Is it really possible for ex-lovers to become friends?

Philippines
May 15, 2008 9:09pm CST
Is it really possible for ex-lovers to become friends? I have been getting different opinions eversince. I'd really like to hear your stand on this issue :)
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
16 May 08
It is possible to be friends to your ex. All it takes is both parties must want and agree to be friends and burry all the negative issues that happen on thier relationship. So that both of you could start to look at one another straight from the eye and not remembering that one day the person infront of you has cause you hurt. But if none of you or one of you does not forget and move on with life the friendship you are trying to built may not be that strong.
• Philippines
16 May 08
i agree :)
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@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
16 May 08
I think that it is possible for ex-lovers to become friends if there is no romantic feeling or bitterness in the way. They should be able to forget the past and start a new friendship. Seeing each other should feel enjoyable and not at all awkward. If one person wants friendship and the other person wants romance then the friendship is unlikely to work. Jealousy can be an issue if the people have moved on to new relationships. When my ex-boyfriend and I split up we kept things polite between us. We stayed in contact by email and wished each other good things to happen in the future. Four months later we met up for a day and we had an interesting conversation. Then we didn't see each other again for eleven months but we continued the emails. Last year we met up a number of different times. We are sending less emails to each other now so perhaps our friendship is fading out. Times change and people move on.
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• Philippines
16 May 08
thanks for the share! :)
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@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
16 May 08
I think it is possible, perhaps it depends on a person's capability to accept things as they are. Once there is acceptance, it would be easier for them to finally let go of the bitterness and start fresh as friends. I guess you'll always care about that person, regardless of the difficult things that happened between the two of you that could have lead to parting. For me it is a matter of letting go---not of the person, but of the relationship, or the feelings. If a person liberates himself/herself of resentment, friendship could then take place.
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• Philippines
16 May 08
thanks! :)
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@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
16 May 08
It depends on both of you. If you feel like being friends after your relationship then you are to decide. It's better to end up friends than enemies but if one of the parties will not cooperate then that is not possible to happen. Maybe it's better if you will make the first move to befriend your ex. I'm certain that given the good intention, your ex will not reject the friendship. God bless!
• Philippines
16 May 08
very well said :) thanks for sharing :)
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@rsa101 (15496)
• Quezon City, Philippines
16 May 08
Well for me it depends how you two parted ways will depend on that. But I do agree that there's possibility that you can be friends again after separating as lovers. It just is a little awkward for me to relate with her as there is a past that may still haunt us every time we would meet again. The intimacy would be far different now that we're friends only.
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• Philippines
16 May 08
time heal all wounds :)
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
16 May 08
of course! it all depends on both parties on how they work things out. c',) in my case, my ex and i are still pretty close. we get out sometimes, spending time together (nothing intimate, though..) c",) its almost a decade now since we broke up but we're still good friends. and yeah.. we both have our own families..
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• Philippines
16 May 08
wow :) that's nice :) thanks for sharing :)
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@ryshawneo (405)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
For me no.. :)
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• China
29 May 08
Of course! Some persons after saying goodbye become friends, enemy, and even lover once again. I think this must depend on the reason for breaking up. If the reason is betrayal, the result may be enemy... All result are based on reasons.
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@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
yes it is possible but it depends on how the couple separated and if they are comfortable of becoming friends even after the relationship. i guess the answer to this question varies from every person. personally, i dont like to become friends with them because i dont think that it would work.
• Canada
7 Jun 08
My husband tried it with his ex-wives, and it didn't always work out the way they would have liked it. On the other hand, I have two male friends who are both divorced, who have managed to remain the best of friends with their ex-wives. It's just that they realized they can't live together. One friend even re-married, and the "two wives" get along just brilliantly!