Steps to solve a problem

@BYOLA2871 (4373)
South Africa
May 7, 2008 12:57pm CST
In our lives we go through some problems especiallyin our relationships.There are various ways we can deal with these problems,I came across these and thought its wise to share with my friends here on mylot. 1.Set a time to discuss the problem, there is a time for everything in life ,you must look for the best time when you can discuss whatever the problem is with your mate. Relationship problems start easily but we must understand that that there is a time to talk and not to talk about them. Ignoring them will probably make it degenerate into a big problem. 2. Express yourself honestly and respectfully You must learn to express your opinion as honestly and as respectful as possible. try your best make yourself clear without sounding insulting.Dont have the unrealistic belief that your mate automatically understand that something is wrong he may not, he may need to be told but also politely. Clearly state what you think the problem is and how it makes you feel. 3. Listen and acknowledge your mate’s feelings: nothing kills a relationship as quickly as a feeling of neglect or insensitivity, you must learn to listen when your mate has a complaint and also try to state it to him/her how you understand what she /he is saying. It doesn’t have to be in the same language but let the mate know you acknowledge the situation. 4. Agree on a solution. After all said and done, try to come to a lasting solution, if you must compromise, do it as soon as you can. This is hoping that you find this useful. Good luck and blessings.
3 responses
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
7 May 08
It's a good solution u have there.. But wat if it's a problem of insecurity?? Once u have that problem, everything is hard.. Time may not be able to help either because as long as the other party dun open up, u will never be able to find out how and wat they are thinking.. No matter how true u are to them, they will only take it as fakeness..
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
9 May 08
I agree with you that the problem of insecurity is a big one in relationships but i think the best you can do in such instance is to be sincere to yourself and on the long run you will be justified,if you decide to do what you are being accused of because after all he doesnt trust you you would be opffending yourself,if you are denied will you be happier denying yourself?
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
11 May 08
In a situation like this, it's hard to be oneself, and it's also funny to act like no tyourself.. Y, but to prove that u are sincere and wanna get her to open up.. NO matter wat i do, happiness is not by me, but is from her..
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
7 May 08
Hi BYOLA, In my personal experience, I start with recognizing the problem, then start to plan the different ways in solving it,,I need to have some back up if ever the first option will not work out, then, start to solve the problem guided with the steps I have planned! if it works, BEST, if not try that other way! I also ask other's opinion once it is something heavy but when I can just handle it, I will just keep it with me!
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
9 May 08
when you just keep problems within yourself it becomes a time bomb which can explode at any time and you would find yourself saying things in a manner you dont mean them to be in such a situation,but i agree with you that its good to look for different ways to solve a problem and also ask for p[eople"s opinion,but you need to be careful who you ask for advise.
• United States
9 May 08
for some point yea but, I am use that way especially if it is very simple or light problem/challenges. I prefer to solve alone since I can think more and effectively! but, i never also seek an advice to any people not close to me, i am very secretive and when the time i need some opinion, it will only be my beloved family whom i will talk with!
• United States
8 May 08
That is some good sound advice, but it doesn't always work. Sometimes there is no happy medium and no ways of working out a problem.
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
9 May 08
yes you are right i also want you to know that there are a million and one ways to know that there are a million and one ways to kill a pest so these tips are not exhaustive in themselves ,but there is a way you can actually adapt whatever help you are given to your peculiar circumstance and yopu will surely get a result.thanks for responding.