Preferences

@sharone74 (4839)
United States
May 17, 2008 6:29am CST
Do you prefer to get into a relationship with someone that you have known for "forever" or with someone whom you just met? Do you prefer someone with similar ideals, and a lot of commmonalities between the two of you? Or do you prefer someone who is your dyametrical opposite in most things, but whom you can agree to disagree with when you want to without it starting a fight? I prefer dissimilar partners, I get bored with men who agree with me all the time or coddle me like I am made of fine China. I also prefer much older white men to younger men of any race.
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
17 May 08
Hi dear i am married and dont want to get involved in any relation. i do understand what u mean by dismilar partner. but i want to clarify one thing, why u said u like white older man and younger man of every race. what about white young man
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@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
21 May 08
I like them too, they are pretty to look at but are often volatile and fractious. I am 33, older men with a little more substance than flash are what turn my head, It.s just my preference.
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
22 May 08
what about 34 m Pakistan
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• Philippines
17 May 08
I prefer to get into a relationship with someone that I have known for a long time than with someone I just met. I'm just not able to trust easily someone I just met. I also prefer someone that has common interest with mine so that we had a lot to talk to and we can relate with one another. But I don't like someone who agrees on me with everything, I want a man who can stand on his on opinions and can intellectually challenge me. :D
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@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
21 May 08
I like that type of relationship too. Where you can both comfortably be yourselves.
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• Philippines
17 May 08
it doesn't really matter who he is or what he does, you'll know when you get that feeling, if the guy of your dreams is standing right in front of you but there's no chemistry or some kind of strike in your chest then it's not it... and even if you knew this person ever since you can remember there is that person who you've just known that can compare to all those years you had with someone cos there really is that special feeling that no one else can give.
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• United States
17 May 08
I am married to a man that i have know forever and who is my exact opposite. But thinking back to when I was dating or if I would ever find myself to be in that situation again I dont think I would have set preferences I think it would have to go on an attraction and a connection I had with a person at that time and I think you can have those connections with different kinds people at different times
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
17 May 08
hi sharone! well, in my case, i would like someone that i know very well. and yeah, i would like a guy who would treat me with tender loving care, yet allow me to pursue my dreams and interests. i would want a husband who is supportive of my endeavors. i am glad, i found the man of my dreams. :-) and i am married to him now. hope you find yours, too. :-)
@leeesa (885)
• United States
18 May 08
I prefer to get to know someone very well before I jump into a relationship. Otherwise, it tends to be driven by the physical attraction. If you go there too soon and then later you realize the person isn't right for you, you basically gave yourself away for nothing. Unless of course that is all you intended. I prefer a person who has common values, but not necessarily common interests. It's good to get out of your comfort zone and try new things, and I think it helps create a bond. Too common is boring - you feel like you're dating yourself - and too different can cause too much tension. I need somewhere in the middle. I've never dated an older man, always the same age, or even younger. I definitely won't date a younger man ever again, but I won't date anyone more than 5 years older than me.
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@leeesa (885)
• United States
25 May 08
I was married to a younger man, who was having an affair with a much younger woman. He said age didn't matter, but I guess it did. Wants and needs change so much over time and if there's a huge age difference, you sometimes end up going in different directions.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
17 May 08
its really good to just meet someone and want a frenship but on the other hand one have to think is this really going to work things are happeing too fast however it does work out at times as for me i perfer knowing the person for a while you seem to know the person inside out wat to expect from wat nt to. not knowing the other can be fun because you learn to adapt from each other do things you cant even imagine you have to have patience thats the main key if you wish to start wit someone you dnt know have fun in wat you do an you will surely suceed
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• Canada
17 May 08
I was extremely fortunate when I met my husband. We became friends first, and then we fell in love. I would not want to fall in love with someone with whom I didn't have a stable foundation of friendship.
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
24 May 08
The best of both worlds would be the best. I have a very strong personality and not all men can handle a woman like me. I like a strong man who enjoys the things I do, but has something different to offer so I can learn new things. I like debating back and forth, but not the kind that turn into fights, as you mentioned. I like intelluctual men who can challenge me with new thoughts. There are definate advantages to knowing someone for a long time, but there's no secret formula for success. The only thing I know for sure, is I want a nice-looking guy! It feels like a shallow desire to me, but I have dated men who are not so hot because I think 'oh well, if I don't date them, who will?' I'm done with comprimising. I don't need a movie star type handsome man, looks aren't that important. I like good bone structure. Okay, I'm getting carried away here and I'm feeling kind of silly. Okay, bye
• United States
24 May 08
I have always loved red headed men but the color of the guy isn't that important.I prefer to start a relationship with someone new. If I have met the guy and we are already friends and there weren't ant romantic sparks when we met, then he will is and will be just a friend. But I do like a guy with similar ideals. I hate arguing and I know I am stubborn enough to stick to my point of view and he will never change my mind.So I would want a guy who could agree with me to disagree on some topics but not too many. If we have two pages of things we don't agree with, then we should part.
@lady11eve (311)
• Philippines
22 May 08
if i had read this discussion 4 years ago... maybe i would answer...i prefer sum1 i love...and that would be all... but now i realize...it shud not be just becos you love that person. shud be...you had same interest,compatible but have different views... so it would not be boring that both of you just agree with each other all the time...i want a man that would have the courage to discuss his againts thoughts with mine.shud be older than me...mature enough to take responsibilities.and ofcors sum1 that care enough bout my feelings,care enough to handle my love...and most important we trully love each other with brains...
@maquisa (316)
• Philippines
18 May 08
i prefer a person dissimilar, i just feel that we can share our own ideas and something that we can discuss, and with the differences that we have makes us adjust with each other,sometimes its not ok that you both are similar it feels like that everything is perfect...and if one of you is gone itz hard to move on because you can see with him/her your self...
@nocovi (517)
• China
18 May 08
In fact,I think i think I prefer to get a relationship with a girl whom I 've known 'forever'than I with some girl whom I 've just met.I think we should get into a deeper relationship with some others only if we know him or her enough,and then we can develop our feelings on the basis of believing each other.
• Australia
18 May 08
I've had four serious relationships in my life - two were with people I had known for awhile before becoming involved, and two were with people I had only just met. Neither situation really bothers me - whether I'm attracted to the person or not is the main key. I will note however, that all four relationships have been with guys who have completely different views, thoughts and stances to me though, so I guess I'm attracted to personalities that are dis-similar to my own. I do think it is important that amongst the differences though, there are some things you have in common, even if it's as basic as enjoying the same books, movies or music. If you disagree about absolutely everything, it can make things extremely difficult.
18 May 08
I do not know if this is a real answer-but I, myself, do not really "pick" who i prefer relationships with. I kind of just let things happen and if they do-well, you just see where it goes. If nothing happens than that is okay-but Im a staunch believer that if you look at something in a relationship like preferences it is doomed to fail-or fail on you, atleast.