Gemini-rose is having a rant, first time ever!!

@gemini_rose (16193)
May 14, 2008 8:08am CST
Please excuse me, I do not normally do this but I need to just get this off my chest. I am so cross right now I could scream. I have put discussions up before now about my son being bullied and troubled at school, in fact the last lot of trouble that he had at school frightened him that much that he refused to go back to school. He is in his final year at school and he got into a fight, the brother of the boy he had a fight with, decided he was going to meter out justice on my son and so has been after him with a gang of his friends for the last few weeks. For this reason we decided that as my son was in his last year and not learning anything new at school, he could stay at home and do his revision in safety. Now with it being a few weeks old I thought, stupidly, that it would have all blown over. Now today my son has started his final exams, his GCSE's, really important exams that are essential to his future. So he goes for his first one today, and what happens, these stupid boys have decided it is the perfect time to get him, the most important time of their lives and they cannot just put it to one side and concentrate on their exams, oh no, they want to ruin my sons future with their childish behaviour. He phoned me in tears, telling me he was not going in because he was scared, luckily a teacher had realized what was going on and took charge of him, she got him into the exam by promising him that he would be escorted in and then escorted out again. She then phoned me and told me that he was safely in his first exam and I told her to keep hold of him until I could get to pick him up when I collect my other children. So I am going to fetch him and I want it sorting because he has another 12 exams to do yet, and he does not need this rubbish right now. I am not going to let a bunch of ruffians ruin my sons future, whether I have to walk him there and back until the exams are over. I will not let these bullies control his life like that,how dare they!! They best just hope that I do not see them when I go down later, or they will wish they had never even known my sons name!! I am fuming, they are all nearly 17 years of age and they are doing this, well this time the bullies will not win, NO WAY!!! Phew, that's better, sorry about that folks, I feel better for getting it off my chest, thanks if you take the time to read this, and sorry for it being so long!!!
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
15 May 08
Good for you, these bullies need to be taught a lesson.. My son was tormented so many times in school and never did one thing to deserve it, unless you can call having Tourettes Syndrome starting trouble.. There were quite a few of these punks that always made fun of Josh and when they did, his Tourettes got worse, he had the motor tics, not the vocal ones.. One day he was picked on so badly that he came home and had to be put on home bound schooling for the rest of the year.. I can understand your anger and I would love to go with you to beat the c**p out of these troublemakers.. There is not need for this to be happening in our schools and for a child to have to fight just to get an education is not right.. These boys need to be put in jail, since they know so much and are so bad, then maybe someone will teach them a lesson.. Tell him to hang in there as my Josh is now a happily married man, who recently quit his medication, is a decent christian and is the deacon of his church.. He also has sympathy for anyone being picked on and would never hurt a fly.. One of the boys who made it a habit of picking on him is in prison for about 8 more years and due to a fight that he got in while in prison, is having more time tacked on his sentence now.. I almost feel sorry for him, but really can't because he and others made my son's life miserable for a few years in school.. It was not this way with all of the kids, he did have a great bit of friends and we always had a houseful of company for pool, pizza, halloween, birthday and Christmas parties.. He had a good time with these school and neighborhood friends, it was just a bunch of troublemakers that made his life miserable in school.. He did graduate and go on to college and I am so proud of him.. So tell your son to hang in there and take care of his future, the authorities will take care of the futures of these other boys.. You get out of life what you put into it.. Goos luck to you..
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@gemini_rose (16193)
17 May 08
What a lovely story, and how well your son turned out, it is fantastic. I know it sounds a horrible thing to say, but I could quite easily box there ears for them, they think they are so hard and so untouchable and the parents do not help as most of the time they just clap their shoulder and say "that's my boy". The parents half the time just want to re live their lives through their kids, it makes them proud to think that their kids are tough and frighten every one else. When will they see that it will all come back on them when they are older, and those same kids will have children of their own who will turn out to be worse and may end up mugging and killing them.
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
14 May 08
gemini,I am very sorry about those bullis.I would be ranting and very angry if I were you too. After all your son is doing the right thing by trying to get his education. What right to these thugs have to try and stand in his way? It would seem the school could do something about this situation.These boys should be expelled for what they are doing.They are no doubt jealous of your son for some reason.If people would just mind their own business and leave others anole the world would be a much better place.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
Well this is it, why should they get to take their exams and get a future, and yet my son has to be scared of going in and taking his, and when he does they make him feel uncomfortable. It is wrong.
@Breath (1298)
• United States
14 May 08
I don't blame you for being mad!If someone was doing this to my kid I would be at the school also to make sure they got to school safe and took the test they need to take...Call the head of teh school and if this doesn't work try calling the parents...It is awful when a child can nto go to school to learn without being afriad...It is stupid and at 17 years old these other boys need a good butt kicking...
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@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
They do need a butt kicking, I was so mad if I ever see them they will no what intimidation feels like I can tell you.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
14 May 08
I am sorry your son is going through this Rose. It makes me upset how kids can be soooo cruel and mean. I hope you get to sit down with the boys parents to sort this out because it's just not on. Makes me want to go over there and thump them you know? grrrr. I hope you son is ok and able to get through his exams HUGS!
