Spelling peoples names right. (warning slight rant)

@saundyl (9690)
Canada
May 6, 2008 8:09pm CST
AS someone who people are constantly arguing with me that they ARE spelling my name right or even saying it right when they arent.. I HATE it when people dont bother to check the spelling on a name. Yes my name isnt spelt the typical way but its correct when you actually take the time to say it right. My name is Cassaundra.. you pronounce the U its not Cassandra I also hate that i have to argue with people about the spelling of my name..its my name i KNOW how to spell it. I recently had to take my birth certificate into the SGI after receiving a letter saying they were changing the name on my drivers license as "it has been spelt wrong for the last 10 years" It took me over an hour to convince them that no my birth certificate wasnt wrong too. THEN today they Still sent me the altered copy of my drivers license so im going to have to go back in and fight with them some more. I'm also tired of getting the labels and such from PETA and other charities that spell my name wrong. I've had some that ive donated to that still send me the wrong name labels. DRIVES me NUTS
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@katsmeow1213 (29043)
• United States
7 May 08
Wow that sounds awful. If it makes you feel any better I'm sure I pronounced it right while reading it, even before you said to pronounce the U. Just out of curiosity, where do you live? I know it makes no difference, it just seems odd that anyone would argue with you over your name. There are so many oddly spelled names these days. But I must confess, after reading this I am slightly concerned about what I may have done to my own children. 3 of my children have oddly spelled names, Javier (it's hispanic, J sounds like H) Aydan (I know it's normal but everyone spells it wrong!) and Mathieu (sounds like Matthew). My other 2 are Tyler and Tristan, and those are rarely misspelled, only problem is Tristan, or some spell it with an e, Tristen, is a boy's name. My Tristan is a girl. I signed her up for ballet 2 years ago and they called me to ask if she was a boy or girl! LOL Well, so far Javier has had to deal with the reproccusions of his name, mostly the pronounciation. Very few say it right, even after being corrected 100 times. He is used to that though. Aydan and Mathieu are the youngest ones, not even in school yet, so we will see what the future holds for them.
@GardenGerty (105385)
• United States
7 May 08
Watch out friend, Tyler can be Tylor, or Taylor if people get really goofy. Perhaps Tristan should have been Tristann, so you could have thoroughly mixed people up. I had an unusual name growing up, but it is common now. I liked it. My parents more or less made up my middle name. I really like it now, because my granddaughter shares it with me.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Those are really nice names. Thank you for responding.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
7 May 08
I'm with you on this one! My name isn't common, but it's definitely not something worth choking over, as many do in reading and spelling. My name is Gemila, the non-traditional spelling of the Arabic Jamilla. And yet, all through school, new and substitute teachers would show their laziness and call me "Gemma". WTH?! Some of my own family members can't even spell or pronounce my name. My aunties/uncles/cousins on my dad's side, who I'm not close with, call me "Jem-alla", and usually spell my name differently every year at Christmas, but never once in my life have they spelt it correctly, despite me sending birthday cards to each of them throughout the year. You wouldn't think it would be that difficult, would you? I also have people questioning me on the pronunciation - I had one teacher who refused to call me "Gem-illa", but instead "Gem-eye-la", because I only have one "L" in my name, so therefore it was ME, and MY FAMILY who say my name wrong, and she was right and I should bow down to her. Pfft. Luckily I don't get any organisations getting it wrong on my forms and letters, or I'd blow up! Thanks for the rant, Cassaundra! =D
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Thats a really nice name. I'd have a hard time figuring out how to say it first off but knowing how i feel about my name i ususally ask how one says their name. It was wrong of the teacher to act like you and your family were wrong. Thank you for sharing.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
7 May 08
Thank you =) I like the sound of your name also, but I'm trying to work out how to pronounce it exactly. =D I can understand that it's unusual enough for people to be a bit confused, but it's frustrating when they're too embarrassed or proud to ask, so they make it up =P And yes, the teacher who tried to argue with me about my own name should be poked in the eye... And I mean that with affection =P
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
10 May 08
It would be Ka-sawn-dra
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
7 May 08
So it's cass-on-dra? (I'll ask before I assume, 'cause I'm terribly with names.) My name's spelled Kati, not so different, but without the E, people pronounce it kat-ey. It's soooo annoying so I know how you feel! when I registered for high school they had my name wrong on everything. And I had to bring my birth certificate in to show them it was spelled Kati, not Katie. Even my grandmother spells my name wrong, and it drives me insane. you'd think atleast your family would know how to spell it right, right? What actually bothers me more though is when people assume my name is short for something, like Kathryn or Kaitlyn, because of the way it's spelled. It's not short for anything, it's just Kati. :)
