to bed Ellie. But I just have time for a story. I used to be the keyholder for a friends rather grand house. They had a cleaner and a burglar alarm. Usually if the alarm went off the cleaner dealt with it. But on this occasion the alarm went off, the Police called me and off I trotted. When I arrived I saw that there was a police car at the front door and that the door was open. I went in and shouted "hello". My friends had, actually still have, a Staffordshire Bull Terrier. The dog heard me and came charging down the hallway towards me, took a flying leap and sunk his teeth into my groin. The policeman had followed the dog out, had witnessed the whole thing and was slowly sliding in hysterics down the wall! Do get your son that ball Ellie. Punctured balls are terrible to play with.
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
OOOOOOOUCH and I am not a man. Thanks for sharing the story. Night, sweet dreams. Ellie :D
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@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
5 May 08
Wow! Your son is very patient. Oh, at times, my boyfriend likes to go shopping with me but most of the times, he will suggest other activities aside from shopping lolz.
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@ellie333 (21029)
6 May 08
Oh my son has his moments but he was brilliant on this day bless. I guess your boyfriend is like most men and will only shop sometimes when in the mood but would prefer not to eh! Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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• Philippines
6 May 08
Yes, you are right. It really depends in his moods.lolz
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
5 May 08
my man is very patient but not much help, he will say everything looks good but I will say yes but do you like the blue or the red, and he will say they are both nice and again I will say choose one which one do you like more and he will say, it is not for me to choose it is for you, which one do you like you are wearing it.
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Oh that must be very frustrating. it is always nice to be given an opinion not for the ball to be passed back to your court eh! At least he is very patient, there are a lot of men that aren't. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
6 May 08
he is an angel really, such a good man,
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@littleowl (7157)
6 May 08
Hi Ellie-if am out shpping with my son he will just let me get on with it while he disappers or expects me to get the first thing I see-my daughter however is a different kettle of fish we will rummage through shops for hours before getting something but we have one probem there-we both have the same taste in clothing so one of us have to compromise wether to get a different colour or to get something else-blessings littleowl
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@ellie333 (21029)
6 May 08
LOL Myself and my daughter do that too sometimes. In fact I keep finding one of my tops in my younger daughters pile, (only a £1 from Primark) and keep having to put it back in mine. I think shopping sprees are definately mum and daughter occasions really. My son though was just so good. I really expected after that many hours he would have got as little bit whingy but no, never even asked for anything himself. Thanks for sharing Littleowl. Ellie :D
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
5 May 08
M nphew would never fall for that unless he was the center of attention and even then I am sure he would want to move on after some time. He can be so excited about going out but then just so deflated because of all the time it takes to move fromn one place to another. He needs to be on the move or atleast let loose in a playpen at KFC or Burger King. That works well for him as long as someone is there watching.(lol)
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Oh believ me my son ha his moments too, he is not that brilliant for the food shop but was explemary in his behaviour clothes shopping which really suprised me, but in general he is a good lad, some boys though do seem to have so much energy that they get bored quickly which is probably why your nephew is like this. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@plumwish07 (4059)
• Indonesia
12 May 08
i also realize that accompany us going to shopping would make men feel uncomfortable cause we also can't deny that we need more time in buying something and it makes men getting impatient to accompany us and as like you said, your son deserves a medal bless cause he was so nice and patient to accompany your shopping time although he is only 4 years old. but something coming up in my mind then, will he still be patient accompany you when he is more grow up? and in my experience, my husband also tend to be impatient to accompany me while shopping but he always tried to get nice and still love to accompany me
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 May 08
I doubt it, but then one never knows he may grow up to be an excellent patient shopper and make an ideal companion for his partner when they shop for clothes. He is very honest too so he would tell them also if something didn't look right which is what every woman needs when shopping eh! Thanks for sharing, it sounds like even though your husband not too keen on shopping because he loves you he will come with which I think is wonderful. Ellie :D
• Indonesia
12 May 08
yes, he does. i know he loves me more than i love him and it makes me feel great to be beside him always
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@ellie333 (21029)
13 May 08
You are so lucky to have the love of a good man. Ellie :D
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
5 May 08
My man does not go shopping with me! I do not go very often either, sometimes I shop online and other times, I just go window shopping! I get a lot of clothes and things from freecycle, it makes it easier, the clothes and shoes fit better, and I do not have to cry if I buy something that does not really fit or looks bad! I can just give it away again!
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Hi Olivemai, that sounds so like me, I have a good sort out and so do my neighbours and we all have a rummage through and have a new wardrobe. This was a very special treat for me. I am a member of freecycle but use it more for furniture items rather than clothes. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
6 May 08
I can understand that!
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@bowtieguy (5927)
• United States
5 May 08
You must be so lucky to have such a well behaved son. Most mothers would envy you. I would have to say I am like the only striaght guy around that loves clothes shopping. Of course that is when I am shopping for my self or others, not acompaning others. I do like shopping with freinds and family but only if I plan on getting something as well. I will say that I hate shopping around the holidays. The lines are so long and the traffic is awful.
