Borrowing things

@BYOLA2871 (4373)
South Africa
May 17, 2008 1:39pm CST
Now like I have said in some posts here before .i never have a problem with people borrowing money or certain items from me as long as I can be sure that you will either repay me or return the item after use. However, I have a problem when it comes to people borrowing my clothes .In fact I can never lend out a clothe or shoes I wear to anyone to wear at any point.dont see me as being intolerant but I just cant stand the idea of sharing clothes or shoes with anyone. Never will I also borrow any clothing from anyone .But would you oblige if your friend comes to borrow your favourite clothe from you? Do you think am being different or is it ok to stay the way I am?
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
17 May 08
We have different personality and attitude and I have known a lot of people who can afford to do it. Not me, when I ask someone to borrow it is the shoes or clothes that I don't like to use anymore and might end up giving to my friend. I can allow my sister to use my favorite shoes and clothes but not anyone else, but my sister also doesn't like the idea of borrowing, which is good thing!
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
18 May 08
I never like lending personal things like clothes and shoes to anyone, and probably never will. I do sometimes give away clothes that I don't wear anymore if they are still in very good condition. Other things I don't mind lending to good friends, including money if there is a genuine case of hardship. I see it as my means of helping someone in need. I feel though that it is best to be self-sufficient, and not to borrow from people as much as possible.
• United States
18 May 08
I agree lexus,I oftentimes allow also my friend to borrow some cash if I have extra and after one friend of mine keep on promising to pay and pay it off very late, I started to be choosy whom to help!
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
18 May 08
I don't mind people borrowing things and money from me as long as they give them back to me later. I don't mind lending people clothes. But as to shoes, I have to think about it. I don't feel comfortable with the idea that some others wear my shoes. It's just not that good. I think you are just ok to be you. Every one has preference. Besides, yours are quite normal.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
18 May 08
I do not have a problem with people borrowing things from me either as long as they repay me or return my items the same way the was before I lended them to them. I hate to lend things to people who do not repay or return my items in the same condition. I would never lend my clothes to anyone because I do not want to wear them after someone else wore them. I think it is opkay to be who you want to be and think the way you want to think.
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@sturner03 (326)
• United States
17 May 08
My sister does this to me all the time. I swear she only comes over to my hosue to steal my clothes. I say steal because I never see them again and it drives me CRAZY cuz i dont have alot to begin with. I don't think your being differant at all you never know if your going to get it back.
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• United States
17 May 08
I have issues with people borrowing money from me. I've actually stopped doing that because I can never be sure I'll actually get my money back. I don't care about my clothes actually, because I'm sure no one is too interested in wearing what I wear, so it's not a big deal to me.
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• United States
17 May 08
I'm that way with clothes also. Just because I've had people borrow some nice articles of clothing and never see them again. I'm a mom So I like my nice clothes and dont have them just to throw around like that. Same with shoes. So I dont do that anymore. So I dont think its you I think you've just learned your lesson and so did I.
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
17 May 08
I don't think there's anything wrong with the way that you feel. Clothing is something very personal...it's worn on your body...and some people feel more strongly than others about the possibility of any kind of transfer. Myself, if I loan an article of clothing to someone, which is usually one of my grown daughters, I have to wash it myself before wearing it again even if she tells me it's beeen washed. So, don't sweat it...pun intended. ;-)
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@TrinaD72 (47)
18 May 08
Its okay to stay the way you are. I wouldn't let my friends borrow my clothes, i'd think they'd mess them up or something. ANd fr hygiene proposes, i wouldn't know what they do with who etc so i'd find it disguting if they wore my clothes. You should stay the way you are theres nothing wrongto not lend out your clothes.
• United States
18 May 08
I don't loan out anything I can't afford to lose. I established that rule in my life after I loaned a favorite book to an absolutely responsible and trustworthy friend. But there are no guarantees in life, and her circumstances changed and she ended up going through a rough divorce, and in the process my book was lost. If I loan somebody 20 bucks and they don't pay it back, it's no big deal, but if I loan somebody 2000 bucks, and they don't pay it back, that might have a different effect on me. As for clothes, hehehe, I don't know that anybody would want to borrow any of my clothes. I know I certainly don't borrow any body else's.
• United States
18 May 08
I don't really like people borrowing clothes or shoes from me, either. I also feel it's a personal thing to wear someone else's clothes. I hear, though, that this is a common practice among sisters who are the same size. So, they might not have a problem with it. I'm lucky, though, I'm an unusual size compared to most people. I'm really tall and I'm fairly thin, but not rail thin. So, if they are an average height and a size 6, then they wouldn't like my clothes anyway. Besides, I don't really have any clothing styles that other people would like.