Huge Pet peeve

@webeishere (36353)
United States
May 9, 2008 11:10am CST
My wife is a waitress which entails making sure the tables are clean for the customers to sit at and enjoy their meals at a clean sanitary table. Now my pet peeve is with my wifes cleanliness at home in this same area. Each day I constantly have to wipe up coffee stains from her spills. Wiping up sticky honey from the counters and tables and from the bottle itself. Bread crumbs all over the place. She does not wipe things down like they should be. She will use a sponge to wipe here and there but never rinse it. This leaves streaks of dirty gunky stuff on the areas wiped. So this is my gripe today and my pet peeve with my wife.
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@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
9 May 08
Crumbs - The mess left behind by my husband
I understand that you don't want to clean up after your wife walks through a room. This is my problem with my husband, so do understand the situation. Many of my friends tell me that if this is my only problem with my husband, then I don't have any problems. I'm sure they are right, as I hear a lot of bad situations on this board. Good luck and nothing has worked for me and been together as long as your wife and you have been together.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
9 May 08
oh oreo you are so right, we would give anything just to have them again worts and all, they could do all their old habits and we would just be glad that they were there again.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
9 May 08
I hate that too, the mess is disgusting and I usually clean up all messes that happen before it gets really bad..The problem I have is my husband and sometimes the kids will put all their junk on the table and then eat around the junk, so I really can't clean up the mess..Like today, I had to move my husbands heat pad and have to make my son move all his legos off, because I can see crumbs here and there that I can't get to..
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
9 May 08
You should see the sides of the fridge which is against the stove. She spills things while cooking and leaves it to harden for me to clean. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
9 May 08
Lol I have to admit that is a Pet peeve of mine to But I guess as she does this all Day at work she is fed up with it lol and wants to be spoilt when she is home
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
9 May 08
Spoiled? I don't think so. It's called laziness. HAHAHA!1 HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
9 May 08
ahh! but your wife does work and maybe it is a hassle for you but maybe you should cut her some slack. I understand pet peeves but I am sure that she works hard all day and just wants to come home and relax a bit. Maybe you should suggest a container of clorox wipes. they will get the job done and then she can simply throw them away.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
9 May 08
I've suggested almost everything. we have wipes etc for this purpose. She doesn't even wash the dishes correctly. It may be the mood I am in today who knows. Thanks. But this has been happening for over 30 years now.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
9 May 08
Is it really that bad or are you just having a bad day?? Maybe she is tired from having to do it all day long for strangers and for a payday.. I am not sure that if I had to do something over and over again all day long that I would want to do it again when I came home from work.. I always keep paper topwels and windex handy, it is so much easier.. Maybe you can just have a talk with her and tell her if she will keep it clean half of the week, you will do it the other half.. Any way it goes, Good luck and have a great day..
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
9 May 08
It's so bad I even have paper towels set under the coffee maker to soak up the drips/spills. I make a cup of coffee then end up wiping thwe counters etc for the next 15 minutes. Luckily she isn't home a lot.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
9 May 08
Ah Bob.....now I understand how it gets irritating but I am sure all her good qualities outweight the bad.....But since I live by myself I guess I am not qualified to be judgemental of anyone! LOL
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
9 May 08
I totally understand about pet peeves with one's spouse. I think we all, if totally honest, have pet peeves about our spouse's behavior. One of my pet peeves about my husband is how he doesn't take good care of his clothing. He will take something off and throw it in the bottom of the closet. He'll leave the item there until ready to wear it again! He'll put things in a drawer and never wear them, yet wear the same few things over and over. He will spill coffee on a shirt and not put it in the laundry and wear it again! His clothes look like those of a little 8-year old boy! He'll wear a pair of jeans over and over until the butt is shiny and sagging down like a family of cats moved out of them! Grrrrr!!!
