Do you think Inter-racial marriage is good?

India
May 7, 2008 1:53pm CST
Do you think Inter-racial marriage is good? Should it be promoted or discouraged or left it on its own? I felt it's good to encourage inter-racial marriage provided certain other issues are taken into account. Of course to promote the marriage at the cost of individuals' lives would not be wise. However, once these things are taken care I think inter-racial marriage will bring more harmony to the world. What is your take on the issue?
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34 responses
• United States
7 May 08
i think there not problem with inter-racial marriage. If you both partner love each other,enijoy each aother partnership and have fun,why not to get married. As long as your happy with your marriage that's all its matter.
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• India
13 Aug 08
Thanks for the response. I hope more and more people think like you do. If there were more people like the way you think the world will have less racism. Rated your post!
@Conring5 (10)
• United States
7 May 08
I think that if you are in love then the color of your skin and your nationality should not matter!
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
8 May 08
ANy marriage can be good, very good, not so good or bad, but in my opinion race has nothing to do with it. I even have a problem with the word inter racial marriage, because I see people, not races. If you ask me, however, if people of very different cultures should marry, I might need to think a bit not because I think they shouldn't but more because I worry if the differences are so big and irreconcilable that the marriage might suffer. But that can happen to people within the same race. So no mater from which side you are looking at it, race shouldn't be part of the equation.
• United States
8 May 08
I think that in the US, considering our history here, if you think that an interacial couple living in the deep south, will not have trouble at some point, in time they are mistaken. Minorities of all skin tones, face prejudice in white communities, the north also can be am especially cold place, when you do not understand why people behave they way they do. I think that the mixing of races is fine, however the parties should not enter the marriage and realize what they will have to face, a lot of the prejudice may occur while the couple is dating, many families will completely disown a child for marrying into a black or white family. But.. if that white person where to marry a light skinned Spanish person, someone from Asia, Europe, Greenland, any where else that is non-black in skin tone , there be less of an issue with many people. Many people with the belief that the races should not mix, it sets a cold tone - that often comes across non verbally, in churches, schools, and when you first meet someone. Yes, on the surface they will be cordial hi hello, but they do not see minorities really as "people" like them.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
8 May 08
Unfortunately, although I said race shouldn't enter the equation I did not say it is a perfect world,yet... but I think that we might get there soon. Things have been advancing fast, and the more inter racial marriages people encounter the more they get used to the idea and the less they find a problem with it. For many centuries - and with a few exceptions - people would marry within their own race which made sense not because of the race but because of geographical difficulties. Most people didn't even know about other races at least first hand. For others - if we go even further back in the past, different races where either part of a wining group in battle - thus hated - or the loosing group and then used as slaves - and I'm not talking the slave trade starting of the XV and XVI centuries but way further back. IN these conditions it was natural that an inter racial marriage would seem un-natural due to ignorance and tight tribal bias. It has been only more recently in history that people are moving freely and speedy from one place to the other and even more recently that people are shaking those bias, coming out of ignorance stages and are embracing the fact that we are all people - not color, culture, history or anything else, just people. It might take less time in certain places, a bit longer in others, but I do think that we will still continue evolving and there will be a time when people will be viewed as such and not as a color. As for the problems still existing, I know all about them specially because I must be one of the few white people that actually experienced it from both sides. I had trouble with a boyfriend's family because I was white, and I had trouble with another one's family because although I am as white as it comes one of my great grandparents was black. I have never hidden this because I don't see why I should, but someone in his family was offended because I still could have a black child according to her. But I stand behind my comment: race should not be a part of the equation.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
7 May 08
Let me word this very carefully. I would never judge anyone's marriage partner. Love crosses all boundaries. The only concern I have is for the children from a mixed marriage of black and white. Please forgive for identifying people by colour, but it's the only way to illustrate my point. I think those children don't belong to one race or the other and sometimes kids make fun of them or shut them out. Because my love for every child runs deeply and with strength_ I always think of the children. If anyone knows that children from the races I mentioned are now accepted in society, please tell me so I don't have to worry about them anymore. Thanks.
• India
8 May 08
Uh...this is news to me. In our country this does not happen. But just because some children are neither this nor that why should other people make fun of them? I wonder. But on the other hand why do we make fun of the 'other'? Isn't that one reason why when people would love to go for inter-racial marriage we encourage them. Because making fun of the 'other' is not good... But anyway, thanks a lot for the comment.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
8 May 08
I hope I didn't step on anyone's toes. Our cultures must be very different. It's hard me to imagine people who don't pick on each other. It is very sad, but not everyone in America is open-minded and we are judgemental. I feel a bit sad for pointing out how some inter-racial kids are not liked. Maybe it will change someday. Thanks for replying.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
8 May 08
Well, I am an Asian married to an American. What do you think? I don't know if it should be promoted but I guess this kind of marriage is already popular in different parts of the world. This is already a common thing. Inter-racial marriage is just like any kind of marriage. We go through a process of adjustment but more profound with inter-racial bacause of different issues like culture, tradition, belief or personal orientation. It was a struggle with us and we are struggling everyday. We just got married last year and honestly, it was really a roller-coaster ride. We almost call it quits days after the wedding. But then, maybe our love for each other is stronger than our patience and tolerance with each other. We need to make our own individual sacrifices too to be able to compliment each other so I guess that worked for us.
