Me being a Mother

By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48803)
United Kingdom
May 11, 2008 12:15pm CST
I have been inspired with this Discussion by my lovely Friend Mooch because she did a wonderful Tribute to me, which surprised me and brought Tears to my Eyes because of the Love I receive from my Friends on here She wrote about me a Tribute as an Example of a wonderful Mother To me being a Mother is a job for Life, my Children, Boy and Girl Adults are my everything, I was told I could not have Children due to being raped at the age of 5 for 2 years, I was told this when I was 17 and had been rushed into Hospital with severe Pains, it was my Ovaries, they are badly damaged Anyway I fell Pregnant with my Boy at the Age old 22 when the Ex Husband and I decided to try, I had a Miscarriage before my Son , the first 6 Months where great in the pregnancy, then the Problem started and I had a job keeping hold of my Baby, but with a lot of Problems and Pains I did it, I swore that I would care and look out for him for the rest of my Love, I swore this to him as I looked into his little Face 2 Years later I fell pregnant with my Daughter, from Day 1 there was Problems, again I held on, when she was born, she was not breathing and I thought I had lost her but after half an hour they managed to get her back, again I held her in my Arms and swore the same, I was told then my Daughter was high risk of Cot Death, I was up with her just sitting with her most Nights and Days, I would get up after 2-3 hours sleep panicking in case she had gone, she was a sick Baby for the first 6 Months, then she blossomed She was 9 Months old when I was forced to get a Part time Job, Ex Husband liked his Social Life, I needed Money to feed my Kids and dress them, My Son was at Play School and my close Friend kept my Daughter, I would come home and the rest of the time was with my Kids I worked all the way through my Children growing up but once I was home my time was theirs, there where times they followed me round while I was cleaning and that lol, which I loved and we would talk My Daughter used to follow me every where I had to watch that I did not trip over her lol, if I went to the Toilet she would sit outside the door and wait for me Now they are Adults and we are still close even though I have moved 3 hours away to the South, due to a few Reasons, again, we sat down and talked about it before I took the step, my Children have been and still are here for me since I have been diagnosed with my Sickness and reduced to Disability, forced to stop working, I loved working, all of a sudden I was home and my Children where going to work, School. I felt lost useless, my Children saw me through it, they did not turn their back on me, they where there for me. But then they started to live their Life round me and it was not fair on them, if one went out, the other one would not go on a Night out, no matter what I said and that I would be ok they still would not listen lol My Children are my World, they are the Children I was told I would never have and to this Day I thank God for giving them to me, that they have grown into 2 wonderful, responsible Adults As most of you know 4 weeks ago I could have lost my Son due to being left lying bleeding badly, I didn't and again I am so grateful I used to starve when there was not enough Food, I will starve now while I am helping my Son and for as long as I am here, I will be there for my Kids and help them, no matter what Children are very valuable People and need to be guided the right way working Mum or not, tired or not, always be there for them even when they are Adults Again Thank you to all my lovely Friends here who are always here to support me and who love me I love you all to and you all do not realise how much it means to me Sorry it is so long
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20 responses
@ellie333 (21029)
11 May 08
Wow, I didn't see Mooch's discussion but reading this one just brought tears to my eyes. Well done you for being the mother that you are after experiencing so much in life. You are blessed with have loving children but that is because you are such a loving mother yourself. Well done you. Big hugs. Ellie :D
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Ellie it was not meant to reduce you to tears lol I am sorry I just was so amazed and surprised when I saw Mooch Discussion it certainly did make me cry as I am just me Ex Husband only wanted to know when he thought it was right I was married yes but I was a single Mum believe me Don't get me wrong he loves the Kids and they love him but the closeness is not there because he never took the time his Social Life was more important and his Friends
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 May 08
Thats ok Gabs it gave me an excuse to have a good blub, its good to cry sometimes eh! LOL. Ellie :D
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Lol yes it is I did last Night Hugs to you
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
11 May 08
I think that you are a very special person Gabs and clearly have been and will continue to be there for your children. All of us that are parents love our children so much. I didn't see Mooch's discussion, but she was clearly right. You give so much love. Hugs. XX
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Awwwwwwww p1 thank you so much I do still remember the trouble your lovely Girl had that time with what was said to her I really hope she is ok with all that now as she is a lovely Girl Hugs back to you xxx
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 May 08
Thank you for the BR Gabs. Keep smiling.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 May 08
