Opposites attract or is it better to be similar?

@Emiese (994)
Sweden
May 17, 2008 10:27am CST
The ultimate question for lovers. Is it better to be similar, in the sense that you have similar interests and personalities or is it true that opposites attracts? Me and my boyfriend is very different, we are from different countries, different cultures, different upbringings and sometimes different values of what is important in life. This normally causes numerous of discussions in our house! How similar or opposite are you and your spouse? Does it work if you are to similar or to different? How do you make it work through your differences?
5 responses
@Corter (8)
• Australia
18 May 08
I truly think that you need to have some similar interests and share common goals to make a relationship last. My husband and I want similar things out of life and we do share common interests but we also have a lot of different hobbies and interests. I think there needs to be the right balance or similarities and differences. If you both have the exact same interests things won't get too exciting. When you both enjoy different things you can share that with the your spouse and be introduced to things you normally won't think of. I do really think that common goals are necessary though. I mean, you need to have your own personal goals but you also need to have something to work towards together.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
That was a very good answer I think! Different enough to have something new to show eachother and make eachother interested in, yet similar enough to be able to have common goals! Brilliant! Thank you!
19 May 08
according to me, different/ similar interest doesn't matter in love.... there is only thing matter in love is understanding..... how much you understand your partner. some similar interest couple not so much good partner, bcoz, in this you think, if you like some think then your partner definitely like......but in the case of different interest couple, one think about the other likes......this is love............
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
You are right, understanding is a very important part of a relationship too! If you are very different it can still work if you have understanding and respect for each others differences. If you do not have that, I think it will probably not work very well! Thank you for your input!
• Indonesia
19 May 08
yes.. we are different enough bout our opinion.. cos we also live in a different place and sircumtances.. sometimes we quarelling, sometimes amazed on him.. different is beautifull I think, make this life more colorful..
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
I agree with you on that, it certainly makes life more interesting!
• United States
17 May 08
Me and my boyfriends are very different. They only personality traits we have in common is that our communication styles are the same as well as our sense of humor. I consider my boyfriend and I to be the ying yang, we balance each other out.
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
17 May 08
Ying and Yang, that is a very interesting thought. I guess one have to take a step back and just leave the differences be, for it to work! I will see if I can take that way of thinking into my head too! Thank you!
• Philippines
17 May 08
For me and my boyfriend, we have similar interest. We both took up computer science and has the love for computers and the internet. It's good for us that we both love the i.t. industry because we can understand each other and we can talk a lot of things.
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
17 May 08
Sounds good, but don't you ever get sick of the topics for discussions around the dinner table? And, I guess you must have one computer each, for it to work :)