i have a big problem
May 9, 2008 2:43am CST
i have a really big problem, i mean for me. I`m 21 years old and I have never fell in love, I have had 3 relationships, but I couldn`t attach to anyone at the spiritual level I mean. Give me a piece of advice pls, maybe I`m doing something wrong, or maybe I just havent found the right peson. HELP!
9 May 08
yes, you are right to ask me that. The past relationships were merely friendships, we didn`t got involved too much, platonic relationships the first one lasted 2 months, the second about 1 month and the last one 3 months. I`m in college and I have a lot more things to study about, live with my parents and they get involved too because they are my parents, it`s complicated stuff.
9 May 08
I understand. What if you focus on your study first and try to get one good footage to stand for in carrier. You can deal with a serious relationship after this. Meanwhile, you may get as many female friends as you can, for a common friends, and learn how to understand them, what the girls want, this is a good ration to prepare when you choose the right woman for your marriage life. When you'd done, your parents will no doubt will release yourself to find your own life. We don't have a doubt in a man who had a purpose in life, such as a job or carrier, rather than none type. But besides that, there are still many important things rather than money alone. Emotional details, and how you as a man is gonna to work it out as the best rations to us. Not all man has the ability or eager to learn the art of understanding a woman. This is a dictionary that you must have before your important day come, the marriage. Because if not, even you had success (rich) by that time, you'll find out that man and woman is totally different when both hubby-wife is successful. So, take your time, life subject is not only about making a love, there are still many aspects in life the same as important as making a relationship. You, which may start to approach your parents, should prepare the umbrella before rain. If you push hard to find a love, it may burden your life, because in the end you'll stuck with your parents back again, or maybe it's more complicated like you said. Just stick to which is more important in life. Do it because it has the effect to all. Seek the root, then you can harvest the fruit if you plant it well.
9 May 08
dont worry you will find the right person for you maybe right now it isnt time for you...dont find love because love will find you...just concentrate in other things..maybe one of these days you will find yourself falling in love to someone...just dont think too much of it because it will come in a right time and in a right place......
9 May 08
You dont have to worry anything my dear friend. There are some people who really haven't fallen inlove at the age of 21. I myself feel that I am really inlove when I reach the age of 27. See, falling inlove does not require any age. Some people experience it very young and some waited for it to happen even up to half of their lives. I suggest that you better enjoy your life. Im sure that it will come on you at your most unexpected time coz that's the magic of love.
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9 May 08
your only 21, its not a big deal.. i mean, it may seem very daunting and what not, but you have plenty of time. most likely you arent doing anything wrong.. everyone always gets paranoid about that, but when you find the right person, the things you think would be "turn offs" or "quirks" are those that they may find attractive. I mean, basically, to sum it up, you arent really "doing that bad." 3 relationships isnt all that much and time will bring that person to you