Love fades away!

@INGA832 (1114)
Russian Federation
May 14, 2008 12:29pm CST
What to do when love fades away and your boyfriend becomes just annoying thing? How explain it to him. I can't say a word about it when I see so much love to me in his eyes. But I can't stand him any longer.
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8 responses
• India
14 May 08
i knw hw u must be feeling cz few dys back evn i ws in the same situation. i wud suggest try understnding his situation and be there with him for old times sake. dn jus give up on somthng so easily. u nvr knw u might start falling for ths guy again. thnk twice b4 taking any steps cz u muight regret ending it wit him l8r. luv is hard to find these dys...
@INGA832 (1114)
• Russian Federation
14 May 08
Yes, some people say that one must love and another let him or her to love. But is it worth lasting?
• Germany
14 May 08
I've been in the situation your boyfriend is right now. It's sad that you stopped loving him but you need to talk to him as soon as possible. Tell him everything in a calm way and don't try to hurt him. It's a hard way but you need to do it and you will manage it.
@INGA832 (1114)
• Russian Federation
14 May 08
I'll try to talk to him. The only thing is I hate to hurt other people's feelings, and his feelings will be hurt in any way. Don't you think it? What was in your case?
• Canada
20 Sep 08
The only thing I could suggest would be to tell him that you are really sorry but you don't feel the same way anymore and that you can still remain friends but you think you need some time apart to see if the feelings return . Encourage him to go out with friends . It is not your fault if you don't feel the same way you used to feel and although he will be hurt over this there is not much you can do about how another feels .
@camomom (7536)
• United States
20 Sep 08
i've been there and just be thankful that this happened before marriage. i was with my ex-husband for a total of 10 years and i started to feel the same way. i just fell out of love. yes, we had some problems but nothing to divorce over. i just stopped loving him. i noticed that i couldn't stand being around him any longer. he just annoyed me, everything about him. i could still see that he was madly in love with me but i had to let him go. when you get to this point you HAVE TO do something about it. you can't stay with someone because they love you. you will only hurt them in the long run. it isn't fair to them to let them think you feel the same way. just think it the roles were reversed. wouldn't you rather have them break it off with you then to not love you and stay anyway? loveless relationships ALWAYS hurt the people involved and ALWAYS end in disaster. save yourself and him from the pain and break it off. just explain that you aren't trying to hurt him. and be honest with him as nicely as possible. good luck.
@Cannonball (3635)
• France
9 Sep 08
I don't know exactly what's the problem that you have with him but I can say communication always help in this kind of situation. Few years ago,when I was dumped or when a relationship become annoying or something I would easily get hurt or something but now if such thing happen I would be fine because I know love is everywhere and often it's just an illusion
@ashar123 (2359)
• India
26 Aug 08
Love is a natural feeling as I already said in your other discussion. According to me if you can't stand him any longer then its not love. It may be infactulation which everyone feels sometimes, its also known as temporary attraction towards someone depending upon you get impressed over something and over the time period, you feel no special feeling towards that person. The best way to find out, close your eyes and think about that person, what comes before your eyes ? If you see him then something is special in your heart for him, otherwise, nothing.
• Indonesia
22 May 08
consider about love, to be honest is the right thing to do, even though it's hurt.
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
15 May 08
You say, you can't stand him, don't you really think, its the total converse fact. I mean to convey that, don't you think, its being harder on him, rather than you? I believe, that if your love has fade for him, this suggests that its YOU, who is retreating, ask yourself, would it have been easy for you, if the one whom you love, simply don't want or need you anymore? Hurting is just too small word to describe the agony to be inflicted upon him. Nonetheless, in one sense, you are also not at blame, I would advise you, not to push things on him too quickly, break the news to him in such a way, that he is able to absorb it, yet, don't leave him in such a bad state, that life becomes as hell to him..