My parents pushing me to get married as soon as posibble ~__~

Indonesia
May 9, 2008 6:07am CST
The reasons: because many my friends and relative get married these past 2 years. makes me feels heavy and blue,i am 25 years old... am i that old so have to rush married? i still wants to enjoy my life... sometimes i hope i live on another country. Here in asia its like a taboo if ladies married at more than 25 years old (how lame)...
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@pooh08 (672)
• Vietnam
10 May 08
My parent encourage me don't get married early. They said I'm young, so I should care about my carrier. Get married is sooner or later thing I have to do but it's not now. I agree with my parent.
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@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
10 May 08
Why should people always want to push someone in getting Married? I feel that when a person is ready to get Married, they will know. And who should be the better judge on this than yourself. There is nothing wrong with enjoying Single life, and having a Career, etc. Also, until you meet the man you know who is Best for you, why rush into something that may not last. I was 34 when I got married, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt this was the man for me, and am very happy over 9 yrs. later. So personally, there is nothing wrong with waiting, and when it happens you will know it is time, and the Best thing for you. Wishing you luck.
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@taface412 (3176)
• United States
9 May 08
No one should ever be forced or rushed into something as sacred and important as marriage. I am sure if I lived in your country I would be considered an old maid, but in the US women are waiting to be married until much later in their lives (30's, 40's, etc), because women have come a long way in the work force and members of our society compared to the past. And marriage should never be viewed as a social status grabber. At least in my opinion. I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than to live with someone I know I did not truly, 100% love. I am not married and do not know if one day I will. But I leave the option open in case I meet the "MR. Right" for me. But I do not know what it is like, or even imagine what it would be like, to live in a country where the importance of marriage at a young age is so high. Be true to yourself no matter what you do. You are the one who has to live with your choices.
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@aaslin (123)
• India
9 May 08
I can understand how you feel about the whole thing. I come from Malaysia and over here, people start bugging you about having a boyfriend when you're 19, then they start bugging you about marriage when you're 21. I got married when I was 28 compared to my cousins who got married at 24 or 25. Sure, I got pushed to get married but I don't believe in peer pressure or pressure from anyone. Marriage is serious business, something you or anyone else shouldn't rush into. So what can you do about it? My best answer is to ignore them. How do you do that? Well, dear, this is your life, your choice. You are responsible for your own happiness and how you lead it. People will always ALWAYS have something to say but if you can take it and rise above them, you'll be happy no matter what happens.
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• Philippines
9 May 08
maybe your parents feel that you should settle down once in for all...maybe they want you to be really happy...they're scared that when they're gone, you would not have somebody like them, unless you have your own family or at least a husband to be with you always..so just understand your parents if ever they force you...they just want you to be happy...but of course that decision is still up to you...you decide for your own self and that they cant dictate you of what should you do for your life..
@Elixiress (3893)
10 May 08
You will get married as soon as you find the right person, being pushed into marriage is only going to push you through a divorce as well.
• Australia
10 May 08
You are 25 already, it's not old but enough to make your own decision. Stop being a little baby girl doing everything your parents want you to do. Get married whenever you want.
@unuzzz (1274)
• Indonesia
10 May 08
hi borneocraft haha, same problem with me.. i'm a male and i'm only 22 years old well, turning 23 this year this marriage issue had been around me since one or one and a half year ago my mother wants me to get married as soon as possible i don't have a girlfriend right now, and my mom always tell me to find one, make a serious relationship and get married soon bah.. i don't want to, hehee i still want to enjoy my life, make lots of friends, travelling around, etc a relationship will only become an obstacle for me right now maybe later i'll think about it more serious when the time came.. hehea good luck for you borneocraft .. ^^ thanks
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
10 May 08
NOp you are not old to get rush to marry coz 25 is still young. I remember when i was that age, it was my ideal age to get married but unfortunately i wasnt married but now at the age of 28, it's like the years are running very fast that i felt old and feel like rushing to get married and chances are very little. I certainly hope not coz i am really expecting to get married soon. Just enjoy your singleness for now because when it's the right time you will just feel it trust me. Goodluck!
• Indonesia
10 May 08
ugh. really? where are you living? but, i think it is not too bad, cause whenever we get marry, we will find it. ok. let's marry together.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 May 08
i dont think you have to rush into marriage at your age. you can still enjoy your life being single. it does not guarantee you a better life if you get married... tell your parents you dont want to commit mistakes if you hurry in choosing the man you will marry. marriage is a life long bond... you dont want to be tied to a person just because you are "married"
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
10 May 08
I understand that it may be difficult in some cultures. I hope you feel that you can follow your own heart and mind on this. It is a too important thing to be taken lightly. Once you get married you have to stay with this man for the rest of your life - ideally. Here it is no big deal if one stay unmarried ones entire life. I hope you get the life you want with the person you want.
@youless (94716)
• Guangzhou, China
10 May 08
In my opinion, 25 years old is a very young age. It is not necessary for you to get married in a hurry as you still have plenty of time. I am from Guangzhou, China. Here we don't want to get married so early. As long as you get married, it will be another life and we all want to have a better financial conditions and then get married. Actually my colleague's friend got married today. It is her first marriage and right now she is already 35. I love China
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
10 May 08
Well i guess it is just time.. i also hope my parents do the same thing to me .. 25 is reasonable..
@Hatley (164451)
• Garden Grove, California
9 May 08
borneocraft no indeed you are not that old that you have to marry the first person who looks at you. I did not marry until I was thirty and we were married for thirty four years. Find the one you will love and take your time so you know he is the right one for you. my best wishes and God bless
• Philippines
9 May 08
getting married is not base on age..i live in asia as well but i don't make it a big deal when it comes to marriage..i don;t have plans of getting married anyway..you can marry young and marry older than 25..its all up to you..parents should not be putting pressure on their child as to whatever concerns they have for children might end up having a bad life within marriage if its pushed over that much...i really think 25 is not old enough and your just fine even if you get married on your 30's..
@subha12 (18453)
• India
9 May 08
yes, i understand your condition. i am from india, so i know the condition very well. i think this should be stopped. one should not marry until and unless that person is ready to get married.
@5mayday (1054)
• Norway
9 May 08
I think 25 is still pretty young, and I dont think there are many problems to get married later. My brother got married when he was 29 and my mom still think it was a little too early. My sister is 27 and are planning to get married soon, but probably in 1-2 years.
@egdcltd (7190)
9 May 08
Don't ruin your life by getting married when you don't want to. It's your life, not theirs, and your the one who'll have to live it by rushing into a marriage you don't want.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
9 May 08
Hi. You're too young and I think its too early to be married. I live in Asia and I dont think its a culture thing nowadays. Maybe before it did bit now? Well, maybe your relatives are just pressuring you ebcasue they were bitten by the wedding bug. Like you said, your friends nad relatives got married and in onyl a span of 2 years. Maybe they dont like the wedding train to end and so they wre kinda hoping that you'd join in the bandwagon too. Im younger than you and Ive already decided that I wont get married until im about 28-31 years old. Before that time I will stay single, continue flirting and having fun.^_^LOL Kidding about the continue flirting, not that kinda person.^_^ Anyways, I want to take care of myself first before I will take on the responsibility of taking care of another person. Dont feel sad or bad about it. Just ignore or or you could just respond with a silent smile and go do your own thing. Its always nice to settle down wiht someone when you yourself and everything else around your life is already settled down. Then again, thats just me. Goodluck in everything!^_^