Do you believe in friendship at first sight? Or with first discussion!!

I want to be your friend - A first meeting can bring about instant friendship
@gemini_rose (16194)
May 17, 2008 6:11pm CST
We have all heard of "Love at first sight" but can the same be said of friendship? I think so, over the years I have formed many friendships based solely on first meeting a person who will become a potential friend, it is like I pick up on a vibe of that person, something that speaks out to me and says "she is a nice person, make friends". Unfortuanately on most occasions I was wrong, but that is many other stories!! I may tell you them one day!! But like on here, I can tell with just a few discussions that I want to be friends with that person, something about them just catches me and makes me think that we have a lot in common or that I feel that I could be friends with them, and through this I have made some good friends already. How about you? Do you believe in friendship at first sight or first discussion? Do you pick up on something in a person that makes you instantly feel that you could become good friends straightaway?
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18 responses
• Bahamas
18 May 08
I've made friends by having one conversation. I can tell alot about a person by what they say,sometimes you can get a good idea about a persons chracter by how they view things.I've also made friends here by their discussions and responses to discussions and i haven't been disappointed yet.My mom use to say the tongue is a powerful thing, i believe that the tongue can make or break friendships.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
Oh yes the tongue is definately a powerful weapon!! Your Mum is right.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
18 May 08
I think I probably would not make friends with a person at the first sight. At least I need some talk with that person so that I can feel who he/she really is. I believe that I have some kind of instinct about a person. After being through that much, I am sure everyone has his/her ability to tell who is that kind of people to be his/her friend.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
I know what you mean by instinct, I have an instinct about someone just by looking at them, thanks for your response.
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@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
17 May 08
Hi There! I would like to say that I do believe in friendship at first sight but in truth I am not so sure of that. Like anything, I tend to feel out a situation for a while first before I make any decisions. I guess it is the result of being burnt before. I do find I make online friends easier than in "real life" though. Go figure. :) cheers,
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@mummymo (23709)
18 May 08
Yep I am a definite believer! I know that some of the best friends I have made here have been made very quickly and quite often the first discussion has made me realise that there is some kind of spark or chemistry there! I don't quite know how we feel that but there you go - it is a mystery! lol xxx
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
Yes it is a bit of a mystery, I like it though!!
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@mummymo (23709)
18 May 08
Me too sweetheart - Isn't it wonderful! xxx
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
18 May 08
I agree with that gemini. In person, I have met this lady in a 1 day seminar, after that we exchance yahoo messenger and even if we are far from each other this time, we are finding time to call each other and txt, when I talk to her, I felt like we have been friends for many many years. We have so much in common and she is also sincere so it's not hard to relate!
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
That is really nice, you have a good friend based on one meeting. I have met many people like that, it is good that she is sincere, it is good to have friends.
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• United States
18 May 08
I agree. It is really amazing to meet good people in short span of time and after that, friendship will continue!
@shooie (4989)
• United States
18 May 08
I believe a person can become friends after first discussion and or meeting. Sometimes my husband knows before me that am gunna be friends with certain people. It's just a vibe thing. Have been hurt in the past online but hey can't judge everyone by a couple bad eggs. smiles
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
You are right, for a lot of people it is a vibe thing. I too have been hurt a lot in the past, but we always come across bad eggs!!
@jer31558 (3684)
• United States
18 May 08
First let me say that I believe that you can be friends with someone right from the start. Here in mylot, I have different reasons for the friends that I choose, or choose to accept as a friend. In your case it was your avatar, which not only do I find it to be breathtakingly beautiful, but also seemed to draw me to it. I am glad of that decision because I enjoy both the discussions you post and the responses and comments you make.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
Thank you so much, that is a really touching thing to say and I am really happy that we are friends. I am glad that you like my avatar, I seem to be drawn to wolves just lately they are a beautiful creature. Something that I never noticed before joining here. I enjoy responding to your discussions!!
