How would you react?
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
May 14, 2008 1:32am CST
Well, I just thought that I might throw out a few possibilities that could happen at anyone's wedding. Keep in mind that these are only possibilities, I only ask what you might do if these were to occur at your wedding.
What would you do if your friend showed up drunk to your wedding, regardless of whether they were a guest or bridesmaid/groomsmen I think that I would be very upset but would allow someone else to deal with it. I would also attempt to calm down anyone that was also upset about it such as my fiance or any of our friends.
How would you feel if a bridesmaid or groomsmen decided to not where their attire?I suppose this would be better noted as pertaining to those whom are not having a traditional wedding. I would feel very upset at them as well as I would have spent money for their attire. My Fiance and I estimate that the wedding attire will be one of the least expensive, but I would still feel very upset at them, and possibly ask them to leave. This would also mean I would either have to have someone step in or take another one of the corresponding wedding party not be in it.
How would you feel if a person was doing something to the food? This is also pertaining to a possible eating large amounts of an item that they did not RSVP or using the food to start a food fight, or possibly doing something that would cause anyone else to not wish to eat it. I would be very upset and ask the person to leave if they did not discontinue whatever it may be.
Destroying of property in any way How would you feel? I would be very upset if someone was to attempt to destroy any part of the property as my fiance and I hope to hold it at a neighbors house if they permit us to.
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@reejane (293)
• Philippines
15 May 08
Gosh! That's definitely all worst case scenarios. Surely, I will get upset but I will let my coordinators handle it. It's a wise thing to do to hire one.
Here in Manila, on-the-day coordination is a must. At least someone/some people will take control of the glitches on your wedding.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 May 08
Yes, these are. As I said above, something my fiance and I were talking about that our friends could do. This is not to say that they would, but it is things to think about.
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@mommy_uv3 (109)
• United States
14 May 08
i would have to agree, i think i would have a side to show that no one has ever seen before, if they can't hold off whatthey do on YOUR day, then are they really friends to begin with?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
14 May 08
I agree, they wouldn't be friends at all. My Fiance and I have just talked about this recently and I thought I would put it in discussion form.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
14 May 08
Yeah those are worse case scenarios and too answer the questions if any of our friends showed or guest's showed up drunk I would be very pissed because that would be very disrespectful and I would allow someone to handle it who could handle it without yelling or losing their temper,and I wouldnt care if whoever it was,was asked to leave the wedding.If any of our wedding party decided to not wear their wedding attired I would be pissed and disappointed because it will be our special day,and if any of them tried to ruin it,then I would never forgive them for it,and epsecially if it was sometime on my side I would tell them to either go home and get their attire or to just leave the wedding and not come back.If someone was doing something to the food,like eating more than they RSVPed for or if they started a food fight or did something to disgust people and make them not want to eat,then I would warn them or have someone else warn and if they didnt stop whatever it was they were doing I or someone else would make them leave.And if someone were to try and destroy property especially since we want to have it on the neighbors farm,I would be very pissed,and I wouldnt say anything if the farmer decided to call the cops and press charges because it would be their own stupidity.
@jenny621 (8)
• United States
18 May 08
well i unfortunantly am facing a worst-case-scenario with my wedding.
we are a very young couple getting married in less than a month. we dont have very much money to plan this wedding and our bridal party agreed that they were going to pay for thier own attire. since we are youg, most of our friends are young. the groomsmen range in age from 17-19, and they all choose to spend their money in stupid ways. today was the very last day for our groomsmen to go and be fitted for their outfits, which are very cute if you ask me. they are supposed to be wearing a 1940's inspired pin-stripe zuit suit. kind of like an old gangster. well i text messaged one of the groomsmen today to ask how it went, and he informed me that none of them went, none of the 6 of my groomsmen went, because they didn't have any money. theydecided to go out and party this weekend instead of paying a 20$ down payment for their tux's. so i officially have no groomsmen now, and i am honestly freaking out. i would tell my fiance to talk to them, except the fact that he is now in germany, preparing to go off to war in august, and doens't have much access to a phone.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 May 08
Well I am sorry about the groomsmen that really does suck for you. If I were you I would totally be upset at them, and would probably not talk to them at all. Although I would say that it would be your Fiance's place to talk to them because usually it's the grooms friends that are the groomsmen. If you are mutual friends with them then I would not hesitate to talk to them, but as it is I would agree that it is better for the groom to talk to them.
Is there any other group of men that you can replace the groomsmen for or would you be willing to not have your bridesmaids? I know that this is a very stressful situation for you, as it would be for me. My Fiance and I had some descreapances for our own wedding party but we have soon sorted it out. I hope that you are able to sort it out soon as I know that the wedding date for you is approaching.
Good luck with it all, and don't try to stress over the whole ordeal as this is your big day.
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