Sweetie you are a wonderful mother to girl and two boys yes that little man with the fur coat, he is your baby too. I did not know that you had so much trouble with carrying your children, that makes them even more special. I too don't know what I would do without my son either. He still lives with me at 31 and he is my life. We live together because we are both so poor we cannot afford the rent in separate homes. I wish life was easier but that is what we have to deal with and so we do. My own mother just sent three big boxes of food for us, that is how poor we are. But from one mother to another happy mother's day hon, you really deserve it.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Hi there Rose I am so sorry as I know how you feel I really do I have been there many a time and even now it is tight because I help Mike but not any more to the extend where I have to totally starve you know what kept me going and still is the love of and for my Children and yes my little Gissi boy I even put him first lol a few weeks back I didn't have a lot and the bit of Money I had left I went and bought Gissi Food
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Oh Sweetie I am sorry Happy Mothers Day to you to and stay positive
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@nannacroc (4049)
11 May 08
I know exactly how you feel about your children, I feel the same about mine. Their hurt is always your hurt and it is so hard to let go but also be there for them. I think you've done a great job with yours.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Thank you Nannacroc I could not ask for better Children
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@nannacroc (4049)
11 May 08
It's the way they were cared for that made them what they are. Take care Gabs
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@dana234 (2126)
• Spain
11 May 08
I felt like crying when I first read this, gabs, but I know you didn´t write this to reduce people to tears. Your childhood was very sad, but nevertheless you become a loving, caring mother. It´s great that they are still as close to you as they were when they were kids. I wouldn´t know what to do if anything happened to my daughter. She´s everything to me and always will be, so I know what you mean when you say: my children are my world to me. May you always be as close to each other as you are now. Love ya XXX Dana
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Sweetie thank you Our kids are very special and always will be You will also always be my Special Friend as you are one of my lovely Friends that is always here for me Thank you Sweetie Love you Big Hugs
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@weemam (13389)
11 May 08
we will always be here for you sweetheart , God Bless xx
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Weemam you know you are special to me and you are also a very special Person, Daughter Mother and Wife never forget that Love you xxxxx
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@rx4life (1935)
• United States
11 May 08
Okay Gabs...the winner of the Mother of the Year award goes to.....(drum roll.....)GABS!!! Yea....( crowd roars...applause is deafening...) We love your wonderful self...and wish you a blessed year ahead!!! Hugs...Rx
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Lol Life no I do not think so There are a lot of Mothers on here that are sure to do the same for their Children Hugs to you
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
12 May 08
I know how much you love your kids but ya better not starve yourself or you wont be arounbd long to help them. Yup I am scoulding lol as the first person ya ever talked to on the internet I beleive I can lol hugs. am glad you had the tribute from you other friend it was great to read and love it . this too for alot here dont know what you have gone thru in life to be the way you are hugs hugs hugs
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
12 May 08
Thank you my dear Friend, you know a lot about me Love and Hugs
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
12 May 08
yup sure do and you me!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 May 08
Lakota - that's the magic of our Gabs. Her life is not, and has not been easy, and so few know the details. In spite of this her heart accepts and gives more love than any one person I have ever met in my life. It's astounding because I KNOW that her feelings run deep and true. A rare flower our Gabs and a definite honour to know and love.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
12 May 08
Dear Gabs, for all that you have been through and all that you will still go through, always remember that you are a wonderful person...Your children are very lucky to have a Mother like you...
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
12 May 08
Thank you Sweetie I was wondering where you had got and was getting a bit worried I am glad to see you here Hugs to you and all my lovely Friends are wonderful to including you I am so lucky to have you all
@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
12 May 08
I have been busy with my grandsons..We have adventures everyday..Spending alot of time at the park..playing games, riding bikes...busy, busy, busy...
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 May 08
As long as you are ok Sweet that is all I needed to know Hugs
• United States
14 May 08
Gabby you do not know what you have given to all of your friends that is why you get so much back. You are an inspirtaion to us mothers. I agree with you our children are gifts from God and we are there for them. My mom was not and will never be there for anyone but herself and blaimes her crappy life on everyone else. She never has taken reponsiblility for her own falts. My chidren are great. My son is willing to quit his job and move home if I say the word, to help his dad and I out. He will do what needs to be done. I think that shows a lot of love. Gabby hang on to your beautiful adult children and love them and continue to be there for them.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
16 May 08
And that is the Point Teapot if People love their Children and bring them up with a lot of Love, that Love will always be returned from your Children
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• United States
16 May 08
Gabby you are right that is the point. I do not expect my children to always be there if they cannot be. If they can then great. Keep them informed when somthing goes on with their dad's health. It has turned out that my children can be there to help out. I am lucky that way. I know one of these days they may not be able to help out and that is fine also. My expects her girls to be there because we owe her because she "Raised" us. I rest that.