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@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
It not only upsets me, it annoys me, who do they think they are? I too could thump them, thanks for your support.
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@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
14 May 08
Do not apologise for Ranting I have to be honest I would have thought to that it would have blown over by now Why does sort of thing carry on, I just do not understand it, how comes that Bullying has got so much out of hand I really do not get it I wish they would bring in stricter Rules and Laws for that matter and I mean strict, it is getting worse and it even ends up in killing now I am sorry Sweet that he has to go through this, I hope he will still do well on his GCSE's
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
14 May 08
It is sad that kids will do this to another. I had an incident like this with my son and hes only 8. Thankfully for my son it was handeled and hasnt happened since. Why do these bullies get away with this crap it makes me so mad. I mean you shouldnt have to escort your child these bullies should be the ones being watched.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
No, I should not have to escort him, my son will turn 17 in October, he will feel embarrassed if I have to go with him, but I am not letting these boys do this anymore.
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@welshdai (77)
14 May 08
i have to said that horrible situation for yourself and son to be. with have the gcses,as well,it not fair on him,because it can make him worry and panic,but less the teacher took charge of it. the same happens to me,i was bullied thought school and it never stop before the exam during and after,i remember one of guy who bullied me,said a comment after my exams and i end up going for him. i mean it good to get of your chest as well hope your sons doe well in gcses as well
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@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
It is horrible, he has enough on his mind with the exams without having to put with with bullies too.
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@dangnabit67 (2021)
• United States
14 May 08
I still remember being bullied in school. Its something you cant forget. If the school refuses to do anything-its very hard. Those kids should be expelled with a a** kicking-lol Try and keep your son focused on his exams. Help him as much as you can. He will appreciate it. I hope he passes with flying colors and moves on to do something he will enjoy. When he does he can look back and say "ha" to the bullies that probably wont amount to a hill of beans. Good luck to you both.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
14 May 08
wow! Instead of focusing on their exam! what an attitude! I hope the school will be calling these kids to give them warning and some lessons to ponder at the same time inform their parents of their bad attitude. Good thing, the teacher noticed it and very sensitive to what was going on! I can't understand why there are kids like these, for sure lack of attention at home, lack of love and discipline! or much time to hang out with bad peers!
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
15 May 08
i am so sorry to hear about what is happening to your son... i can't imagine a 17 years old boys atill act so childsih and be a bully... i pity your son as he has to undergo such an important exam and his classmates are bullying him... it is not going to be easy for him... i agree with you... don't let the bully dictate your son's future and i will do everything i can as well to protect my son and make sure that he has a bright future... it is hard work for you to have to send and pick up your son everyday in school... but i think it will be worth it... i hope those bullies will be punished by the school severely... i am wondering why the school didn't do anything to them after so long... take care and have a nice day...
• Bahamas
15 May 08
Rant on rose,i'm here fumming with you. If it's one thing i can't stand it's bullying. These cowards need to be taught a lesson,they always seem to travel in packs like wolves maybe it's because they can't stand on their own.I would look into talking to the parents of the boys, and if that doesn't work then look into taking out a restraining order against them. Why should your son have to suffer because some punks have nothing better to do.
@gwoman2 (711)
• United States
15 May 08
Hi Gemini_Rose, Here in South New Jersey, specifically Cumberland County, we have an influx of gang activity--and some of the children in grades 3-12 are just "looking forward" to becoming gang members! Speaking from experience, you really should sign complaints at your local police station--Enough is enough and your child should not be subjected to the actions of these "lost souls"--lost to themselves, lost to their community, and lost to any kind of positive family envolvement--someone posted that you should "contact the parents"--not a good idea--they, the parents, might want to kick your butt too!! Be careful--just think, these bullies might just be the product of their own families--and these families may be the type to say, "oh no, not my kid!" For your childs sake, sign complaints, if nothing else happens at least the actions of these undesirables will be documented. To learn a bit about bullies please go to: www.guardianangels.org--It is so bad here that the guardian angels have come to save the day...they patrol all apartment complexes where the gangs are concentrated and they also recruited more caring individuals to be a part of the solution. I can identify with you as my oldest daughter, who is now 32, was a victim of bullies all throughout her young life in Middle and High school--I always taught my children, "walk away from trouble if you can" this did not work, she was branded a punching bag and a chicken...until one day she lost it completely...all of her little 4'11", 85 pounds went into fighting the ringleader of the bullies, It took 5 grown persons to get her off this girl...problem solved, they never bothered her again! But to this day she never forgets and because we live in the same town, she comes across many of her tormentors, who now want to smile in her face and say "hey how are you" the hypocrites!! By the way, none of them amounted to anything good and did nothing with their lives, they are living off welfare benefits, having babies, babies, and more babies all of different and absent fathers and their children are the ones that I, as an instructor in an after school program, am teaching and trying to show them that there is a better way of life and that they can achieve anything if they do the right thing--focus on school and learning, go on to higher education and become productive, and law abiding members of our society. Remember Gemini, we've got to do what we must to help our children grow to be good human beings. Go sign complaints on all the culprits, maybe a scare from authourity will have some positive impact. Tell your son he is everpresent in my mind and I totally wish him the very best life has to offer...stay cool, do your thing and don't let these a-holes discourage him...Stay well. ~G~
@gemini_rose (16193)
16 May 08
Thank you very much for your concern, I will be making a complaint against the boys and also the school as I feel they have just let my son stay at home out of the way just so they get no trouble. They have not been concerned with giving him revision work or anything, in my opinion if he fails his exams then it will be partly the schools fault. I had to laugh at your daughter, she did exactly the same as I did when I was at school. I too was picked on to the point that I just exploded and took no more and I sorted them all out. My tormentors were boys though, the girls had all learned long before that I was not an easy target!!
