How Do You Get Motivated?

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I live by myself as well and don't go anywhere really except for work and once in a great while I will get company here at my place. I try and not let it bother me for I have grown used to being alone and kinda like it now. I have my games I can play, I listen to music, I come here every day and get lost for hours in MyLot reading up on discussions and posting, I clean, watch tv or movies, do puzzles, word searches, play w/ my cat, all to occupy my time. I try not to look at the down side of things for they only put me in a sad mood and I don't like to be that way so I look at the bright side of things.

I think you are still grieving over your boyfriend. it has only been a week and you were together for over 10 years. that takes time. I know gas prices are high but I think you should at least when you are out and about on your doctors visits maybe stop in somewhere and grab a coffee or do some shopping. I meet people all the time out and about. I stop at the same dunkin donuts for my coffee whenever i can afford it. they all know me there and get my coffee before i even ask. we joke and it is just a good start to the day. spend some more time on here....just don't seclude yourself. Your guy sounds like a jerk but just remember, he is only one person in a kazillion. Keep busy. I commend you for not acting desperate and calling him. you are a strong lady.

Man can I relate with you, and I know how hard it is and can be to get motivated. Sometimes it seems like you almost have to force yourself to get anything done, and going out of the house sometimes is even worse. I had that problem for many yrs. and still find myself from time to time, having those same issues still as well. As I had a couple of Health Issues that put me on Disability for some time, I always never wanted to get anything done. And then it seemed something snapped, and I realized I had no choice but to do more. What you need to do, is find some things to do that you enjoy. Maybe that is take a walk, take yourself out to eat, read a good book, find a Club or something to join where you can meet other women, etc. Being by yourself all of the time can be dangerous, as it only leads to depression, etc. Wishing you the Best.

Wow, you seem to be going thorugh a lot right now, but let me see if I can help you out. Don't let your disability stop you from enjoying the things you love to do. I have a hearing disability, I'm almost fully deaf in one ear, but I don't let that stop me from doing what I want to do. Yes, gas is pricy, but I'm sure you can go to places close to home. To get motivated, get yourself out there, try going for a walk, but not a fast walk, or if you cannot do that, go to a park, and find a place to sit and enjoy nature, enjoy that peacefulness, and let the mind wander a bit. When you wake up in the morning, do something good for yourself and perhaps somethng good for your home. You don't have to do extravagant things, just find ways to enjoy things more. Sleeping all day and hiding yourself a way won't help. That guy who told you to leave, was not worth it, 10 years or not, he should have given you a reason why. Don't let it eat you away, you are so much better than that and worth so much more. You deserve wonderful things, and don't you ever let anyone tell you different. You are a wonderful person, I feel that.

It's not surprising you feel this way at the end of a 10 year relationship. You need time to get over your feelings of rejection. I think it does no harm to let the dust settle a little until you feel more motivated. You have friends here at myLot. I hope you still feel motivated to join in the discussions, and you won't feel so alone.

Dont you want to be happy. "DONT WORRY BE HAPPY" was a slogan that we used often. You may say to me it is easier said than done. Even if you are disable dont you have friends, people who you chat with. This is the time when you need friends. Are you into any kind of organization/ or ladies group. Please dont let one relationship tear you down. "You Must Let Go Of The Past".Just remember "JOY IS YOUR STRENGTH." Life is too short not to enjoy every single day. Happines is a choice, and the time to be happy is now.

Well done you for coping. I think that is a wonderful effort in itself! Ten years is a long time to know someone, only to have them throw you out of their house. From what I have seen of you so far it does seem that prior to last week you were a fairly happy and motivated person. I mean with a big bright sunny avatar how could you not be! Plus to me sunkissed radiates happiness in my book It also appears as if life has treated you a couple of pretty rough blows in the past. I think these past set backs are a great way to motivate yourself. Look at what you have achieved in your life and times when you were happy and motivated. Draw on the strengths that you had during these times, they will be able to help you know. You are allowed to grieve for the loss of the relationship, even if he is a jerk. Remember though that life must go on. Live it as full as you can.

It's no wonder you can't get motivated. You're in shock right now. Take some time to recover without feeling guilty. Living with a disability challenges you every day. Once people can't work they lose social contacts. It's hard trying to force yourself to do something. I know about the gas problem as well. It is limiting. Because I have similar problems, I can relate, but maybe not help you. A few simple things I try to do. Any kind of movement stimulates the body. I try to do some simple stretching or deep breathing. Fresh oxygen stimulates the mind. I'm not sure what your disability is, but it's beneficial to go outside for a bit. When you go to the doctors, let this be an outing. You've already burned up some gas, might as well make the trip worthwhile and change it to something pleasant. If you can, stay away from the house for a few hours. Once your body starts moving, it's easier to keep going. Your heart is broken and your life changed overnight. Sometimes coping is all we can do. I try to set up small goals. If I only accomplish one thing_ as simple as making my bed, I feel better. The hole left by the absence of your partner will take some time to heal. I feel so deeply sad for you and I'll send positive thoughts your way. Hold on.

i am sorry you are having a difficult time. things will get better i am sure. just keep posting here if you need friends and i know that being inside and alone can make things worse but try to get outside in the sun if you can. they say that sunshine helps our moods and it is good for depression. other than that just try to keep your chin up and keep on going. on know life can be hard in many ways. i hope you have a better day.

Well, some things, I cant get motivated no matter what I try. Some things I have no trouble getting motivated. Still other things I have to work at. These, I can sometimes get the motivation going by sitting down and listing all the reasons that I want to do what ever it may be. I am truly sorry about your circumstances. I have tried to make it a habit in my own life, that when bad circumstances arise, I will sit down and try to find at least some good in the circumstance. One situation I am going through right now is with my mother, she is in the hospital and not doing very well, we don't know if she will ever come home or not. Some days it becomes almost unbearable. However, there is some good to come of it as our family has drawn much closer together in the last month and a half. Theres an old saying, every cloud has a silver lining....its up to us to find it though.