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• India
13 May 08
Just love you Gabs…more so after reading your post.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 May 08
Awwwwww Sweetie thank you ...I love you to and I saw what you wrote in Mooch Discussion and it really touched me thank you so much We don't have to have the same Interrests and that what counts is the Person themselves and you are a wonderful Person and that is why we are Friends because you touched my Heart with your responses which told me that you are a good Person, caring and loving Hugs to you
• India
14 May 08
Gabs, you will always remain a very special friend of mine over here. Sudipta
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 May 08
My dear sweet Gabs. I think everyone who is a mother in the biological sense, has stories that could curl your hair. So you are not alone with the struggles you have gone through and that should be a comfort to you. I know it was to me when my own son got so sick. At first I actually blamed myself, my mothering you know? But the friends here on line like you and mummmy and bella and nova and cyn and so many many others, were with me the entire time - online, on the phone, in my heart and in my head. I could not have gotten through without them. I am not surprised that Mooch has paid you tribute. You are the best Gabs and that's because we know that the love we give to you is returned to us tenfold. What greater gift can there be than that? Hugs and much much love my deserving friend.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
12 May 08
Spark I know you have been through a lot and still going through a lot and I so wish I could be there with you by your Side to hold you and help you As I said above all my Friends are wonderful and caring and loving Friends anyone could ask for and I love each and everyone of you and could not imagine my Life without any of you Hugs to you
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 May 08
See my response to Lakota above Gabs. That about says it all! Hugs sweetheart.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
16 May 08
Awwwww gabs you are an amazing person and mother. I didnt see the discussion Mooch wrote but I will check it out. God new you would be a great mom and thats why he gave them to you. I wish there were more moms like you out there. I hope you had a good Mothers Day. Love you and big hugs!
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
17 May 08
Thank you Sweetie Love you xxxxxxx
@nbtalle (40)
• Singapore
14 May 08
After reading your story, I can't help remembering the story I heard in church last Sunday, Mother's Day. The title is "Love You Forever". It's a children's storybook, which tells about the unconditional love of a mother to her child. The preacher sung these words of the story: "I love you forever, I like you for always, as long as I'm living, my baby you'll be."
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
16 May 08
And those words are true believe them
@gemini_rose (16194)
13 May 08
It always amazes how we know a person, we talk to them and have a laugh, share things and class them as friends, but never really know what they have been through in their lives. Every person has a story, some are good and then there are some, like yours that really touches us and makes us wonder how on earth that person came through. You are a sweet, sweet lady Gabs, I have a lot of respect for you, a lot of time and I can also see why you have so many friends, you are a lovely person. Love n hugz, your friend.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 May 08
Awwwwwww Rose don't make me cry You know that you are a lovely Person to and that I took to you straight away and the People that are not Friends with you are missing out on a lovely and caring Friend that is what you are and always will be to me Love and Hugs to you xxxxx
@mummymo (23709)
13 May 08
LOL Sorry it is so long? You silly moo none of us mind reading it and we know that it means a lot to you! I know what you mean and I fear that I may be one of those friends who says that they are adults and at some point they have to deal with things and that you have to keep yourself healthy. I say that as you will be no help to them if you make yourself seriously ill by overdoing things and stressing out! Even when I say it I know you will not listen to me but I just have to say it anyway! lol Love you angel xxx
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 May 08
Lol Sweetie you just know me to well don't you A lot of People have tried to tell me and knew they where wasting their Breath lol Love you to Sweetie and you know that xxxxxxxxxx
@rhettaa (215)
• United States
12 May 08
What a wonderful thing it is to have grown children and be close to them. Kudos to you for being such a great mom to them. I have a son and a daughter who are grown, too, and we are very close. I am also very good friends with their father, although I divorced him years ago and have been remarried to a wonderful man for almost 9 years.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 May 08
Hi there I am afraid their Father did to much to me in the 21 Years we where married I am polite to him but Friends no I can't but it is ok as he moved to Tenerif 2 Years ago The most important thing is being close to your Children and having their trust good that you have that to as it is so precious
@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
12 May 08
Thank you gabs for the insight into your world as a mother, and what you had to go through to get there, I had no idea. I feel the same way about my children even though they are all grown up now, and two of them have children of their own now. They are always our children no matter how old they are. You gave your kids lots of love and care throughout their lives, and they show it back to you. You instilled that love into them from the day they were born. You are a wonderful mother, and your children are proof of that. Well done!
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
12 May 08
Thank you Abbey and I know that you are to and I am sure that most Mothers will do the same Hugs
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
12 May 08
oh gabs... reading your post really make me cry... i can't help it... you are such a wonderful mother and you sacrifice so much for your children... i think your children are so fortunate to have such a wonderful mum like you... i am not a mum yet... but i really can't wait to become one soon... i wish you happy mother's day gabs and have a nice day...
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
12 May 08
Sweetie I am sure any Mum would do that but you see when you get told you will more then likely not have Children and then you do it is a Miracle Hugs to you Sweetie
@kamran12 (5556)
• Pakistan
11 May 08
Gabs, where your life story is depressing from one end, for what you have been through in your life, it is very heart warming on the other end, seeing how wonderfully you dealt with your issues with courage, strength and perseverance. I applaud you. Bravo! As much as you are a wonderful mother, it appears that you have the fruit of your effort, hard work and courage too, in the form of your wonderful children. I wish you all the best of what this life has to offer!:-)
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 May 08
Sweetie thank you so much and lots of love to you