All Ladies..... Would you like to see this change with us?

@cream97 (29169)
United States
May 5, 2008 12:06pm CST
I am so tired of women hating on each other. I would like to see women get along no matter who you are, what you look like, how much money that you have. It does not matter. We should be able to talk to one another not against each other. I can't stand the competition attitude! Or you only like me, when I have something to give or show! This is unacceptable. Ladies, would you like to see us act nicer to each other?? This world is so full of hatred and jealousy. Don't you think that it is time for a change with the women in this world. I believe it is! This conversation is not referring to anyone on myLot. This is for Ladies only..... If you are a male, you can answer too, just as long as it is speaking positive.
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11 responses
@Elixiress (3893)
6 May 08
I don't think that it is only Ladies that hate on each other, Men do it too. I agree that people should hate each other less, but I would rather someone was genuine with their emotions rather than hiding them to appear nice.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
6 May 08
Yes men do it too. But women are the ones that can be so petty and immature. Being genuine dosen't have to come with having issues either.
@Elixiress (3893)
7 May 08
When tend to fight it out in one go whereas women tend to have little digs over a longer period of time. It all depends on what you prefer. We all are going to have disagreements and meet people we don't like, we have to deal with it some way.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
8 May 08
Yes that is very true. It is so sad to see this going on.
@cmelton (160)
• United States
9 May 08
I would love to see this change. The work place is the worse for all this type of behavior. Women are nice to your face and talk behind your back. And you find out about it because the women they told likes to gossip and now the whole office knows. Women will stab you in the back to get what they won't. I'm not saying that I am perfect and that I have never talked about another women. But if I appear and say that I am a friend, I am a real friend and would never do anything like that.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
9 May 08
Yes, if you really are indeed a friend, you will not engage in this type of behavior at all. I have myself gossiped, but I never just go around talking about someone just because..... I only talk about another person if they have done me wrong, in any form or fashion... I don't like people talking about others who had never done anything too. Yes this type of behavior is present in the workplace, I will admit. It is sad to see this happen.... Women can be so ugly in their attitude!
@Remmie7 (168)
• United States
6 May 08
Dear Cream97, You are like a breath of fresh air, hallujah! Ladies we can decide to be kind to one another, having good things to say to each other. When we see that one of us has fallen off the wagon (so to speak) we can lift that person up. Remember it only takes one. Next time you see one of us fallin just give them a big pick me up. Giving each other the benefit of the doubt. Cream97 you just started a chain reaction. I got much love for ya. Now lets do this.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
6 May 08
Yes! I am very honored to take a stand on this issue. This has been going on for too long. It needs to stop! We as women should pull together, no matter what creed of background we have all cam from! I have watched this happen to me and others that I know and some strangers as well. I may not be able to reach the entire world. But I will put my message out there and hope for the best!
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
6 May 08
Hi cream97! that would really be very, very nice if we females could treat each other nicer and we will set aside all the competition and jealousy. That would be really great! I am for that! Just my thoughts dear. Take care and have a nice day!
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
6 May 08
Yes, I truly am too.