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@ynigz1 (472)
• China
18 May 08
I don't belive friendship by at the first sight. I belive friendship need time to biuld up. with first discussion, we could we have similar interests and biuld a friendship at first.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
18 May 08
Yes I do but I hold back a while just to make double sure What are you still doing up at least I have an Excuse to be up still You where one of the People here I did not hold back on I don't why with some People here I connected straight away Hugs xxxxx
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@kingcrapper (1538)
• United States
17 May 08
I think this is a neat concept. I can tell you a story of the best friend I have! He was actually my boss' boss! I teach for a living and was employed at a charter school and come to find out my boss' boss' child was to be in my class! Talk about pressure! During the Christmas party a bunch of people came back to my house and he ended up passing out there. Hmm. Even more pressure. To make a long story short we became the best of friends and traveled to many places together. He told me several times that there was something about me that made him want to be friends with. Friends at first site. Yep, I will vote 'yes' just from this experience alone.
@ellie333 (21029)
17 May 08
Hi Gemini-rose, yes I do but unlike you I have only ever been wrong a few times and been hurt terribly by the betrayal. I know instantly usually, gut feeling, intuition whatever one wants to name it in real life and on here. In fact if your remember I was quite surpised that you are I were'nt friends when I went to PM you as we had participated in so many mutual discussions. If we lived nearer I think we would be quite close friends. I have some fantastic frineds on here who have even picked up on when I haven't been my usual self in responses and PM me to see if I was ok and that was lovely. A prime example of knowing instantly was my next door neighbour when I first moved in. She popped a welcome to your new home card through the door and I immediately felt the warmth from her and we have been firm friends ever since. Ellie :D
@Hatley (162214)
• Garden Grove, California
18 May 08
I think I really do as I have felt kinship with you and about a dozen others of my friends just from the first few discussions of yours and others that I read. there is so much warmth and compassion coming from my friends that its hard not to feel a friendship with them and it did not seem to take that long for me to feel that they were my friends. In real life I take a little longer but not a whole lot to recognize a real friend.
@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
I felt the same too Hatley when I first met you, I have with a few others too. I love my circle of friends on here, real life is not as cosy though ah?!!
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
18 May 08
I believe in frienship at first site here at Mylot sometimes but not all of the time. I will request someone here to be my friend if I respond to their discussions. I never believed in friendship at first site in my real life until here recently though. I have a very nice neighbor but we had never spoke until here recently. She was backwards and so was I but I met her today and she is a friendly lady and I like her. I think she likes me for a friend too.
@gemini_rose (16194)
18 May 08
That is nice, having a friendly neighbour is a nice thing.
@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
23 May 08
Hi there. Yes, I do get these feelings but I am wrong. Yje feelings are never reciprocated. Or, people SAY they think we are friends but the reality is far different. I just don't fall for these things anymore. Friends elude me.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
20 May 08
I know I have in the past and also on mylot. I can tell too through their discussions what type of person they might be or someone that I might be willing to get to know. Sometimes it doesn't happen instantly and it takes a while to form a friendship, which is ok too.
@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
19 May 08
Yes, I do believe on that. Just a year ago I met someone inside an airplane, yes, we were seatmate ans she was with her friend. I dont know who started the talk but while travelling we talked and talked. The usual thing, why on travel, where working, family, the address and many more. We were about to go home to our country, she on personal travel and me on a seminar. I dont know but it seems we knew each other way back. She lives 10 hours ride from the city where I lived. when we parted we say we will be friends and we will call. The following day I texted her, she responded. I called her up and she responded also. From there on we were textmate, and everytime she comes to the city we will meet each other. Ive been to her place last year and she usually comes to the city. We are the best of friends right now. As to friendship here at mylot I would say I have some friends already whom I can relate also. I hope i can have as many friends as you do have.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
19 May 08
I have made many new friendships with someone on the first meeting.. Some have worked out and some haven't.. Some I have even wished that I had never met that first time and some are still close friends.. I imagine you can meet someone and be friends from the first, but I like to cultivate friendships, as so many things can go wrong, so I do like to go slow and not just automatically take up with someone after one meeting. I have had a few friends who have been in my life for quite a few years, but they were friendships that matured over time..
• United States
18 May 08
Yes. Because it happened to me. We met. We spoke. We were playing together in under three seconds. Of course, at the time I was eight and he was six. But, I rarely spoke to anyone. I knew that we had some weird type of connection. I could feel it. It felt like we have known each other for years. I guess falling would kind of be like that too. Instant connection.