Need advice Please help!!!!
By Clara Cook
Rothesay, New Brunswick
May 16, 2008 8:55pm CST
K I met this guy a while ago on online, things went pretty well. Hes a little younger then me but not by much, and all important things to both of us is a match, we have some differences, some sports, certain movies but nothing mayjor. Even still now he claims he feels the same as I do still, yet lately conversations, are one sided, his answers are very plain when theres a answer at all. Most times, if its something to do with us, and where thing stands he either doesn't answer, say hes going to bed. Or starts a conversation with someone else. Another time I asked him something, he said he didn't have to answer that question, yet said there was nothing wrong, and he still felt the same. Yet everytime I open up to him about something, he clams all up like this. Then he does strange things. Like for example we play a online rpg, together and well he found me, and sat beside me...hardly said boo, said he was talking, else where which he was. He sitting by my character, which I might add he married, on the game. he doesn't notice anything different, the fact was I changed my hair and color. Okay you thinking its only just a game right? Thing is he is with this character on the game quite a bit, as we usually always play together yet, he didn't notice at all the hair not only changed but went a bright color as well. So then he tells me he needed to log and he'd be back. Meanwhile I am waiting and a friend of ours comes up to me, says hi and then mentions my changed hair and that it looks good...this also being a guy. So I thank him and tell him I am glad someone noticed, and him and I have a convo, for like 10 minutes. All of a sudden I get a pm from my guy under another log in saying yeah im going bye. and he was gone, not only did he not w8 for anything from me, but he didn't say his usually goodnights. I was like ok thats the second night he did that what is going on....is my guy just being a typical insensative man even online, or is it pretty much a flag for me to give up and move on on both game and in life?
17 May 08
Never get married to no-blood expression. -Sorry- I mean online dating that still progress through keyboard strokes. It's unreliable, no clear ground that we may stand for. If you want to proceed, online dating is only for the introduction, but not for progressing the date. Because if we still progress through online most of the time and not facing eyes-to-eyes, personally I think that's a bad relationship. We even can't see his expression. Go get someone nearby, in your real life. It's my suggestion.
17 May 08
Then it's up to you. But don't push hard on yourself by framing on other success or failure. Because you had your own path, following them doesn't give us the same result. If you feel it's heavy for you, and more you had encountered, then it's better to consider about seeking from online. "Honesty is rare in Internet, so is life."
• Delhi, India
17 May 08
It is upto you to guage his intensity and sensitiveness. If you find that most of the time, he shows caring and sharing attitude, it means he is a nice fellow. Occasional showing of insensitive behaviour cannot be termed bad. It does not mean that overall he is not a kind guy. You need to anlayse his whole personatlity viz-a-viz relations with you, at present, before deciding anything final about him.
• Rothesay, New Brunswick
17 May 08
Yes, he usually is caring, and carefree guy who always makes me laugh etc. He usually is saying sweet things, I don't usually fall for guys online, and it was a shock to me when I did with him hes usually like no other guy I have ever met. I know he works his butt off monday through fridays long hours and comes on line and game, sometimes just to talk he never misses a night and i know although early here, it is much much later for him. When he gets in moods like this its usually starts by wednesday night, sometimes thursday, and then he bounces back usually by saturday. So I guess it could be hes just tired, I don't think he gets enough sleep, there has been nights he has stayed up till 6 am his time just talking or playing game...or both. So maybe your right I should just w8 things out more and see how things go the next few weeks...if the pattern continues then I know thats what it is...and has nothing to do with me at all.