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
9 May 08
hi Grandpa Bob I bet its a leftover from working as a waitress and having to clean a zillion tables all day for people tohave a decent place to eat. I am saying this because my husband used to work as a cook and he was spoiled as he never had to wash a dish ,there wasalways someone hired just to do the dishes. I used to complain that he would never ever wash or dry a dish.His response was always the same;I had to wash dishes all my childhood and then when I got to be a cook I vowed I would never wash a dish again." And he sure kept to his vow lol so I am guessing maybe your wife has made some sort of similar vow to herself about really do a great job of wiping up counters and table tops at home. poor you
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
10 May 08
airing your dirty laundry or should I say dirty tables are we lol. I guess she is tired of cleaning and knows she has a nice and helpful husband to do it for her
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
10 May 08
Yeah that's it. I am just a sweet husband. That whines a lot too. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
• United States
9 May 08
I won't say that your wife is right to leave a mess, but!!! I used to manage/own rest.'s and let me tell you, after you wipe up after nasty people all evening, some with kid's that they let smear food all over the place, you just don't want to look at another dish towel when the shift is done. It is kind of like food, if you eat burgers everyday you will soon get sick of them. I always had to force myself to do dishes, or wipe at home. So i do know how she feels. Cut her some slack, and give her a little service when she gets home.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
10 May 08
Nahhh she has always been this way even before she worked as a waitress. HAHAHAHA!! I soile her enuff as it is. Tee hee!! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
• United States
10 May 08
ugh..i have this very same arguement every single day with my mom.she spills coffee and powdered creamer on the counter and leaves it there,to congeal into a nasty,sticky mess. then sandwiches adding crumbs to the gunk and sometimes some jelly.. she knows it makes me angry and still does it. i guess she likes ants :(
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@AmbiePam (50083)
• United States
10 May 08
Uh-oh. If she does this at home, does it mean I shouldn't eat at the tables she cleans? Or does she reserve cleaning the tables correctly only for work? And then you have to suffer the consequences. It sounds like my mom and dad. Only my mom is always cleaning up after my dad. He knows he does it, but doesn't much care. It would annoy me too.
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@mummymo (23707)
9 May 08
Oh dear AGB you really do need to get out don't you honey! I guess your wife does a lot of this at work and you are always saying how hard she works so maybe you can understand she has had enough when she is at home! It is kind of like a gardner who has a weedy overgrown garden at home! lol xxxx
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I am a forty year old woman who really likes to keep things organized and clean. I can appreciate your frustrations. I find myself from time to time wiping, sweeping, dusting something and then it gets touched or rearranged. I also like things to be wiped down without the residue left behind of which you are speaking of. Just try to be patient. It's not easy, I know.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Jul 08
i agree she should clean up behind herself but don't guess it hurts you too much to do it while she's probably doing other work around the house. i think when both work both should help at home but don't think it usually works like that.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
28 May 08
Well I hope she wipes the tables at her job better than she does at home :) I hate it too when people do not clean up after or behind themselves. I'm constantly saying to my daughter- wipe off the bread crumbs! Clean up that spill.... Ugh-- drives me crazy!
@Adelida2233 (1008)
• United States
24 May 08
I find that the thing that people hate doing the most is the thing that they are the most lax about at home. I work in fashion, and therefore, am required to wear something "cutting-edge" and fashionable to work. One problem with this, most of the clothes that are popular are beyond uncomfortable. When at home, I look like I did in college...jeans and a gungy t-shirt, or shorts and grungy t-shirt, depending on the season. This drives everyone except my boyfriend crazy(unless it happens to be the grungy t-shirt he was going to wear). I have no advice for your sticky(bun) situation that would actually work thus far, my boyfriend is famous for dripping coffee while pouring it in the cup(this leaving a coffee ring everywhere he sets the cup down).
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
13 May 08
Maybe you should pay her and then she'll clean up after herself LOL My peet peeve with my husband is that he doesn't help out around the house at all. I have come to the realisation that he is just not domesticated and have accepted it. I don't get on his case about it anymore and just do what I need to do and not sweat the small stuff.
@blackbriar (9080)
• United States
12 May 08
lol Sounds like she feels she cleans enough tables at work so likes to not think about work when she is home. It does seem a lil odd that she doesn't like to clean up after herself at home thou.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
11 May 08
Grandpa Bob - if that is the worse thing your wife does (or does not do) then you are married to an angel. I work with developmentally disabled adults - on saturdays I do a double at the house, I cook 3 meals for these guys and it is like feeding first army. Then there are dishes to do and cleaning up after. Then I cook at least 2 other days a week at the house. I used to like cooking, right now I am tired of it. Maybe your wife feels the same way. It gets to be torturous to seem to be doing the same thing endlessly. Cut her a bit of slack on this one.