• India
8 May 08
I pray that both of you would never quit. It's quite encouraging for those unmarried to learn that people stay together even though they face all sorts of problems. Thanks for sharing you thoughts.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
8 May 08
I don't really think interracial marriage is a big deal. In the United States, people in south generally tend to be against it, while people in the north seem to not have such a problem with it. I know when I moved to the north from the south, I was surprised at how many interracial couples I would see as I was just going out and doing errands. In the south (I can say this for sure about Louisiana where I was raised) some of the older people and older, prestigious families are hardset against it, but I think the times are still slowly changing.
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• India
8 May 08
This is news. Thanks for the comment. I am rating your lines positively.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
7 May 08
Hi headhunter, We are all one, and race makes no difference at all. I have a son married to a girl from another race and my little granddaughter is beautiful. When two people fall in love they should never consider race as being a problem. Blessings.
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• India
8 May 08
I like diversity. And so the grandaughter must indeed be beautiful.
@Elixiress (3893)
7 May 08
I am not for or against inter-racial marriages. Why should an inter-racial marriage be seen as better or worse than a same-race marriage? It shouldn't otherwise that is racist in itself.
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• India
8 May 08
True, if we think one is better than the other. But because of the kind of attitude that people normally have for inter-racial marriage or rather the kind of attitude that people have for certain kind of race I thought it might be good to stress the importance of inter-racial marriage without undermining same race marriage. But your point is well noted... thanks for the comment!
@thuynhu (663)
• United States
7 May 08
I believe inter-racial marriage to be a good thing. It helps open peoples eyes up to things that they never believed before. There are so many stereo-types about people in different races. I am married to a black man and I am Asian. It was a big thing when I was growing up. My family wasn't big on me dating black guys because they believed such stereo-types of them. As I kept dating them they had no choice but to accept the fact that that was who I was dating. After a while they grew to like them and they weren't as stereo-typical of them. I just believe it could one day help the world as you say bring harmony.
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• India
8 May 08
Till we meet the other people we think that we are the best kind of people and the rest are bad... but only when we get to know them and interact with them we realise that they are good or bad as we are... and inter-racial marriage removes such kind of stereotypes. Thanks for the comment.
@dragon54u (31635)
• United States
7 May 08
I would love to see more inter-racial marriages! Blending our skin tones as well as our cultures will enrich everyone and give us less to fight about, wouldn't it? My grandfather used to say often that someday the world will be all of one color and God would be pleased that his children were all in accord, at least in that respect. And he was saying that forty years ago when it wasn't exactly a popular view to have! I think it would be great.
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• India
8 May 08
I quite agree with your grandfather's idea. Hopefully fifty years later his words would become quite a reality...or at least let's hope so. Thanks for the comment!
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@suhascg (227)
• Australia
8 May 08
i dont think these issues should even be considered.. i think all that matters in arranged marriages is the girl/boy's character and the family background..as long as these two conditions are met there should not be any other problem, and for love marriages as long as the couple think that they can live happily together, there shouldn't be a problem..
@kamit24 (1456)
• India
8 May 08
yeah i think ur absolutely right..this is good inter -racial marriage should be encouraged and it depends on certain things as you said..
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@danoluma (817)
• Kenya
8 May 08
I would encourage inter-racial marriages to harmonize th world. As long as there is real love between both parties then there is absolutely no problem with the marriage
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@lunmun (127)
• China
8 May 08
About inter-racial marriage ,i think left it on its own way. people came from different culture background may have great different on communication and may quarrl with each other in their lifetime .But inter-racial marriage can make the different culture complex and can produce new culture .in my opinion ,let the marriage on its own is the best way .
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• United States
8 May 08
Well I defeniatly don't think it should be discouraged. But I don't think it should be promoted anymore than other marriages are. A marriage is a marriage to me. If the people are in love, then I say go for it! get married, and be happy! Gay, Inter-racial, etc...I don't care. Everyone is equal and should be able to marry who they want without being critizised or looked at differently. I say inter-racial relationships (good ones) are just as happy as same race relationships. When two people (no matter which two people) are in a happy, loving, commited relationship...great!!! :) It should all bring harmony to the world!
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
8 May 08
i think it is good. as long as couples understand each other well and gets along well and if they really love each other, then i guess there's no objection for that thing
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@rohini33 (55)
8 May 08
i am the child of an inter racial marriage i am now 33 years of age and still dont know where i belong my mother is white and my father was black the white people think i am a black and look at me with open hate most of the time especially in england and the black people look at me like i am white and trying to be black but dont get me wrong i would not change it but some times it can get to me personally i feel more accepted by blacks than whites
• United States
8 May 08
Interacial marriage are we all not one race Human? come on it's 2008 if anyone has a problem with this these days the better look around and realize that there are much worse things to worry about
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@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
8 May 08
I don't really have any disagreement with inter-racial unions. Such kind of marriage is a celebration of two different cultures. It's very nice to know that the couples found peace and harmony together given all their differences.
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@maggie85 (34)
• China
8 May 08
I think the inter-racial marriage is great. They can share each other's thoughts, way of living, cultures, etc.But all of these are on the premise that can they can love each other, understand each other and live happily with each other.
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