Who is responsible ???

I find that in most cases the peace and tranquility of the home is disturbed by the men being pig headed, sexist idiots who think they can blame their wives for everything even though the wives are the only ones working their butts off day and night to keep the home running smoothing while the husband works his 8 hour job and then comes home to "relax" because his job is "just so demanding", aww poor baby. That's my reaction to this.

Are you trying to say that a home is without peace due to a wife's misunderstanding? I know it could be possible but it is not always a wife's fault. I'm pretty sure a husband would have a fault in it at some point. I know with my husband I have made some misunderstanding towards things he may say, so I explain to him that he needs to explain himself more clearly. And why should I have to continue to repeat myself. Don't you think the husband for whatever reason it is they don't like to listen to their wives and make wives to repeatedly repeat themselves. Wouldn't you get tired of doing that?

Sounds like this is YOUR problem from trying to control and dictate your wife. Be nicer to your wife and treat he like an equal and she won't "fail to understand and act diplomatically".

You make it sound like being diplomatic is a bad thing?? I personally take it as a compliment. That means I have deep understanding, and can see things from several views. This also allows me to make a level headed decision and please the masses. In keeping the peace and tranquility in my home, pleasing the masses comes in rather handy. In my home, keeping the peace does not fall on any one person's shoulders. It is the responsibility of every member of the household. Each person is responsible for their own actions, feelings, and thoughts. Each person holds a piece of the peace, and if they drop their piece, its their responsibility to pick it back up and move on. When there is a problem in my house, we don't point fingers and play the blame game. That's just selfish, rude, and immature. We work through the problem together, and come up with a solution a a group. This teaches the kids team work, self respect, self control, consequences of behavior, and true love. Some others have already commented on your way of handling things. I just want to add, that you sound like a caveman. Its not the man's sole responsibility to rule his house. I don't care what scripture you through at me, you misunderstand the Bible dear sir. A marriage is a union of two souls into one. You are a team that God sees as equal partners. Look it up...