Can you still trust someone you love who already lied to you?

Philippines
May 11, 2008 1:10am CST
My girlfriend for eight years lied to my about everything that could make me mad. I don't trust her anymore but I still love her and I don't want to lose her. What should I do?
8 responses
@JAY020582 (411)
• Philippines
13 May 08
Do you still love her despite what she did to you? did you forgive her because you think she wouldn't do it anymore? or you forgive her because of your 8 years together, it is hard to be in a relationship without trust if you forgive you should learn to forget, people do mistakes try to give her a chance, give back the trust that you given her just like before, if you can't trust anymore why let her go. you two deserve to be happy.
• Philippines
16 May 08
I don't love her anymore. I just feel like I don't want to just throw away the eight years that we had. I have to admit that I still like being with her. She is really fun to be with but I just can't get over the fact the she cheated on me. I've been faithful to her and she had been ufair to me. She has her way of making me stay in our relationship. Maybe she's a witch? LOL! :0)
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
29 Aug 10
Well love is somthing excepts nothing in return, even she lied you or not true..you love her, coz you love her for what she is!
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
16 May 08
How many times has she lied to you? If more than once, than eight years will have to slowly go down the drain.... You may just have to let her go. The saying is, Once a liar, always a liar. If she cheats then she will lie... If she lies, then she will steal...
• United States
12 May 08
i just finished a book called ship of fools, and it's about some really complicated relationships between people. I guess it's sad if you don't trust the person you like or love, though that's what ship of fools is all about, never trusting anyone, not even your family. you know the answer already =)
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
12 May 08
After being together for that long If you really truly love her,and if she really truly loves her,you should give her another chance,I know right now you might not trust her,but give her the chance to make up for it and prove you can trust her again,and dont judge her on whats happened,you cant look to the past,you have to concentrate on the future or else you wont get anywhere ,but all in all the best advice I can give is listen to your heart because it will never steer you wrong,and it will always know whats best.
@leebob (34)
• China
12 May 08
It's a knotty matter.I think trust is the basis of our friendship and something other.I suggest that you communicate with her.To tell her that trust's of important. I think that may be a good way.
11 May 08
If you have been together for eight years, is it worth throwing it all away due to what she has done? Is she who you thought she was or has she changed? Maybe you have changed or have you just grown apart? The best thing you can do is be mature about it and discuss it with her and if the relationship is worth saving, perhaps you should learn to let things go and move on from it. If you don't or can't I doubt the relationship will last as it will carve a deeper wedge between you over a period of time. Sorry if my comments sound harsh, they were not meant to be. Life is too short to dwell on things.
@rainwater (353)
• China
11 May 08
I hope you will consider that your choice.I am sorry,I can not say noting.