HELP ! What to do ?

India
May 14, 2008 10:08pm CST
Who would you choose,what would you do? If you are in Love with a person,who dosn't care, the same way you care for him. Who takes you for granted, only belives in taking but not giving. You can't decide what to do,as you are madly and deeply in love. On the other hand...you have a best friend,who truly cares for you,is always there when you need him. One who needs friendship, more than attention! And that same friend has proposed marriage to you...but the problem lies in the fact that you take him as a friend and have never thought of taking him as a husband !! The question still is the same....Who to choose to get married to ??
3 responses
@Remmie7 (168)
• United States
16 May 08
Neither. I say this because the one that you are deeply in love with and he's not deeply in love with you, taking you for granted and not giving anything but always taking. How can you even think to marry a person like this? One day you are going to get tired of him treating you like this, but until then you need to really sit down and think what is it that you're looking for in a man. Now for the man that truly loves you but you don't love him back. It would be a big mistake if you married him. He loves you and you don't love him that way only a friends way and that's not good enough. You don't want to mistreat him like this other guy is mistreating you, because that is exactly what will happen if you marry this guy who really loves you. You have to be in love I think in order to give marriage a thought. If you're not in love with this guy don't marry him and think that you will grow to love him. That is not good nor would it be to the guy that really loves you. Somewhere down the line he's going to feel very hurt, that you don't love him just like you feel now with this guy that don't love you. Would you want your friend to feel this feeling that you feel now? I f thats the case you really aren't his friend.
• India
19 May 08
Hi, Thank you for your suggestion.In a way i feel it is right....but tell me one thing cant the love of the other person change you. Cant you start loving for who he is, and slowly start to accept him?
@Remmie7 (168)
• United States
19 May 08
Hi Sangs Turks, All I can say is that if you choose to be with this guy that doesn't love you, like you love him, It's you're trying to push yourself off on him, you don't want that. Love is suppose to be shared by two, not you loving him and maybe one day he'll start to love you, no. Love yourself enough to say ok this isn't working out, anything worth-while is waiting for, but not when they tell you they don't love you. Your guy is out there. Be patient, he will come to you. You try to handle this situation as best as you can. And sometimes it is possible for someone to grow to love you if they already don't. Maybe you should take it SLOW, talk to him as much as you can. Remember Sangs you are important too and there is someone that will and can show you how much you can be loved. I know you said that the other guy loves you and lets you know this. But you're not in love with him. Keep the faith Sangs it will happen for you and I hope one day soon.
• India
21 May 08
Hi Remmie, thank you sooooo much for your advice. i had written this artcle for a very close friend of mine,she gets into this mess and dosn't know how to come of it. And if i tell her something, she simply tells me that im not her good friend. I'll get her to read this. I am happly married to the love of 11 years, we were school sweethearts.
16 May 08
i think you will not believe that it is same mine condition, that i love someone from the bottom of my heart, but she love someone else. but he was flirting with her. then, the day came when she understand me and my love for her.now we both are happy living in our love life we care for each other, and now she also love me more than me. secondly, love is not a race, first come then you get top position. according to me, it is a feelings, which arise suddenly for someone special which deserve you and your love.... i hope you understand. i am not saying you that leave your boy friend and turn towards him. but you have to see your future with him.....
• India
16 May 08
Hi, wish you two a happy life together. Very true love is not a race...i got the point that you are trying to make,thanx a lot.
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
15 May 08
To love, is hurt the most. To be loved, hurt the most. It's up to your decision. I prefer the love that appears altogether on both sides.
• India
21 May 08
if it is true love, and the love is from both sides it will never hurt.