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
I don't like crowds myself and would rather shop online towards Christams time as I get all hot and bothered and frustrated by it all. I am so pleased that you enjoy shopping as so many men don't. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Thank you also for your comment re my son, believe me he has his moments but was exemplary on this occasion. LOL. Ellie :D
@AmbiePam (50274)
• United States
5 May 08
You already have your son trained for his future wife! I know in the case of my parents, my dad enjoys shopping more than my mom. However, what he shops for is stuff for her. She won't want anything, but if he goes shopping, it is always to buy her something, like clothes or books she enjoys. It is really rather sweet.
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Oh yes he definately well trained for his future wife! Oh that is so sweet of your dad to do that, she is a lucky lady eh! Ellie :D
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@AmbiePam (50274)
• United States
5 May 08
I know he has tried to make up for the first ten years of their marriage. He wasn't mean to her or my sister and I, but he was more dedicated to his work than his family. But he did a complete turn around, and the next 23 years with my mom, she has said, was worth every bit of those hard ten years.
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@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
6 May 08
Hello, Ellie, you son's patient. Most of the men don't have this kind of patience, especially after marriage. When they're dating, things might be different, men always try to act perfectly. My ex-boy friend is very patient when we're dating and going shopping, which i still miss very much. He's good actually, i somehow break up with him and things turn out to be that i really miss the days when we're together which will never come back.
@ellie333 (21029)
6 May 08
Yes my son is patient especially as he is only four. I really expected him to get bored. It is lovely that you have experineced a man in your life who is good shopping too. I am sorry to hear that you miss him. Never say never you don't know what may happen in the future. Thyanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
6 May 08
My husband would never do that with me. I would not want him to either because he would be rushing me the entire time, and he would be completely miserable. I know someone who drags her husband to the mall with her. He absalutely hates it, but if he doesn't do it she throws a temper tantrum, apparently the temper tantrums are worst than spending hours being dragged around doing something he does not want to do.
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@ellie333 (21029)
6 May 08
Oh the poor man if your friends husband really detested shopping that much I would suggest she goes on her own, that is unfair to bully and tantrum to get own way. At least you know not to take yours so you can spend some time browsing without being rushed. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
5 May 08
You are lucky to have a real good boy there. Oh, my hubby is the most impatient guy I know. I hate doing the grocery with him, we would always argue. He was picky and fuzzy wih everything. He has no patience with shopping and complains that walking in the mall is killing his feet. But my youngest brother is good with it. He was the one complaining about me when we go shopping.
@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Hi Ruthinian, Thank you for sharing. Your husband does sound like the typical male sterotype of shopper LOL. I can imagine it must be very frustrating for you. At least you have your little brother to fall back on as a personal shoppeer eh! Ellie :D
@raydene (9874)
• United States
5 May 08
When my boys were small they were all good shoppers. They would make a game or adventure of everything and would be chattering away to each other making the game up as they were..Dressing rooms were often the fort and they were waiting to be attacted by the bad guys! hehe xoxoxoxoxoxo
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Oh thats great Raydene that they had each other to play with and have fun with their games. There is such an age gap between mine 21, 17 and 4. I was extremely proud of how he behaved bless. Ellie :D
@gemini_rose (16194)
5 May 08
When my boys were little they also did not mind coming shopping and would be very patient. Now that they are older they hate it and it is awful!! Not so long ago we all went clothes shopping, me, hubby, and my four children, 3 boys and a girl. From the moment we hit the first shop it was a nightmare, they were bored (kids), how long are you going to be? (hubby) and it was just comment after comment. In the end I did not end up getting half the stuff I wanted to get, did not have time to browse and just had to pick the first things up that I saw. Never again is all I am saying.
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Oh what an experience but one I can relate too but definately not on this occasion for me. My middle daughter used to be so like that when she was smaller and I would end up walking out of the shop and not getting anything sometimes. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
5 May 08
oh wow! yeah, kudos to a wonderful son...yeah, i wonder how some kids can be well behaved while those are even older can be bratty. my brother and i were very well behaved while we were growing up. our parents can trust us in social gatherings and we have never broken a glass vase at home. they raised well, yeah, but i guess discipline is also the key. but i love your son! good day!
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@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
Oh Thanks spoiled311, I love him too, what a darling eh! Yes good disipline is the key but even with that I expected at least one 'I want' or 'I'm bored' but know but I guess its all the female energy around him with myself and two older sisters that give him the patience to shop. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
6 May 08
my husband hated taggingalong with me when I was clothes shopping but love looking in different little odd ball shops so we struck a bargain. we would meet for lunch at a designated spot and a designated time. So I shopped in peace and he and sometimes the kids would poke into interesting little shops in the mall and then we would all have lunch together. more fun for everyone that way.we never rowed as we both were doing what we wanted todo.
@ellie333 (21029)
6 May 08
Wow what a compromise and definately one that worked for you, it is only frustrating if they are huffing and puffing and wanting you to hurry up isn't it and you all got to enjoy a meal too eh! Fantastic, thanks for sharing. Ellie :D