Breaking up

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Netherlands
May 8, 2008 3:28pm CST
If you're going to break up with someone, what's the best way to do it?
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14 responses
@fifileigh (3621)
• United States
9 May 08
take them out to dinner to both of your favorite place and make it your last meal together as you break up.
• Netherlands
10 May 08
that's a good idea..thanks for responding and have a great weekend!
• Philippines
12 May 08
Good idea, last meal, last supper? hmmm By the way, I have a question, why break up when you can keep it? Though clandestinely of course, lol
• India
1 Jun 08
SOrry I love my girlfriend a hell lot n its the same way round from her So no Breakin Up or anythin happenin
• Netherlands
4 Jun 08
keep the love burnin' doctorgenius! and stay inlove.. thanks for responding!
• United States
11 May 08
I assume face to face. Not over the phone or by a text, but face to face.
• Netherlands
2 Jun 08
I agree sarah! You will really have the guts to do it..;) Thanks for the responce..
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@longbangod (1791)
• Philippines
10 May 08
Break it to me gently, if you have to just tell me lie. Break it to me gently at least leave me with my pride, Break it to me gently if you have to say goodbye,lol So are you really decided on this? hahaha, its okay as ive said just be gentle so he wont get hurt so much. you know I'm his friend and friends get hurt also when their friends are sad, hahahaha
• Netherlands
10 May 08
hahahahahaha...what/who are your talking about Mr. Bangod?!? lol...well, just like what you've said.."break it gently"... lol.. thanks for the response..
@tessah (6638)
• United States
8 May 08
it depends on the situation really. if said person has done something horrible.. theyre cut off at the knees quick and set curbside before they can blink. if its just simply because the relationship isnt going anywhere and just needs to end.. more tact is necessary to not hurt feelings. honesty however, is always the best course of action in either route. ive known some people that will do things purposefully to hurt the other to try to upset them to get them to do the breaking up because they are too cowardly to do it themselves and dont wanna be the "bad buy", and thats just not the way to go about it.
@tessah (6638)
• United States
9 May 08
it usually does.. sadly. i have an ex that was a fantastic guy.. SOBER. when he got drunk he liked to beat the piss out of me.. since he wouldnt quit the bottle, i quit him.
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
I hate breaking up with someone. It's just something the last thing I would do and far the worst thing. And we can't just ignore it.. And the best way to do it is by talking to them. Tell everything, everything why you think you guys should have to break up. It is so unethical if you just leave them hanging and not talk about it because you were scared to say what's going on. You making the person hurting more. Try as best as you can to detail everything and why things will not gon' work out. That's at least the best way you can say it. It is a good thing for you too, cause you wouldn't have as much burdens if you didn't tell the person exactly why..
@DudaYLen (219)
• Philippines
9 May 08
Do it nicely. Keep the conversation simple without blaming each other. Don't take the cowards way out.Be fair and let them know straight up!
@meiteoh (421)
• Switzerland
8 May 08
Do it face to face and just be honest. Yes, it will hurt but all break-ups are like that. We just deal with the pain and move on. I'd rather have broken up with my 2nd ex face to face and trash out all the issues we had than over the phone. Yes, I am one of those people who resorted to tech to do the job (not SMS that is). I just couldn't wait another six months for him to get back to Malaysia and then break up. Six months of non-stop quarrelling and being semi-attached to someone who doesn't bother communicating or keeping in touch with his girlfriend. In essence, I was better off single and I really HAD to break it.
• United States
8 May 08
The worst way is to text them or tell them on the phone. Just tell them person to person and tell the person why and explain that it's not their fault and you just want to move on. Don't be to harsh.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
8 May 08
Since I am a chicken and don't like confrontations..I would email them or leave a message on their answering machine while they are gone. I would put the blame on myself saying that they didn't do anything wrong...no attacking them....no cutting them down....juse saying I was not longer able to be in a relationship with them.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
8 May 08
Face to face and honestly....I really dont care for ppl who break up with their bf/gf by way of texting or emails etc..even over the phone (though not as bad) sucks IMO
@kykidd (6823)
• United States
8 May 08
Face to face is definitely the best way. Remaining friends, too, is a great idea. If they are the type of person who would fly off in private but not in public, take them to their favorite restaurant.
@dig_it (27)
• India
8 May 08
Just say that ur really busy and will not have much time to spend with him. Besides you have different goals and interests so you don't see a future together.
@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
8 May 08
honestly. Don't make them feel bad (telling them why it's their fault), but tell them the truth. You need to have the courage to do what's right for you. Lying gives false hope, from someone who trusts and needs to hear nothing but the truth from your lips... Sometimes you'll realize they were feeling the same things, and you might actually stay friends...