Do Family background really matters in choosing a mate?

@Bebs08 (10690)
United States
May 16, 2008 3:43pm CST
Well most people said.. YES!!! because if you happen to be with person whose family background is bad, it will affect to your next generations. Some people also said, it doesn't matter.. love changes all, Let's give them a chance... Really?? what about you? would you accept this idea?
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5 responses
• United States
16 May 08
My husband's family is insane, seriously. We have absolutely no association with them anymore. But I didn't marry his family, I married him. It comes down to if you love a person truly. If they have a bad family, then stay away from the family.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
16 May 08
really?? yeah, you're right.. you can stay away from the insane family of your but do you think your kids will not inherit the insanity of your hubby's family? Thanks for replying...
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• United States
16 May 08
Okay, your response is kind of ridiculous. My kids will inherit my husband's families traits? Not likely. A. Their main problem is that they are ridiculously religious. B. They are extremely judgemental of everyone. C. They have no contact (and never have) with my children So, please tell me, how is any of this inheritable? Nothing is inheritable unless it is a genetic disorder. You sound fairly ignorant, sorry.
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• United States
16 May 08
It only matters if one or both of you let it matter.
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• Canada
17 May 08
What exactly do you mean by "family background?" If you are referring to medical history, and you want to have children, then yes it does matter. If you do not want to have children, then there are no worries about passing things on to the next generation. I you are talking to personalities of the family, that may or may not affect the person, in how they were brought up. If a potential mate agrees with a disagreeable amily that could be a problem, but if they are individual enough to overcome these problems, then there is no problem.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
18 May 08
What I mean with that family background is in general.. that means everything... Thanks fore replying.. You have good points here.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
6 Jun 08
I'd say it depends on several factors. If the family is known to be bad news but your not going to be living near them...then I wouldn't worry about it. If their bad news and you will be living near them, worry about it. If their good ppl and live far away, you'll probably miss them and if their good ppl and live close, you'll enjoy them. My family is a mix of good and bad but the ones that live by us are mostly good and I like that we live close by as does Hubby. The bad parts of the family live further away and that is probably for the best. Hubby's family isn't bad really but he doesn't get along with most of them and they all live far away so it's not anything for us to worry about. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Oh yes, it gives relief when families who can not get along pretty well, are living far away. Thanks for sharing this.
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
30 May 08
Yes family background should be seriously considered while choosing one's life partner. This is one of the most important things which should be seen before making a final call. One should check up not only the financial background but the nature of the family members, their reputation in the community as these will have a large impact on the actual married life. Love does matter but love from you spouse alone cannot make one lead a happy life. The family members should be equally cooperating and of good nature.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
2 Jun 08
you're right!! you have a point in here. thanks for sharing.