Inappropiate pictures sent via email from a 14yr girl to my son also 14

United States
May 9, 2008 1:47pm CST
My son is 14 years old. He is allowed a my space and an email address..but the deal is I have the passwords. I told him periodically I would check both. No problem, he agreed. Well about a month ago I happened across an email sent by another 14 year girl in his school. It was a picture of herself bent over in a tank top/no bra (Use your imagination folks) and the caption read underneath.."Want some?". Well.......First off I was mad, how could anyone send this to my son. Then my 10 year old daughter was standin near by. I showed it to her and told her in no uncertain terms that if she EVER sent a picture to anyone like this she would never see the light of day. My next thought was to print it down and take it to this girl's mother. So, my question is: would you or wouldn't you as a mother want to know if your 14 year old was sending emails like this to her friends? I know I would want to know! I will tell you what this mom said. Result might suprise you after a few of you answer.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 May 08
Of course I would want to know! This is why I also have the password for my daughter's myspace. I really don't understand some kids these days. My 16 year old step daughter does have a lot of photos of herself on her page and yes, she looks a little too grown up in a few, but none are blantently inappropriate or suggestive. You did the right thing in my opinion and from the hint you gave it sounds like that girl's mom needs her head screwed on a little tighter.
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• United States
9 May 08
LOL You got that right!
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 May 08
Letting her "stuff" hang out looked "pretty"?! What is wrong with that woman! That girl has a long road ahead of her if that's the way her life is already. I know a girl who posted similar pictures on her myspace for the whole world to see...she did end up pregnant at 14 (no baby, nature took care of things early on) and I don't really know where she is now. From bits and pieces I've picked up she's 'been with' several boys (like 5 or more)and won't even be 16 for another few months.
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• United States
9 May 08
But ya know whats really sad. We live in such an open society which seems to have no limits anymore. Between the role models our children have and the news media putting everything out there, you would hope that the parents would be smart enough not to buy into it also. Its up to us to have some common sense or decency to help redirect our children. But I find more and more that adults are either too tired or too indifferent to take the time to think about how this effecting all our children.
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• United States
9 May 08
of course i would, and as a mother of a 14 yr old boy a well i would not even think twice that picture would have been in her mothers hands that same day, if shes sending it to your son god knows who esle has that picture and thats exaclty how these girls atract the wrong kind of attention..
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• United States
9 May 08
Well that picture was in her hands the same day. She didn't seem suprised and actually commented on how pretty her daughter looked?! I do feel sorry for the child and a child she is. Apparently this is a child who is out there looking for attention. Unfortunately out there has expanded and its now a very dangerous place. I prayer for this child and that this mother won't be a grandmother next year or worse yet her daughter remains safe.
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• United States
9 May 08
i agree wth you i do feel sorry 4 that girl, i would never comlpiment my daughter on a picture like, she wouldnt see the light of day until she prolly 30 yrs old, that is crazy that that little girls mother would not do anything..wow i am shocked..
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• United States
9 May 08
At first I was shocked but the more I thought about the less shocked I was. I mean after all is anything shocking anymore? Now thats sad!
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• United States
9 May 08
Wait a minute hold on so she only had on a tank top? What is going through this girl's mind? What was she thinking and where is her mother? I mean you had every right to be concerned both for your son and for the girl because who knows what could happen to that girl for putting up pictures like that. Almost everyone in the world is on MySpace except me and who knows if someone else saw the picture and saw her on the streets and something happened. I would want to know and I would keep a close eye on my daughter If I had one. And what did the mother say?
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• United States
9 May 08
She had a tank top on with no bra and had pants on. But she was bent over and the tank was very loose. So you can imagine that everything could be seen. Her mom thought she looked pretty. No joke. I tried talking to the mother at first I thought she was embarrassed and that was a flippant answer. But sadly no, she really didn't see anything wrong with the picture or what her daughter wrote.
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• United States
9 May 08
Oh okay I got confused for a moment. Well that is just plain wrong and the mother must have been drunk when she told you that. What kind of a mother would say that? I really can't understand what is wrong with the mother.
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@aiyreen (286)
• Philippines
9 May 08
i too have 4 kids, 3 girls and 1 boy... the girls age 9, 10 and 11 have their own email account and friendster account. i regularly check their internet activities. and since we have very strict rules to follow, (that was asking permission first before they use the computer and have time limits... plus, yes, having the passwords) it's really easy for me to watch what these kids regularly do on the internet
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
15 May 08
Well, first off if I had a daughter and she sent a picture like that...I'd definately be pulling her email account and she'd be grounded till she was 40. Second, for the mother to think she's "cute" or "pretty" shows the mother doesn't have the sense God gave a goat. She's too blind to see that her daughter is heading down a dangerous road and she should be thanking her lucky stars that the pic only went to another 14 year kid and not some 50 year old child molester! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@nishidh (105)
• India
10 May 08
just try teach your childeran
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10 May 08
please do not take it serious and make it big issue but u have take care of your kids and just tell him just aavoid the kind of mails .then he know my mother do not like this and he always omit it.in other part the girl who send the photo. first we must thingif u take the pho to her mother she might angry and beat or scold her mother so better not to some time it might harm the girls mind.so please forget this matter we all come from the youngre age but now we all strict with our children because we knows about it . so your children also must know good and bad let them lern for their knowledge but the should not addiceted to those things .and thanks for your forgiveness.
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• United States
10 May 08
i think it is beyond great that you are involved with your child care enough to not just worry but to check up on..im sure the mother didnt mind seeing as how her daughter was sending the pics from i suspect her comp i would be just as outraged as you kids today wanna grow up too fast i hate it they should be clinging to childhood as adult hood is difficult i would want to know because not just was it a pic sent online but with implications of far worse..want some dam that river to hades bravo to you for making something of it hell there are too many perverts out there print and confront id say
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@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
10 May 08
Well I think I would most definately show a copie to the mother. Even if she tried to defend her daughter in some way, at leaste then I would know I did what I could. Because if it were my daughter I would want to know. That is so dangerouse what she is doing, it is hard because there are so many mixed messages out there for kids, it is our job to monitor and guild them right? When my kids were in their teens we did not have a puter, I think I am glad of that. Geeez to much...
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
12 May 08
My 13yr. old son has a myspace and an e-mail. we know his passwords and check his stuff every day or so. If that was my 14yr. old daughter she would not only be under house arrest until she turned 18 she also would not have access to a computer until i taught her some morals and manners. Does this woman not relize the type of monsters lurking out there for just such a chance at a child?