Opposites attract or is it better to be similar?
May 17, 2008 10:27am CST
The ultimate question for lovers. Is it better to be similar, in the sense that you have similar interests and personalities or is it true that opposites attracts? Me and my boyfriend is very different, we are from different countries, different cultures, different upbringings and sometimes different values of what is important in life. This normally causes numerous of discussions in our house! How similar or opposite are you and your spouse? Does it work if you are to similar or to different? How do you make it work through your differences?
18 May 08
I truly think that you need to have some similar interests and share common goals to make a relationship last. My husband and I want similar things out of life and we do share common interests but we also have a lot of different hobbies and interests. I think there needs to be the right balance or similarities and differences. If you both have the exact same interests things won't get too exciting. When you both enjoy different things you can share that with the your spouse and be introduced to things you normally won't think of. I do really think that common goals are necessary though. I mean, you need to have your own personal goals but you also need to have something to work towards together.
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19 May 08
according to me, different/ similar interest doesn't matter in love.... there is only thing matter in love is understanding..... how much you understand your partner. some similar interest couple not so much good partner, bcoz, in this you think, if you like some think then your partner definitely like......but in the case of different interest couple, one think about the other likes......this is love............
19 May 08
You are right, understanding is a very important part of a relationship too! If you are very different it can still work if you have understanding and respect for each others differences. If you do not have that, I think it will probably not work very well! Thank you for your input!
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17 May 08
Me and my boyfriends are very different. They only personality traits we have in common is that our communication styles are the same as well as our sense of humor. I consider my boyfriend and I to be the ying yang, we balance each other out.
17 May 08
For me and my boyfriend, we have similar interest. We both took up computer science and has the love for computers and the internet. It's good for us that we both love the i.t. industry because we can understand each other and we can talk a lot of things.