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Yes thats correct. How would you say your name? I agree your own family should atleast know how to spell your name. One thing with my family is they have always respected my wishes not to be called cass or cassie. Thank you for sharing :)
• Canada
7 May 08
It's pronounced just like Katie (kay-tee) :)
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• United States
7 May 08
That reminded me of Mean Girls where the girls name was spelled Cady (said like Katie) and everyone called her Caddy
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
12 May 08
Sounds extremely irritating! I always check how I spell names as I think it has to do with respect to get it right. If I do get a name wrong it is not due to ill will. My last name is petty unusual in my country - at least with this spelling. It is often misspelled. But I have never ever had anyone protest when I tell them the right way to spell it. If someone did I'd get really mad.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
12 May 08
I try not to get mad about it (or id be mad the majority of the time) but when its major like my drivers license i get mad! Thanks for responding.
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
12 May 08
Hope they do not protest again when you go to change your licence have a good evening
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@zuyoji (82)
• Singapore
7 May 08
Wow, that sound really horrible. That will really drive you nuts. I got quite a number of friends just cut short their name. For example, it becomes GWEN instead of Gwendo-something. Sorry, but i really am not good in names. Take me a long long time to remember the name of the person. However, when i want to find out about this person. I will make sure i spell his/her name correctly. I think when creating the Birth Cert. Your parents will check thoroughly before submitting the BC. So i also find it funny that after 10 years of having the names and they send you the letter that your name spell wrongly. So funny. Sometimes, they may not think. Sometimes, they think that they did a good thing. However, they may not think that what they did is just an extra thing which should not be doing. LOL.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
I'm sure my parents did check. My mom says she spelt my name the way she says it. I found out today that someone else in the area with a uniquely spelt name "danial" was sent the same letter so they must have someone checking lately.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
8 May 08
Thats a neat way to spell it. I like having a unique name in general.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
7 May 08
I have gone through that all of my life. Tracie is my name and i have had it spelled wrong so much that i use to get mad about it. The basic way for Tracie is Tracy or Tracee. Now i was always stuck with the y at the end unless i said something to the person that spelled it wrong. YOu have no idea how many times that has happened even on paychecks but they never gave me a problem with the spelling cause my id would still say tracie. that was a big pain; but i have gotten over it. If they spell it wrong then something is wrong with them.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
i correct people all the time. Especially for offical documents. Ive never seen Tracie spelt like that before but i have seen it as Tracey
@twallace (2675)
• United States
7 May 08
So san you understand what i'm talking about and see you have not seen Tracy spelled Tracie now i forgot to write Tracey and one of the ways that it is spelled and the ey and the y are the most common ways for it to be spelled.
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• United States
14 May 08
oh god!don't you just love that? when someone has the gall to tell you how to spell your own name? i've seen so many godawful corruptions of my family name..i think i know how it's spelt.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
14 May 08
Its very annoying. Although i get it so often that when someone spells it right or says it right...it almost makes my day.
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
8 May 08
My mom spelled my name very uniquely, also. I've never seen it spelled this way by anyone else, even though it's not an uncommon name. I've had people ask me why my name is spelled this way, or tell me that it should be pronounced a different way. And, becuase I have two first names, meaning my last name could also be someone's first name, people are forever saying my name backwards (reversing them). This I don't understand because my first name really couldn't go for a last name. It would be like someone's last name being Rebecca or Katherine. A lot of people compliment my whole name telling me that it's very pretty or it sounds like a famous name. I like my name, didn't even change it when I got married. When people get my name wrong, and they begin to apologize, I just laugh and say "it happens all the time". When they spell it wrong I usually don't even bother to correct it. Members of my family, that I've known all my life, still don't know how to spell my name. In this case, I think what a shame it is that these people don't take the time to remember the proper spelling of my name .. I am family. You'd like to think that if people really care about you they'd at least get your name right. But, mostly, these incidents surrounding my name just don't bother me. Come to think of it, I think my name is missing a letter on my license. I'm gonna check - just for laughs.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
8 May 08
That would get a bit frustrating. Thank you for sharing.
