What would you do if???

United States
May 12, 2008 5:56pm CST
what would you do if you were in a relationship whether happy or a little unhappy and an old boyfriend/girlfriend came back into your life? would you leave the person that you are with to be with the one came back into your life? Or would you stay with the one that you are with?
7 responses
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
12 May 08
Well...see one of the discussions I started today and you'll know where I stand on this dilema... I think the whole situation should be looked at very carefully. Some people do change over time. Some situations can be repaired. It all depends on the level of emotion a person feels for the current and the old flame and what the situation has been with the old flame...one coming back out of the blue or one that has always been there.
• United States
12 May 08
I know where you stand. and that is fine. I just wanted to see what other people stood on that topic. Maybe others that wouldnt of seen your post.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
13 May 08
Oh, good, glad you knew what I was referring to, I didn't want to say it all again over here.
@devil77 (144)
• Canada
12 May 08
If I was happy with my new man I would go back but if I was unhappy I would for sure go back to my ex if I still had feelings for him.
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
13 May 08
What if you are the man?
@qtfrog99 (279)
• United States
12 May 08
I can honestly say that this did happen to me when I first started dating my fiance and it did take me back a little, I had a lot of thinking to do,and I am glad I made the choice I did because we are still together and have a beautiful child. The problem when the old flame came back all I could do was think about the good ole times and thank goodness for my sister cause she opened my eyes to the bad times and that is what stuck with me! More than likely if it didn't work out the first time it probably won't this time either. Although some people can change, but the question is are they willing to?
• United States
12 May 08
Thank you for responding. I so agree with you. I am glad to hear that your sister talked to you and she opened up your eyes. Congrats on the child you two have together and good luck to all three of you.
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
13 May 08
LOL. We are not buying stuff in supermarket. When a man gives you sweet, you accept him. When a man gives you bitter, you dump him. Wow, what-a-relationship. Let's say when current boyfriend hurts you, you went for your ex who comes back (gives you care/sweet). If your ex hurts you again, then you switch back to your boyfriend who cares and searches you again (gives you sweet). Now, try that in marriage life. ~~~ Forgiveness and Creating A Chance for your partner is the key for a success marriage. The more mistake he/she makes, the more open-hearted the apology you send, the better the relationship will become. What elements had gone in nowadays generations, but applied well in our parent's generation? Patience.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
13 May 08
it is sticky. but i think if i am with the current relationship and there is nothing very wrong, i will stick with the current one. the person as ex already lefy. now this current has done nothing wrong.
@marsha32 (6688)
• United States
13 May 08
I sometimes think about this...ok, I have thought about it often! always wondering if my last ex would ask for me back. But, I know in my heart that I am staying with Steve. He's been too nice and I've broken it off with him before which was probably a mistake. Marsha
• United States
13 May 08
I would have to stay with the guy I was with for most past relationship's were all bad ones and even if they came back and asked me for another chance my answer would have to be "no".I would explain that "I will always be friends with you that we have our differences and we're better off friends." If they can eccept that then cool if not then I don't know what to tell them they will just have to deal w/ my decision.