@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
5 May 08
I wish the same for us. When my hubby and I moved to Georgia, it was hard for us to find friends at first because we lived in an apartment. So, we had to rely on co-workers to fill that need. That was ok but, sometimes, when people leave a job, they lose touch with one another. So, once we moved to our house, we took walks around the subdivision. It was still being built and that included house across the cul 'd' sac from us and even next to us. We were the first people to move into our cul 'd' sac. We were so excited to meet the incoming neighbors and finally make some friends that would be around for longer than renters or even co-workers. So, when 2 families moved in across the street, we would bring our dog over and talk to them in the front yard trying to get to know them. It didn't take long until they started snubbing us. We didn't do or say anything to offend them. We have other friends in the subdivision who have never had a problem with us but, those two houses seem to really dislike us. To this day, 7 years later, we don't know why but, there is one big difference between us and those two families...we don't try to keep up with the Jones'. I am not a part of the snobby tennis circuit in my subdivision. I don't have to decorate my house like the pages of Southern Living (which...everyone whom has even been in my house has had nothing but nice things to say about how I decorate and, I was even asked to stay with someone else for 2 weeks to help them decorate their house and, they were serious). I drive a Honda Pilot, not a Mercedes, BMW or Lexus and, not because I can't afford it, but because I don't need it. My hubby and I are not snobby or pretentious. We don't pretend to be someone or something we aren't. Now, if it were up to the men in those two families, we would probably get along really well with them. They still wave hello to us when the women aren't outside. But, the women have been known to literally turn their backs to us as we drive by or walk by and have even been known to run back into the house if they see us emerging from the house. So, whatever we did...or didn't do...I don't know. I so wanted friends and was truly looking forward to hanging out with them. I wish that we women could get over ourselves and stop hurting one another. I don't have any enemies until you give me a reason. So, every woman I have not met yet is a potential friend. Until I am crossed and then, as sure as you turned your back on me, I wash my hands of you. Whew! I am sorry for rambling. I couldn't organize my thoughts about this situation as it really hurt me for several years until I just decided that they weren't worth any more of my thoughts.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
5 May 08
That is okay, speak on... We need to hear the truth. If your neighbors wish to act snobby, then let them. You just keep on doing what you do best. And that is live your life and ignore them. They are not your friends, nor do they really want to be your friend. Women just have childish issues with one another for stupid reasons....
@DudaYLen (219)
• Philippines
5 May 08
According to Eleonor Roosevelt , Friendship with oneself is all important , because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.So , women should not have to constantly tiptoe aroud each other. Instead, they should be aware of the factors that encourage them to compete with each other, recognizing that they can help each other advance and that the success of one can lead to the success of another. With healthy competition , women can push each other to do their best, supporting each other.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
5 May 08
We all should be equal and respected of one another!
• United States
5 May 08
I know what you mean! I don't know why women seem to backstab and start rumors to deal with stress and disagreements. It's disappointing. I don't know where we learn this or if it's in our genes or something. I would certainly like to see more civility amongst us!
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
5 May 08
Yes it is sad! I wish for peace and love amongst us. I try to look for the good in others, but it is so hard to, when you have so much deception going on.
@magikrose (5424)
• United States
5 May 08
I totally agree with you. The problem is the way society is sadily it is not going to happen. The rich are always going to look down on the poor, the skinny are always going to put down the over weight. It is sad but unfortunately it is not going to change.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
5 May 08
I agree with you as well. It is not going to happen. It is so hard for women to stop being so dramatic when it comes to another woman. My sil makes me feel as if she does not like me. She acts like she likes me, but I sense that there is an issue with me. It is just a gut feeling that I have. It will not go away.....
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
6 May 08
hi. how are you? i am going to be blunt here. if anyone doesn't like what i have to say than its your problem. i am a woman who is very secure within myself. i know what i want in life and go for it. i feel good about myself. i feel that i dont need to compete with other females for anything. i am not one of those women who spends my valuable time hate on one another. competing against for one another is childish. what purpose does that serve anyway i wonder. is it to prove who's better and who's not. that is a question ladies should be asking them selves. we are the same. we go through the things, and deal with the same struggles. i notice when one of us moves up the ladder to becoming something better. we are quick to become jealous and envious of the other. we are mad that they are moving up in the world, and the rest of us aren't. we are responsible for our own. we determine what happens in our own life, not others. the time and energy u spend hating on one another you could be doing something constructive in your own life. we should be cheering, encouraging, and uplifting one another when something good happens to one another. its time to look for each of us to look at our selves, and make some improvements. have a good day.
@hanyixin (67)
• China
6 May 08
i think it is so difficult to do that ,ecpecially the person i really don't like...most of the person i hate love to lie..i cann't bear that...i often don't to chat to them...just say hello.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
6 May 08
i think this should be there. most women are in competetion with each other. but no, they are always not so, at least i can say that in my case. I am very good friend with few girls. we are good friends and not so bad competetion between us.