What is the key factors to a happy marriage in your mind?

@sissi320 (328)
China
May 15, 2008 7:04am CST
Nowadays, the divorce rate becomes higher and higher, and I am afraid to marry now. Actually, people told me there are many factors to a happy marriage, such as love, appreciate, trust, responsibility, economical support, hobbies in common, understanding, manner, etc. What's more? Pls share your opinion and give some advice.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
` never go to bed angry ` when you can't agree on some thing agree to disagree ` comprimise ` don't "tell" ask ` communication is ALWAYS the key ` trust ` respect ` love your self ` love your spouse ` let all your ups and downs be under the sheets! My husband and I are in our third year. We have always gotten along very well. When things are hard we talk through them. We love each other unconditionaly. We trust eachother to do the right thing by our marriage and each other. We respect eachothers opinion and decisions, although we don't make big decisions with out consulting with the other. Just be your self. When you find the right one you will know. I know I did. Honest to God I looked at my husband for the first time and knew he was the one. We have been together ever since.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
15 May 08
ROFL, let all your ups and downs be under the sheets! That is too cute. But very wise. I have been married a total of about 31 years. If I could and would have implemented all those things you said my life would have much easier. But live and learn, I took the long road. I hope you always find peace, that was just to cute.
@sissi320 (328)
• China
17 May 08
Thank you, both. Now, I am not afraid of marriage as I know if I can do the ways that you tought, my marriage will be as happy as yours. Thanks again.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
15 May 08
My first marriage was a disaster, and we were married 19 years. Being remarried again now for 13 years I would say for me it is respect, love is a given. Most people marry because they love the person. But love is something that has to be nurtured and taken care of. I think what makes my marriage good is that we respect one another. I would never deliberately do something or say something to him to hurt him. Not so in my first marriage, I said awful things and he did awful things. I really respect my husband, and I feel like he respects me.
@sissi320 (328)
• China
17 May 08
Thanks for your sharing. And I do agree that respect is very importance for a marriage. Wish you happy forever.
• United States
18 May 08
I think honesty is one of the biggest factors. Another is keeping lines of communication open. Talk, talk and more talk. Never allow yourself to get bored. Most of all, be willing to work at it.