@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
7 May 08
That's a beautiful name Cassaundra... Even with mine I'd have to fight for my Y It's Brandy, not Brandi Brandie Brandee, It's Brandy. But when they try to tell you that you pronounce your name wrong? Who are these people? How do they know? Didn't you introduce yourself to them? As with people correcting your name, maybe it's a slip, because they just type so much, that they look at your name, and read it wrong, so they type it wrong, not a good excuse. Type what is written, what is written, well...you know you're name... sorry, you must deal with this all the time
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Thank you. I agree type what is written...or at least correct the mistake when the owner of the name says its incorrect.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
7 May 08
crazy! my name is cheryl and you would think it would be pretty easy, but a lot of people mix up the y and the l (really!) and most europeans (like my grandparents and my inlaws cannot wrap their head around the y and the l sound and it comes out shirley...sheesh!
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Thats the way most Cheryls i know spell their name...or they spell it as Sheryl.
• United States
7 May 08
Wow, I do not understand people. How can people tell you that you aren't spelling your name right?!?! Your name sounds how it is spelled, I didn't have trouble with it... sheesh! I guess I feel your pain though as I have to spell and pronounce my name for everyone - it's Cherise. Pronounced like Sh not a hard Ch. Like Charlene - which I also don't understand why someone would pronounce wrong. Your whole ordeal is ridiculous, how could people say that your birth certificate is wrong???!
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
The birth certificate thing drives me nuts. Although i do know a friend in highschool had to have hers fixed as they had her mom's information wrong on the certificate. thanks for responding.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
7 May 08
names - what is in the name?
I guess that would be happen to my daughter too, but i even a simple name, they can't pronounce or spell right. I say my daughter name as alexigne and pronounce as a-lek-zin meaning defender. The good thing is they always ask the correct spelling but in my name as mary-ann, a simple word for me as mama mary came the name, they make it merry-ann instead of mary, and yeah your right not even asking if they spell it right sometimes.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Alexigne is awesome name. I would have a hard time pronouncing that if you hadn't said how. Thank you for responding.
@its07005 (50)
• Malaysia
7 May 08
it annoys the hell outta me... i hate people who dont bother to spell your name right... it just shows that they dont care about you....
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
Yeah it does. I try to take the time with people to verify how to spell their name before i make up an invoice or work order for them.
• United States
7 May 08
Wow, that's a pain. That driver's license thing is dumb. I remember when I got my driver's license I was so happy because my picture was FINALLY a good one. To my surprise they marked it "male." I had to let them know... I actually had to bring in my birth certificate to prove I was female. Good thing I didn't have to pay for it, but I had to get another picture taken, which was dumb, but at least my license doesn't say "male" anymore.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
That would be a pain in the butt. Thanks for sharing!
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
7 May 08
hi I do feel for you as I spell my first name Patsie and everyone misspells it Patsy and that makes me want to scream. my name is spelled with an ie. they kept saying its spelled wrong and I have to explain all over again no it is not that is my name and the way it is spelled. Isn't that like the dmv to still send you an altered drivers license. now you have to go and do it all over again. that figure!!
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
i love names that are spelt differently. thank you for responding.
@GardenGerty (105385)
• United States
7 May 08
OOOH boy, you have every right to rant. I am sure your name was spelled that way so that it would be pronounced with the short o sound for the au, rather than the short a sound. I am sure you and your birth certificate are correct. My mom always said, "There is no proper way to spell a proper name." Of course my mother was ALWAYS right.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
you are correct about how its said. I agree with your mother! Thank you for sharing.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
7 May 08
I Hear Ya! When your Parents go to the trouble of making your name distinctive,it has to be annoying when people and organisations get it consistently wrong...Even he origin of my Handle here gets misspelled (not on Mylot- I created it on a TV/Movie Forum for a Character,and I've seen Shepard,Sheppard,Shepperd...)The one with the License must be a real Bummer..!
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 May 08
I like your handle on here its a good one. Thanks for the response. Hopefully i get my drivers license fixed.