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
15 May 08
So you state this is his final year at school. Does that mean he is almost 18 then? I can not believe there are still these types of antics and or actrions going on in the schools today. My son years ago was smacked by a teacher even and boy did that guy get in trouble. My son wasn't the only student to be hit either. My son was 12 at that time. WEell you go ahead and rant. That's one good thing about this site, we don't mind usually to a rant now and then from our friends and or other members. Hope things work out for the better and soon also. Have a great day/evening. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@gemini_rose (16193)
17 May 08
My son will be 17 this October, they leave school in UK at 16, he will then go on to college, well if he gets the grades he needs to get in. Thank you for letting me rant, I have not been that mad in a long time.
• United States
15 May 08
Bullying is going on in all the schools all over the world and it is a shame that they have not found ways to stop it. You know it's not just bullying by beating up there is also the mental bullying too. Half of the shootings that have been going on in schools and usually innocent students are the ones that die from it is because someone was bullied and could not take it anymore so they started planning their revenge. Some of these shootings were from students that were bullied way back when and they still held a grudge. I'm sorry this is happening to your son, When he should be in school enjoying himself with his friends he has to stay home and do his studies that is a shame. Bullying will never stop because it seems that nothing is being done about it. I think that maybe we as parents should get together and bully some of those bullies and let them see how it feels.
@gemini_rose (16193)
17 May 08
Some of the kids today, I could quite cheerfully smack and never get tired of it, they are horrible. It is the gang thing that is scary, kids cannot just have a one to one battle anymore, it always has to be 8 or more onto one. The best thing is, you get these kids on their own and they are the most nicest people you wish to meet, but in a gang they are evil.
@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
15 May 08
So tell me Gemini, how do you really feel about all this? I think that you have every right to be as upset as you are. I would be the same. You would think that children of such an age that they are getting ready to go out into the world and become adults that they would be more mature than that. Sad to hear about this, and I sincerely hope that things work out for your son.
@gemini_rose (16193)
17 May 08
Hmmm How do I feel? I feel like this
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@pyewacket (44037)
• United States
14 May 08
Oh for goodness sakes gemini_rose this is so unfair and terrible for your son..I really feel for both you and him, and you would think these bullies would "grow up"--I mean these are 17 year olds? And they are acting like idiot children and very childish. I was originally thinking that maybe you could talk to their parents, but that might only make things worse and besides if these kids act like this in the first place, they probably aren't getting the proper supervision in the first place by their parents
@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
I know it is so horrible, the parents are aware, they have in fact told the boys that they are to stay away from my son and not do anything.
@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
14 May 08
gemini rose thats just horrible, why aren't they stopping those seventeen year old bullies from doing that kind of imbelicilic stuff? your poor son. this is just terrible and I feel the school 'should really be stopping these bullies before they do something so bad they will end 'in prison. I do not blame you for wanting to'protect him, and its just terrible that these bullies picked this particular time to harrass your son instead of studying and caring about their own studies. I would think that the parents of these bullies should be notified of these goings on.
@gemini_rose (16193)
14 May 08
The parents of these boys are aware of what is going on, in fact one of the mothers has indeed made it very clear to her son that he will be in big trouble if he gives my son any bother. It is just the intimidation thing that they are doing that makes it worse, the fact that they are saying that they are going to get him, and the fact that there are about 8 of them that hang around together.
@winterose (39921)
• Canada
18 May 08
I think you should make the school punish that gang of ruffians or tell them you are going to call the police.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
16 May 08
I would be furious too, that is not fair on your son to be bullied at such a crucial time in his life. These "bullies" that are picking on him deserve to be punished they should be suspended. How dare they make someone feel so scared that they are frightened to go to school. I really hope they get consequences for their actions. I hope your son is okay and gets strength to pull through this difficult time and get through his exams.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
15 May 08
Its good that this is his last year, no more going back next year. I would find out what kind of legal action you can take against these children and their parents Harrassment after all, is against the law. Other parents have been instrumental in establishing policies in their school, strict rules about this - so that its the bullies that have to stay home or seek alternative schooling - because they're suspended! I know its his last year, but it could help other parents. Maybe you can network and find other parents in the school system going through the same thing and form a class action suit against the school system.